
07/25/2025
This question is on the minds of lots of rising college freshman (and their parents).
There is definitely not a one-size-fits-all answer to this question.
The best way to make this tough decision is for the couple to talk about what they see for the future of their relationship.
College is a time for more independence, figuring out who you are, and meeting new people. The transition from high school to college can stir up lots of mixed feelings - everything from nervous to excited. With so much uncertainty on the horizon, some might feel that holding on to their high school crush might make the transition easier and give them a sense of comfort.
Consider these few things when deciding to stay together or break up:
⁉️Are you both on the same page about what you want?
⁉️Are you both “all in” on this decision?
⁉️Are you staying together out of love or fear (or because you’re scared of change)?
⁉️Will staying together prevent either of you from exploring your newfound independence, making new friends and going to parties?
⁉️What is the reality about what YOUR long distance relationships will look like?
⁉️How has your relationship handled “space” in the past (does it make either of you jealous, insecure, or possessive)?
⁉️Are you supportive of each other’s freedom and independence?
⁉️Are you staying together to avoid upsetting your BF/GF?
⁉️Do you feel pressured to break up (or stay together) because your friends and parents are telling you that’s what you should do?
⁉️Are either of you afraid of change?
Lots to think about! 🤦🏻♀️
What’s most important is to be able to have an open and honest conversation with your BF/GF (and yourself). Listen to your partner‘s point of view (and the little voice in your head) so you can decide what’s best for your unique relationship.
If you’re meant to be together, your time apart will make the path forward more clear.