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It’s really hard to know who you are if you received messages telling you that you’re too much or not enough. When we le...
20/08/2025

It’s really hard to know who you are if you received messages telling you that you’re too much or not enough. When we learn that parts of us aren’t desirable, or that we’re lacking something someone thinks we should have, we come to see ourselves as not good, or unworthy, or unlovable.

If trauma took up residence inside of us before a true Self was formed, then we might feel like we don’t know who we are or who we’re becoming as we embark on our healing journey.

Meeting yourself will be the very best part.

As you are able, learn a little more about yourself each day. Experiment. Try something new. Allow yourself to be curious and interested. And then, when you feel ready, allow someone else to see you too.

The pain of your past doesn’t have to exist at the same magnitude in your present.

To those of you coming to know yourself a little more each day, I see you.

(IC: Slide 1: Perhaps the people who struggle the most with self-acceptance are those who were conditioned to believe that they were too much and not enough, all at the same time; Slide 2: Self-acceptance can feel hard to come by if you haven’t felt accepted by those around you; Slide 3: Worrying that we’re too much, and also not good enough at the same time feels like internal chaos, and keeps us from showing up authentically with others; Slide 4: If we believe we have to keep others satisfied in order to stay safe, we’re likely to feel completely disconnected from our authentic self; Slide 5: Self-acceptance is a process of allowing all of you to exist without judgement. It’s a love language that sounds like, “I accept me as I am, not as others want me to be”; Slide 6: Allowing yourself to be enough for yourself, is crucial for your healing; Slide 7: Letting others go find less when you’re too much for them, is key for healthy relationships; Slide 8: We have to allow our truest self to show if we want to see who should stay and who should go; Slide 9: Start with being okay enough for yourself and see what shifts)

We don’t need to compare our pain to someone else’s to decide if it counts. We don’t need to evaluate our past through a...
19/08/2025

We don’t need to compare our pain to someone else’s to decide if it counts. We don’t need to evaluate our past through a critical lens. We don’t need to minimize our own experience just because someone else had it worse.

Dear ones, someone may always have it worse. And we should care about our own suffering and the suffering of others.

Comparison actually leads to minimizing the experience of collective trauma that we are all enduring. When we dismiss our pain as ‘not enough’ we are essentially rank ordering our humanity. We are deciding that only some of us are allowed to name our pain. We are asserting that there is one definition of trauma.

And remember, trauma is truth to the nervous system. It is highly individualized. It is personal. It exists whether other people see it or not.

Let your truth stand on its own. Let your pain count. Let other people’s stories exist, fully separate from your own.

To those of you learning to validate yourself and others, I see you.

(IC: IDK who needs to hear this, but you didn’t need to have the worst childhood in the world for your trauma to count)

The body will remember what the brain needs to forget in order to survive.To those of you who are learning to trust the ...
18/08/2025

The body will remember what the brain needs to forget in order to survive.

To those of you who are learning to trust the messages and cues of your body, I see you.

(IC: Slide 1: Don’t be surprised if your body holds a story that your brain is unaware of; Slide 2: Our bodies are our first storytellers; Slide 3: Before formal thought and language is formed, our bodies are learning how to assess and respond to threat, rupture, and a real or perceived lack of safety)

I know this is a common thing for people to say, especially when they are first meeting someone. I’ve heard it time and ...
13/08/2025

I know this is a common thing for people to say, especially when they are first meeting someone. I’ve heard it time and time again, “I’m an open book, ask me anything,” and while I believe people think this is an inviting statement, to me, it’s a concerning one.

We want to be open and available, sure, but when we imply that anything is up for grabs, we aren’t exactly demonstrating good boundaries. Upon meeting someone, they aren’t automatically entitled to all of us- we need to be discerning in who we are sharing various parts of ourselves with, and at what pace and interval.

Likewise, this might be a cover up. Someone may believe they are sharing vulnerably because they freely share parts of themselves with others, although this could be a distraction tactic. They could be sharing about certain parts of them or particular details of their life in a way that appears open so that you don’t question what they aren’t sharing.

You see dear ones, we need to approach relationships with intention. We aren’t going to create real, true, lasting intimacy if you allow all of us to be up for grabs, or if we only share the parts of ourselves that have been well-rehearsed.
I’m here for that titrated vulnerability. I’m all about getting to know each other a little more each day. I want each person to check in with themselves before they share something intimate with someone else.

You with me?

To those of you longing for connection that is safe, measured, and appropriately vulnerable, I see you.

To those of you learning to be with yourself while you create safety and security with others, I see you.(IC: Slide 1: I...
11/08/2025

To those of you learning to be with yourself while you create safety and security with others, I see you.

(IC: Slide 1: It makes sense to feel internal activation when a peer does something that reminds you of a childhood wound; Slide 2: Tending to your wounds is important, and letting your peer know that you’re feeling activated or triggered can help to strengthen the relationship; Slide 3: However, if we feel activated by our past, and take it out on people in the present, we are setting the current relationship up for failure; Slide 4: Nuance in healing looks like: I am activated, but I am not in danger; Slide 5: Nuance in healing looks like: I am fearful, but I am not actively being threatened; Slide 6: Nuance in healing looks like: This situation reminds me of the past, but I am not currently in the past; Slide 7: Nuance in healing looks like: This person has done something that triggered me, but they didn’t intend to cause me harm. This means that feedback may be more appropriate than distance.; Slide 8: Every chance you get, look for the ways you are relatively safe and in the presence of someone who desires to cause you no harm; Slide 9: Acknowledge your activation without taking it out on the people who are trying to love you. This is how we build safety with ourselves and with others.)

Dear ones, none of us are out here hating ourselves whole.To those of you who are ready to thank yourselves for survivin...
05/08/2025

Dear ones, none of us are out here hating ourselves whole.

To those of you who are ready to thank yourselves for surviving something you should have never had to endure, I see you.

(IC: slide 1: Your healing will require you to give yourself some freaking credit for all you have endured, and all of the creative ways you survived; Slide 2: Shaming yourself isn’t going to lead to the changes and relationships you’re really longing for; Slide 3: You can’t hate yourself whole)

Y’all, sometimes the pep talk is for both of us.To those of you learning to let people exist in the reality of their own...
31/07/2025

Y’all, sometimes the pep talk is for both of us.

To those of you learning to let people exist in the reality of their own making, I see you.

(IC: Slide 1: You can do ‘everything right’ and there will still be people who look to find what you’re doing wrong; Slide 2: Negative people aren’t usually capable of seeing the positive in others; Slide 3: You can do ‘everything right’ and there will still be people who look to find what you’re doing wrong; Slide 4: Your feelings are valid if you feel wounded when someone who *should* see you, doesn’t; Slide 5: We can’t wait around for someone to see something they are determined to overlook; Slide 6: We simply will not be able to change someone’s mind about us if they are committed to their perspective; Slide 7: No one is for everyone, and sometimes we clash with people because their perspective doesn’t align with ours- this isn’t a sign to try harder, it is a sign to honor yourself; Slide 8: The both/and of healing is: I wish they could see the good in me, and I won’t waste one more second of this precious life on someone who chooses to see a limited, incomplete version of who I really am.)

Trauma-informed therapy helps clients to establish a trauma-informed life.Therapists, do you want to help support your c...
25/07/2025

Trauma-informed therapy helps clients to establish a trauma-informed life.

Therapists, do you want to help support your clients who are showing up to therapy with increased rumination, fear, and compensatory behaviors?

Join Dr. Brittany Escuriex, SEP as she leads you through a somatic-informed approach to understanding and working with OCD.

Many clients feel shame over their intrusive thoughts, compulsions, or rigid patterns. And traditional approaches can sometimes leave them feeling retraumatized.

This training is for therapists who want to help clients move toward relief without abandoning gentleness, attunement, or body wisdom.

You’ll leave with practical tools, a compassionate lens, and a clearer sense of how to support clients who are struggling—but afraid of what therapy might ask of them.

Join us August 8 from 9am – 12pm CST. Can’t attend live, no problem! Everyone who registers will receive a recording of the training.

✨ Register at the link in bio or check out my website to learn more!

To the therapists who are supporting their clients in creative and affirming ways, I see you.

(IC: Exposure without attunement can overload a nervous system that’s already hypervigilant)

I mean, I’m sure the goal isn’t *actually* to be helpful, but then, why say it?Also, this isn’t a proven scientific fact...
24/07/2025

I mean, I’m sure the goal isn’t *actually* to be helpful, but then, why say it?

Also, this isn’t a proven scientific fact, but I feel pretty confident that these would be the findings.

Raise your hand if you’ve been told you were too sensitive. 🙋‍♀️

To all of you with beautiful, sensitive hearts, I see you.

(IC: I don’t know who needs to hear this, but calling someone “too sensitive” has helped zero people be less sensitive)

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