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Growing older has not made me perfect, but it has made me softer in places I used to believe needed more pressure.I no l...
05/28/2026

Growing older has not made me perfect, but it has made me softer in places I used to believe needed more pressure.

I no longer want to build a life that requires me to disrespect myself in order to feel worthy of it.

To those of you trying to meet younger versions of yourself with more tenderness than they knew how to offer themselves, I see you.

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. Take some time with this one y’all- it’s a lot to process.To those of you yearning to ...
05/27/2026

Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk. Take some time with this one y’all- it’s a lot to process.

To those of you yearning to be seen by the very people who have never seen you, I see you.

Some of the most life-changing things I have learned have not required more discipline, more productivity, or more optim...
05/26/2026

Some of the most life-changing things I have learned have not required more discipline, more productivity, or more optimization.

They have required more honesty.

More softness.

More willingness to stay with myself when judgment, grief, anger, fear, or uncertainty shows up.

There was a time when I thought healing meant becoming someone who was always calm, always wise, always regulated, always above the mess of being human.

Now, I know it has much more to do with learning how to be with myself in the middle of my own humanness.

To speak to myself with respect.

To let myself cry.

To stop pursuing closeness with people committed to misunderstanding me.

To share and receive feedback without collapsing.

To show up vulnerably, even when there is no guarantee it will be met in the way I hope.

These practices cost nothing, but the payoff has been really instrumental in my healing.

Little by little, so much has changed, and so much more of me feels safe to exist.

To those of you working to feel safer with yourselves in the moments you used to abandon yourselves, I see you.

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how easy it might feel to wait until we’re 'okay' before we let ourselves be seen...
05/25/2026

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how easy it might feel to wait until we’re 'okay' before we let ourselves be seen. We may be so unused to letting people in that we don't even know what or how to share. We might have some awareness that we're holding back, and we may tell ourselves that we'll share later, when we have more clarity, more distance, or more resolution.

And for some of us, we may find it easier to share everything, all the time, and maybe all at once. We may struggle to know when to hold back, or how to just share parts of ourselves, our pasts, and our stories. We may have a sense that we need to be titrated in our sharing with others, especially with those who are newer to our lives, yet we may experience our own flooding when we tend to our own stories, thus making it hard to share about ourselves in smaller pieces.

Recently, I've found myself deeply in the middle of something in my own life, which for me would historically mean holding on to it tightly until I was on the other side- ready to share from the safety of my own outcome or solution.
Instead, I chose to share a little about my experience in real time. It wasn't everything and it wasn't without boundaries. I practiced sharing in a way that felt both comfortable and risky. I practiced a form of titrated vulnerability that allowed my humanity to show, while still tending to my desire to protect myself and my story.

Here's what I noticed: When I shared part of myself with you all, not only did I soften, but you softened to me. I felt even more connected to myself because I wasn't hiding the aching parts of me while I presented differently online. I essentially said, "I'm going through something and here are my boundaries around how you engage with me about it. And I'm still here and I'll still share with you, but you should know, there is more to me than just what you see."
And dear ones, isn't this true for all of us? Aren't we all so much more than just what other people can see?

To those of you learning how to share parts of yourself so that your whole self can feel safe within you, I see you.

Decided to make this permanent, since it resonated with so many of you. Thank you for all of your responses, care, and t...
05/24/2026

Decided to make this permanent, since it resonated with so many of you. Thank you for all of your responses, care, and thoughtful feedback.

To those of you showing up authentically, grief and all, I see you.

Originally shared in stories on May 22, 2026.

05/22/2026

If you are here, I hope this space feels like an exhale.

A place where healing does not have to mean bypassing your body, abandoning your pace, or forcing yourself into a version of growth that was never built for your nervous system.

Healing differently means we can hold nuance.

We can honor the survival strategies that helped us make it here.

We can talk about trauma without reducing it to a buzzword.

We can create room for slowness, grief, anger, tenderness, boundaries, and the parts of us that are still learning safety.

If you are a complex trauma survivor, a cycle breaker, a therapist, a helper, or someone trying to understand why healing has felt so much more complicated than “just let it go,” you are welcome here.

Follow along for trauma-informed reflections, nervous system education, and reminders that your healing does not have to be rushed to be real.

To those of you trying to heal differently in a world that keeps asking you to heal quickly, I see you.

05/21/2026

Healing practices are called that for a reason. What you, your body, and your nervous system needs will be different than what someone else is needing in order to heal.

And yet, we can begin trying on various somatic exercises to see how our body responds. We can get curious about what works for us and what doesn't. We can begin to notice any instances of non-threat that exist all around us, and by doing so, we will naturally slow down and be more present.

Every moment you practice being right-here-right-now, you are doing exactly what you need to do to break the pattern of urgency that exists in your body.

To those of you learning how to slow down so you can be in this moment, I see you.

05/20/2026

Healing doesn’t always look like leaning in or movement towards others. Sometimes it looks like slowing down enough to evaluate your surroundings and your relationships, so as not to override yourself in the process of staying connected.

Not everyone will understand your healing, and the boundary shifts you may need to make when you are establishing safer, healthier connections. This will be especially true for those who have benefitted from a less boundaried version of you, or who found it easier to be in relationship with you when you moved faster, gave them quicker access, or needed less from them (and yourself).

Healthy relationships are all about nuance, and as we heal our relationship with ourselves we are likely to gain clarity on which relationships have been yearning for more of us to be present, and which ones can't tolerate us being our fullest selves.

As your capacity changes, so do you. And as you heal, so do your relational expectations.

To those of you trying to honor yourselves and your relational needs, without continuously making everything easier for others, I see you.

Emotional neglect is complex because it’s hard for others, and even sometimes ourselves, to clearly name and identify pa...
05/19/2026

Emotional neglect is complex because it’s hard for others, and even sometimes ourselves, to clearly name and identify pain that doesn’t overtly look like the idea of trauma that many of us are familiar with.

In fact, emotional neglect often goes unnamed until we see or feel someone show up in an attuned way, either for us or for someone else. It is often the case that emotional neglect doesn't begin to become clear to us until we see first hand how things could have been, what we should have experienced, or what an emotionally available person looks like.

Dear ones, trauma is truth to the nervous system, and your body knows the story. Even if the exact examples feel difficult to identify, it is important for you to honor and acknowledge your experiences.

To those of you honoring, naming, and believing yourselves and your experiences, I see you.

When someone experiences something traumatic and shares their pain with someone who is attuned to them, believes them, a...
05/16/2026

When someone experiences something traumatic and shares their pain with someone who is attuned to them, believes them, and honors that their experience is real, their sense of safety both within themselves and with others improves. When someone experiences something traumatic and shares their pain with someone who dismisses them, minimizes their pain, and discounts their experiences, they may be likely to experience more trauma responses, increased pain, and a lack of safety with others and within themselves.

Only we can decide what is traumatic for us. Only we know the way pain feels inside of our body. Only we get to name what we’ve endured. So our best bet for overall well-being is to believe that people know their own experience. Believe that something might not seem like trauma but might still feel traumatic to someone else. Believe that the impact of trauma can vary person to person. Believe that acceptance of someone who is hurting is far more supportive than dismissing them over things we can’t understand.

Dear survivors, I believe you. Your story is valid. You are real. Your pain is yours to name.

To those of you who have been dismissed, minimized, or rejected after sharing your trauma story with someone, I see you.

Not all harm is immediately recognizable. Not all caregivers are emotionally present. Not all pain is about what we expe...
05/15/2026

Not all harm is immediately recognizable. Not all caregivers are emotionally present. Not all pain is about what we experienced.

Sometimes the greatest pain we’ve endured is more about what we didn’t get, the love we couldn’t count on, the loneliness we felt as we came to realize we had to secure our safety all on our own.

To those of you who endured emotional neglect while you experienced emotional abuse, I see you.

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