Come Help Another Notice Greatness Emerge -Change (2025)

03/01/2024

Sometimes, it doesn’t seem possible to be strong. Ones’ outward strength is not to what I am referring. We may not have any outward strength to display. That is okay. It is ones’ inner strength I am referencing. It may need a rest but is stronger than one might think. There is often a reserve we are unable to see.

A young woman has some definite ideas as to how to ensure a positive work environment. Her present one feels completely dysfunctional. No one listens to any of her ideas. The supervisor makes the rules and there is no exchange of ideas. She stays alert to finding another position.

A woman loves the field of marine biology. She is told that she is too old to master the studies involved. She enrolls in the program anyway. She studies hard and meets her goals. Her strength and perseverance pull her through.

A third woman becomes Ill. Her doctor is very concerned. She follows his instructions and keeps her spirits high. She maintains her strength spiritually and emotionally. It takes time but she heals and well. She uses a degree of strength she never knew she had. She equates her strength with a lifeline. She uses it all and it fares her well.

How would you describe your strength?
Do you believe in your capabilities?
Would you equate your strength with a lifeline?
Please share your thoughts!

18/12/2023

A task may initially seem that it can be accomplished in a short period of time. That is not always the case. It is a good idea to allow extra time should it prove necessary. This may reduce the stress one feels. It also may allow time for a change of thought.

A girl is planning a surprise party for a friend. She has many plans for decorations and entertainment. She is trying to cheer her friend up who has been having a hard time. Her helpers back out at the last minute. She panics and some things have to remain undone. “ If only I had more time, “ she says.

A woman is presenting an important research paper. She has a large audience and sees her results as quite important. She allows time to present and to answer questions. Her preparation is thorough and she is very pleased with the outcome. Her paper is well-received.

A third woman misjudges a situation. She goes into it with no real idea what to expect. She has an initial evaluation with a physician and plans on a half hour visit. Her situation is tricky and the doctor allows extra time. Her entire day is thrown off as a result. She wishes she had kept her schedule more open. There is no way she could have known how long her appointment would take.

Do you schedule your time too tight ?
Do you think appointments out carefully ?
Do you have limited time so you do the best you can?
Please share if you would like!

24/11/2023

To “ surrender “ is to agree to stop fighting or resisting because you know you will not win or succeed. A synonym might be to relinquish control or to yield. The implication is that a further discussion or argument will not accomplish anything. “Surrendering“ may be a wise decision.

A 30 year old woman strived to be the greatest wife. She did everything she could do to support her spouse. It felt like it was never enough. She finally “ surrendered “as she felt she could not succeed. She ended the marriage.

A woman invited a newcomer to join her friend group. It felt like a disaster from the start. The newcomer criticized the other women and missed more events than she attended. She had tried but received no reciprocity from this woman. She saw no way she could succeed. She would invite someone else if she found a better fit.

A third woman worked hard at her job and strove for a higher level position. No matter what she did, she was not promoted. She felt it was an act of discrimination. She was proved correct when the position was given to someone with little experience. She “surrendered “ and left the company.

Many view “ surrendering “ as giving up! They feel they are “ running “ from a situation they should face. Actually, to “surrender “ is to make a decision as to whether success could be a result. If not, why fight a losing battle?

Do you see “ surrendering “ in a negative sense?
Have you ever felt really smart about a decision “ to surrender? “
Would you be willing to share?

20/11/2023

This is my way of keeping to the rhythm of one’s life. A metronome is used by musicians to keep a desired pace. A steady beat is set and the instrument ticks. Playing the piano, I was taught the importance of a metronome. I feel that it could also symbolize the importance of following a rhythm in our daily life. As it ticks, we also go about our daily business. Do we follow a beat when we do? Would following a certain beat prove beneficial?

A young woman feels overwhelmed. She lacks purpose in her life. She wants to develop a plan but cannot decide on one. Her Pastor tries to help her find her path. She hopes that this will set a direction she can follow.

A mother feels she has no time to herself. She is either working at her job or at her home responsibilities. She has little fun and searches for a steady rhythm. Perhaps she could find an activity she would enjoy. Then, she could incorporate it into her life and it’s “ click “ may become a steady joy.

A third woman longed for a real relationship with her adult children. She was depressed as a result of a lack of one. She decided that she would host a dinner on Friday nights and invite her children and their families. She hoped that this would create a steady beat and tradition which would bring her family closer.

Do you play an instrument of some kind?
Do you do so with the help of a metronome?
Do you see the connection between a metronome for musical beat and for the “ beat of life? “
Please share your thoughts!

16/11/2023

Sometimes, one is given news that is very difficult to hear. It is also rather treacherous to experience what that news entails. Steps are a good way of coping. It is a good way to attempt to slow down and try not to deal with so much at the same time. The mind cannot focus on an excess of painful issues at one time. Let me share some examples.

A young woman has just been told that her mother is quite ill. She will need extensive nursing care and it will cost a great deal of money. Her daughter was overwhelmed. She saw a counselor and things were mapped out little by little. She was able to get her mother insurance and the insurance help she needed.

Another woman discovered a strange looking spot on her arm. She watched it but took no action as she felt fine. When she finally went to the doctor, it required real treatment. She responded but might have responded sooner. The doctor explained that she should be seen more often. She told him that she was very busy but he wasn’t happy at all.

A third woman felt bullied at her work. She was fearful of the person who was bullying her. She spoke with her boss who said that she was mistaken. That person wouldn’t bully anyone. She resigned from her Job shortly thereafter. She wouldn’t work at a job where she received absolutely no support.

The way one responds to any situation is quite important. The outcome may well be based on one’s response!!

Have you been pleased with your responses?
On what criteria, do you base your response?

14/11/2023

This is a loaded question? Let’s first talk about what the word, “ Hatred “ truly means. Hatred is defined as an intense dislike. It may be a mutual resentment coming from racial hostility or animosity. Some refer to It as disgust or abomination. Hatred is associated with emotions including anger, shame and fear.

Hatred may be a learned response originating in external influences. It is a deep psychological response to feeling trapped or one’s inability to understand certain sociological phenomena. Hatred actually changes the chemistry in the brain and stimulates the pre-motor cortex. This, in turn, brings on thoughts of planning and executing motion. This may bring on thoughts of aggression as in attacking or defending.

A high school student tried out for a sports team. She was told for years that she excelled in soccer. She wasn’t chosen and was shocked. When she asked the coach about it, she had little to say. The student felt it was discrimination. She had thoughts of physically hurting the coach.

A woman was shunned suddenly by her friend group. She was excluded from all events. She found out later that a few of the spouses had a nasty disagreement and it had trickled down to their wives. She pleaded her case with great resentment. She felt even a sense of hatred that this was the way she was being treated by her friends.

A third woman was terminated from her job weeks before she was due a promotion. She had recently received a glowing review. It made no sense at all. She confronted her Supervisor and was told that it was a company decision. She entertained the thought of an aggressive act but wasn’t sure it would be smart!

Feelings of “ Hatred “ originate from wrong doing. It is a matter of degree and the impact an act may have! The intensity of the feeling and the built up resentment may determine one’s response!

Have you felt “ Hatred “ toward anyone or toward an event in your life?
Do you feel you handled it well?
Would you like to share some of your feelings?

02/11/2023

Most of the time, this question remains unanswered. It is a Journey and it will have many twists and turns. Success is a journey and not a destination. There will likely be ups and downs, curves, highs and lows,etc. There will be times when traveling in one direction seems better than another. Other times, you may have no idea which road to take. This is all okay.

A young woman had always aspired to become an actress. She had starred in her theatre class and did very well. She signed up for an acting program and held her own. However, she met others who seemed more talented and became discouraged. Was she headed for success? It would be determined by her journey.

A woman was convinced she could help her eleven year old daughter in her pursuit for better vision. She had her evaluated by a renowned ophthalmologist. She may require several procedures due to the complexity of the problem. There is no guarantee of success. The journey will determine this.

A third woman planned a vacation which entails flying to Europe. She is concerned about flying due to the uncertainty of the world. She has been looking forward to going and has made many arrangements so this could happen. Many of her friends have weighed in but only she can decide. Following much thought, she decides to postpone her trip. She isn’t sure she feels safe.

Everyone makes tough decisions in the course of their life. When we look for a definite answer, we often become stuck. Perhaps the best idea is to give each one careful thought and make a decision. From there the journey begins! Time will only tell how the journey ends.

Do you agree with this approach?
Are you able to take a chance?
Does looking for the end get in your way?

31/10/2023

The answer to this will vary from person to person. Many refer to Peace as a state of Harmony, Stability or Tranquility. Some might define it as Lack of War. Others think about it in reference to their mental state as in: Peace of Mind. When we refer to “ Peace of Mind, “ we may be thinking about calmness and lack of worry.

A 25 year old woman felt torn between her relatives. Those who did not like one another wanted her to take sides. She had difficulty dealing with this as none of them had wronged her. She was her own person and wanted to stay this way. Her peace would come from their respect and her not feeling she had to choose.

A 50 year old woman received a life threatening diagnosis. She was afraid and rightfully so. Her doctors told her that she would be okay. She tried but didn’t understand how they could know this. As years passed without a recurrence, she started to regain some stability. She found some degree of Peace in her good test results.

A third woman is presently without a feeling of Peace. As long as there is war and horrific violence in the world, she is unable to relax. Sometimes, she even finds it difficult to breathe. She feels the pain of others and experiences no joy herself. She states that any positive emotion makes her experience guilt.

Peace is a very personal feeling. No two people will emote exactly the same. There may be similarities but there will also be differences.

Have you found Peace in your life?
What does that mean for you?
Is the feeling lasting?

27/10/2023

This is truly a good question. With all the horrors in the world, this may not be an easy question to answer. Being thankful has so many dimensions. One may be thankful for life alone. That is a huge reason for thankfulness. Another may be thankful for her health as without it, what is there? Another may be thankful for her ability to put food on the table.

A young working woman is thankful for being given the opportunity to be promoted at her work. She will receive a raise and be more challenged. She has felt that she has not worked up to her potential for a while.

She had considered leaving her job before this occurred Another woman had lost touch with her adult son. She was depressed and didn’t understand what had caused their rift. She reached out innumerable times but with no success. She finally asked him to go to therapy with her. They were able to discuss their feelings and find a middle ground. She was more than thankful to have her beloved son back in her life.

A third high school girl saw herself as a poor student. She couldn’t keep up with her classmates. She was tested and was diagnosed with a developmental delay. She was thus eligible for more time to do her work. This turned out to be the key to her problem. She began to raise her grades and feel much better about herself. She was extremely thankful that she could keep up with her peers.

Do you have something for which you are thankful?
Do you appreciate the change this may have made in your life?
Do you find thankfulness to be a blessing?

26/10/2023

I find it so fascinating to learn how a child’s mind develops. I am referencing a 7 year old girl. I have worked with her for a while and can share some insights. Every child is different as one’s environment is unlike another. These differences will be included as well.

A seven year old girl asks many questions. It is a curious stage. She will be learning reading and math skills. She will want to be independent and spend time with her peers while still enjoying time with her parents. She will be increasingly articulate and form real sentences. Sleep and good nutrition is important.

This will become more habitual if insisted upon at this point. It is not unusual for a child of this age to have some separation anxiety. This could be not wanting to go to school or stay at a friend’s house.

Janie( as we will call her here) cried every time she went to play at her friend’s. She wanted to return home after a short time. Her parents were arguing a lot and she felt worried when she was away. This is a natural reaction.

Sara, also 7, came from a happy home. She loved to ride her bike with her friend. Parents supervised to be sure the girls were safe. Sally loved to do her schoolwork. She felt challenged to learn more. Her older brother was quite studious and she liked to be close to him. This was her happy place.

Every child has her own issues. This should be respected. Branching out a little and curiosity are common occurrences.

Do you have a 7 year old child?
How do you feel your child is coping?
Does your child seem like her peers?
Do you have any stories to share?

17/10/2023

It seems to me that this statement should make sense to everyone. Why would we want to view any two people in the same way.?They are separate human beings. I have had this discussion many times and feel very strongly about it. To do this successfully, one must maintain an open mind.

A girl in middle school doesn’t find school easy. She struggles in most of her classes. She doesn’t absorb the material presented in a class setting. Her feelings of anxiety get in her way. One very special teacher took her under her wing. She gave her an individualized approach to follow. It proved quite successful.

A woman suffered from family relationship issues. She felt unheard by certain people and was sad most of the time. This continued until she shared her feelings. When she did, she and her family found a better way to communicate. It was a dialogue with which she was comfortable. All involved saw it as a success.

A third woman was employed in a position for which she was overqualified. She loved the work she was going to do so decided to give it a try. She was fired from her job as she evidently intimidated her boss. This was a loss for everyone involved. It could have been possibly prevented if there had been a plan to honor her skills.

She had no desire to be in competition with anyone and especially with her boss. There was no respect for the individuals within the organization.

Do you believe in treating others as individuals?
Do you look for ways to encourage and create individual plans?
Would you care to share any ideas?

16/10/2023

The trenches can take on different meanings. The trenches refers to places and situations where people work extremely hard. If one thinks of an antonym of “ trench, “words such as excess or prominence may come to mind. I wonder if there really is anyone who hasn’t been in a trench of some kind?

A college student aspired to become a physician. She was very worried as she didn’t excel in mathematics. She knew she would have to master it as it was required in her studies. She worried that she wouldn’t be able to do so. She hired a tutor and planned to give it her best try. Her goal was to work hard in the “ trenches “ in order to pull herself up.

A woman had little discipline and fell far behind in paying her bills. She would prefer to spend her earnings rather than budget any toward her expenses. She saw herself deep in the “ trenches “ and knew she would have to change her current ways. She had a plan and was attempting to carry it out.

A third woman loved the theatre. She was currently working in costumes and makeup in order to be close to what she loved. She wanted to sing but hadn’t yet been chosen from an audition. She saw herself in the “ trenches “ with little hope of being discovered. She would work hard and put in long hours hoping for a break.

Most everyone starts in the “ trenches “ of what is their desired outcome. Some like to say that someone was pushed to the top but very rarely. Hard work and perseverance are more commonly how one succeeds. No one really starts too low. It is a means to an end. The trenches may be painful and arduous work but worth it in the long run.

Have you ever felt you were in the “ trenches? “
Did you resent those times or see them as a path to ultimate success?

09/10/2023

A sense of self can be positive or negative. It means the way one views oneself. It is the way your unique identity sets you apart from others. A sense of self refers to respect, assurance, self-possession and poise.

A positive sense of self includes: self-compassion, self-confidence, self-care, etc. On the other hand, a poor sense of self may be quite detrimental as it includes a nagging voice saying “ You are not good enough. “ This voice destroys your confidence and makes you feel hopeless. It makes it extremely difficult to make decisions.

A young woman prided herself on having a positive sense of self. She was a leader not a follower. She was often asked to engage in work projects in which she didn’t believe. She explained her objections in a professional manner. She also suggested an alternative which she would gladly do. This was accepted and her integrity was honored.

Another woman had a poor sense of self. She heard her voices in her head tell her that she wasn’t smart. Her partner made all decisions which she followed. She didn’t dare question anyone as she wasn’t sure of her beliefs.

A third woman had an excellent sense of self. She held her head up high and put appropriate attention into her appearance. She practiced self-care and self-discipline. She stood firm to her beliefs and saw her work to completion. She was a team player and her coworkers respected her.

A positive sense of self is a learned behavior. One may appear to come by it naturally but it has to be practiced and refined. Sometimes, one’s environment makes a great difference. If one is around toxicity, it may be damaging to maintain a positive sense of self. Others are “ robbed” of it when they have no time for themselves. There is no independent self and all revolves around caring for another.

Do you have a good sense of self?
Do you find time to enjoy your own needs?
Are you more focused on caring for another’s needs?
Please help another by sharing here!

05/10/2023

A teacher in a school is employed to teach subjects such as science, math, reading, english, history, etc. She hopes her students are paying attention and learning the material. However, some students learn so much more. They learn what life is about and how to be strong when needed. They also learn when they can fall apart and take a break.

A middle school teacher was kind, funny, and full of life. Her students loved her and enjoyed her class. They did their work and were usually proud of their final result. One day, their teacher didn’t feel well. Her pain didn’t allow her to stand, sit or think. She brought in a substitute and went to the doctor.

A high school student had top grades. She also had an ill parent. She missed some school as she was needed at home. She did her best but couldn’t keep up as she couldn’t attend many school lessons. Her work at Home took precedence.

A third girl was a freshman in college. She had cerebral palsy. She was in a wheelchair and managed quite well. Her physical needs entailed having a helper at all times. Her helper became ill and a new one had to be found. Every attempt was unsuccessful. She would have to continue at home. Her ability to switch gears and revise her dreams was her strength! She graduated with her class!

Each example highlights Strength! In so many situations, that is the true takeaway of the day. It is difficult to stay dignified and make rough choices. Sometimes, one has to hope that others are able to understand. The true lesson may not be the work one produces but the strength behind it. I am dedicating this to one special middle school teacher. She knows who she is!!!

What do you think about strength?
How do you define it?
Is it on or below the surface?

04/10/2023

Being a girl is not easy. It comes with many challenges. Working with girls from age eight on up, we have covered acceptance by peers, bullying, safety, parents, future, schooling and self-esteem to name a few. We have discussed body image and with whom does one compare herself. Here are a few scenarios.

A nine year old girl is dealing with lack of acceptance by her peers. She doesn’t come from a family with much money and dresses the.best she can. She is not up to speed with her classmates. She feels left out of parties and sad. We decided that she should concentrate on making one friend as a start. She did and feels better. She will cherish this friend and be happy in her special connection.

A middle school student in the 7th grade is being bullied. She isn’t sure why but she hasn’t been able to stop it. She finally reported the person to a teacher and he has been reprimanded. She keeps her distance from him both at school and in her community. His parents don’t get involved and support his behavior.

A third girl is a junior in high school. She has no real plans for college nor for what she wants to do upon graduation. She is feeling very stressed. We are taking about possibilities which may interest her. She is beginning to formulate a plan one step at a time. Her attitude has changed and she sees herself much more positively.

Every girl is different! The best comparison is None. Be yourself! Be proud of who you are! There is only one You! This is why my organization is called see,change,evolve.

Do you reach out when you have an issue?
Do you know you are unique smart and beautiful?
Perhaps you need a little assistance at times!
We All Do And That Is As It Should Be!!!

27/09/2023

This is all a matter of time. When a tragedy occurs, it must be viewed for exactly what it is. It is a time of grief and mourning for a different outcome. It is a time of shock and sadness. It is a time of disbelief. It is a time of questioning. “ Why did this happen? “ “Could it have been avoided? “ “ Should we have done something differently? “ It is an horrific time. The legacy comes later. We think about the life a person led and about who they were. We look at what made that person unique.

A 25 year old young woman was in a fatal car accident. She left a legacy of great bravery. She stood up for causes which others had no interest in pursuing. She spoke up in public for her beliefs. She did not ask or wait for anyone’s approval. She opened herself up for great criticism. This was her legacy.

Another woman lost her life to pneumonia after battling with it repeatedly. She left a legacy of great determination. She persisted in staying positive when her doctors gave her little hope. Her ability to stay positive prolonged her life. She inspired others and this became her legacy.

A third woman lost her life while in childbirth. Her daughter was healthy but her mother didn’t survive. She was forewarned that she was an extremely high risk pregnancy. She continued, however, as her partner truly wanted a child as did she. Her legacy was her wonderful daughter who would carry her throughout her own life. Her daughter became a nurse and helped many people. She knew her daughter would be special. She wanted to give her this opportunity.

Do you think of a legacy as important?
Do you feel that a legacy makes one unique?
Do you ever imagine what your own legacy might be?

25/09/2023

I could be referring to reading a book which you are enjoying. I could also be thinking about a book which is hard to read. It might be tedious with vocabulary which in unfamiliar. It may be too sad or even hit too close to home. It may just be too long.

A young woman is taking chemistry. She is studying her text book as she wants to do well on her upcoming test. She is frustrated as it seems very difficult. She will hire a tutor so she can better understand the material.

A woman has been quite depressed lately. She is so thoroughly enjoying her reading that she never wants to finish the book. She will search for another when this one is completed. Maybe she will find one by the same author. Her reading is helping her spirits!

The third woman is me. I am writing a book which I believe will be most informative and bring a positive perspective to many situations. It will also have many funny stories, life challenges and ways to navigate them. It will teach how this is done both naturally and clinically. I am very excited about it and getting feedback on its many teachings.

How do you feel about reading?
Have you ever felt that finishing a book is difficult?
Do you like to read?

19/09/2023

There is no one who hasn’t felt vulnerable at one time or another. Feeling vulnerable includes both being susceptible to emotional and/or physical harm. In a relationship, vulnerability may be expressing oneself and having others respond. Their responses may feel harmful and cause danger to an individual. Vulnerability may occur at any age.

A young child may be the target of a predator. Because she is young, she must be carefully supervised at all times. She may be in danger should she wander off on her own. It only takes a second for a tragedy to occur.

A 4th grade girl attended a birthday party. It was held in a park and she thought a man was one of her friends’ parent. He engaged her in a conversation and suggested they take a short walk. Her mother couldn’t see her and yelled out her name. She was able to hear her and ran back. This was in the Knick of time.

A college woman attended a party on campus. There were a lot of drugs and she didn’t do drugs. She felt vulnerable and expected to participate. She left early and felt safe once she reached home.

A third woman felt criticized by her group of friends. She was vulnerable every time she was in their company. She had no idea why they were acting this way. She knew that it was hurtful and unwarranted. After tears and deep thought, she left the group and felt empowered. Her self-esteem had suffered enough.

We all feel vulnerable at one point or another. I don’t think there is any getting around this. Sometimes, one learns a valuable lesson from feeling vulnerable. Other times, the consequences are grave. Being aware of ones surroundings and feelings is of utmost importance.

Do you feel vulnerable at times?
Do you see yourself in harm’s way?
Would you have an example that you would like to share?

Come Help Another Notice Greatness Emerge -Change