Flyleaf Counseling

09/04/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff, Kim and Stefanie share how they conceptualize a "brainspot". Brainspotting is a way of processing trauma in both the mind and the body. Talk therapy can move us into a place of "knowing" different while Brainspotting and other somatic treatments seek to move us into a place of "believing" different. 🍃

08/15/2025

Today we celebrate our 8th year in practice at Flyleaf Counseling. Kim and Stefanie share what we do, our growth, gratitude, philosophy, and future plans for Flyleaf. 🍃

08/07/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff...how to maintain communication with your partner (or anyone) while staying out of the defensive stance. Be carerful about leading a conversationn with "I feel like you... (don't care, don't love me, etc". This projection into another's intent and feelings will surely put them on the defensive and shift the focus from the original problem. We also address how to respond when it is done to you. 🍃

08/01/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff, Kim and Stefannie talk about Love Addiction. Love addiction is different from s*x and p**n addiction. It is about the intensity of falling in love and the excitement of discovering each other. It is about limerence - the desire to make the other person fall for you as hard as you fell for them. ❤🍃

07/28/2025

Flyleaf Counseling is hosting a virtual workshop on Boundaries. Join us for a 5-week interactive event to learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries. Spaces are limited, so don’t miss out! Email us at info@flyleafcounseling.com for more information.

07/27/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff - S*xual safety inside established relationships. Compliance is still not consent. Coersion creates unsafety. Remember that s*xual intimacy is something done "with" another person, not "to" another person. 🍃

07/17/2025

07/16/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff...Confrontation vs Conflict. We all deal with both but which is the most distressing. Kim and Stefanie discuss the difference between the two and how our perception and attachment style can impact how we experience each.🍃

06/25/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff, we discuss emotions. Are there really positive or negative ones? We do not think so. There are pleasant or unpleasant but not good or bad. Emotions are an alert that there may be something tend to or to create safety around. Adding a good or bad connotation to them creates shame and distress just for having them. 🍃 (We apologize for the technical difficulties at the end of this video...looks like we need new equipment!)

06/18/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff, Kim and Stefanie discuss what it is like to participate in a Brainspotting session. There is almost no way for a client to do it wrong. What is important is connecting with our body and how we EXPERIENCE our world. Then it is giving space in your mind, not to figure things out, but to be open to the message our bodies are telling us. Our bodies are smarter than we may think. 🍃🍃

06/12/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff, Kim and Stefanie give insight into the development of our negative cognitions....the negative self-talk that lives in our bodies. Sometimes those thoughts are a whisper and sometimes they are screams. We all have them. When they interfere with our ability to achieve our goals or live our authentic lives, we can no longer ignore them. 🍃 (This is the first time we had to edit a video! The computer shut down and we ended up with it being a part 1 and a part 2. We had a friend of Flyleaf splice it together...Enjoy!!) 🍃

05/29/2025

Today on Flyleaf Talks About Stuff, we pull one from the archives. HOPE. Hope keeps us moving and sometimes is what gets us out of bed. It can also become toxic when we fail to see the realities that may be right in front of us.🍃