12/12/2025
Fight isn't the ONLY bad reaction
During my coaching sessions with clients, I broke down the differences between small, medium, and large reactions in relation to small, medium, and large “don’t want” situations for my clients. Prior to our session, they mistakenly thought that a huge blowup was the only bad reaction. When a large don’t want happens, and they get into fight and start yelling at loved ones because they are angry, they could recognize this as costly. However, in milder situations, my clients were dismissing their emotions and their REACTIONS.
The thing is, milder don’t want situations still have costly reactions. It could be freeze, it could be internal fight, you could be avoiding. The difference between that big blowup and something like avoidance is that one is external and one is internal. The “cost” of external fight is that it makes you look bad. Most people are very concerned with how they are PERCEIVED by others. With the more internal reactions, you might look calm, but your thoughts and emotions are a mess! It is still costly.
For today’s , I ask you to pay less attention to your image in the eyes of others and instead pay more attention to how you are reacting internally during those smaller don’t wants. Those sneakier, less obvious reactions are just as costly as the rare big blowup.
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‼️Remember, is only for entertainment and does not provide medical advice. Always consult your physician or mental health professional for guidance.
