04/30/2025
This past week, our autism community lost a great warrior. Brian Roselione was a friend, colleague, and integral part of my family's journey with autism. Brian and I met over 15 years ago when our family was in the thick of learning to live with autism, also right before we opened the Social Mind Center. Brian's coaching and equipping led to our entire family thriving. Brian emphasized and insisted on the importance of equipping autistics with language, communication (social), thinking skills, and self-management skills to navigate the neurotypical world.
Brian believed that autistics needed to have the communication skills to self-advocate for their own needs and desires. We spent thousands of hours discussing best practices and strategies to teach autistics to expand their ToM (theory of mind, the ability to understand that others have their own thoughts, beliefs, desires, and emotions, which can differ from one's own) and also, discussing for those in our community with limited language and communication what could be done to help them to have a voice and be as independent as possible.
We both believed that autistics needed to understand neurotypical thinking and intentions to navigate neurotypically designed environments independently—the self-awareness to know that their autistic thinking, learning, and living was different, not less. We advocated from the place of neurotypicals, understanding the differences in autistic thinking, knowledge, and navigating life.
We struggled with the continued lack of understanding of autism and continual expectations for autistics to evolve into neurotypicals. We have to learn the autistic language as they learn ours.
Our family is deeply grieved by this loss and the loss to the autism community. We are so grateful for the time we had with Brian. I am most grateful and comforted that we recently shared with him how our family would not have overcome without him. He stood unwaveringly with us and for us. If I've learned anything in recent years, it's to share with loved ones what they mean to you and the difference they've made in your life. We do not know when we will depart this life. Brian, I'll miss all the texts and conversations about how to better serve our autistic community.
The Anselma family will miss you deeply. Jon, Ana, Gaby, and Nicky.