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Pg. 15 in The Book of Healing 💥

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Conflict isn't the enemy.
Conflict is normal. It's human.
Moments of disconnection happen in every relationship.
It's what we do after that matters most.

A healthy amount of connection (having our relational needs met), disconnection, and repair are all needed to help us learn how to attach securely in our relationships. We need to feel seen and loved, we need to experience the discomfort of disconnection & separation, and we need to learn not only *how* to come back together, but that *it's possible.*

And what I've learned over time, is that many people experience a lot of connection and disconnection, but are limited in their experiences of safe, embodied, and boundaried repair.

Meaning, a lot of people learn how to either avoid relational conflict altogether (which means we're holding all of that conflict inside our bodies) to maintain connection, or just pretend the conflict never existed after it happened in order to come back together. Many learn that conflict = disconnection, so if it arises, it means a relationship is over, or not as good or meaningful as we thought it was.
But that doesn't have to be true.

None of the above ways of navigating conflict involve acknowledging the feelings, the issues, or the differences between us.
None help us build trust or safety in our relationships.
None allow us to feel seen, or to see the other person more wholly and clearly.
None help us learn that vulnerability is strength - that we're allowed to share our limits and hurts, and that we can hold space for others without losing ourselves, too.
None help us grow as both individuals and strengthen the bond between the two of us.

If you’d like guided support in this area, the Cycle Breakers program begins January 15th. This is a year long program for those committed and dedicated to changing old patterns. Committed to bringing their patterns to light and slowly and intentionally meeting themselves with more safety, generosity, compassion, and accountability as they begin to break old cycles and patterns of relating to themselves, others and the world. And it's done in small, supportive, heart-centered community.
10 spots left!

More info & registration at the link below.
https://theeqschool.co/cycle-breakers

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J. Mike Fields ❤️

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01/02/2025

This is beautiful