10/07/2024
When we decide to no longer block emotions we also need to have intelligence in what that means. Sadly, conflict resolution has become obsolete.
“Anger- like all emotions- changes the brains perception of objective world happenstances. Your anger towards someone different from you will change what you see them doing.
What they might be doing is: helping people and doing good work.
But what you anger does: is morph what you see until you see destruction, damage and incorrectness.
The next thing your anger does, now I want you to just IMAGINE yourself doing this, is that it goes outside your body. The anger leaves your body as a motivated, unsolicited action. And begins to harm others. With words, behaviours and intentions …
Imagine that you care about a topic. You learn the topic, you practice the craft. You make mistakes and learn from them. You are hired to perform this craft, you go out in the world to deliver services in the craft. You become professional. You become good at what you do.
Then, one day, you see or meet another professional, or another non-professional, who does things differently to you. Not only are they doing things differently to you, but they are successful in their field. They have studied, understood, practiced. They get results, they help people. They can explain what they do in detail and transfer that knowing to other people.
Imagine that you see this person and instead of thinking and feeling:
"Wow. That's so cool! Someone else doing it differently, and thats great for them."
But instead thinking and feeling- anger.
In that anger, your brain changes. The sensory data your brain receives from the body is altered before it reaches the brain. It is altered and morphed and mutated into something it is not. This is not my opinion, this is how anger works. Anger- like all emotions- changes the brains perception of objective world happenstances. Your anger towards someone different from you will change what you see them doing.
What they might be doing is: helping people and doing good work.
But what you anger does: is morph what you see until you see destruction, damage and incorrectness.
The next thing your anger does, now I want you to just IMAGINE yourself doing this, is that it goes outside your body. The anger leaves your body as a motivated, unsolicited action. And begins to harm others. With words, behaviours and intentions that are brazen, brash and brutal.
Now I want you to imagine the other, in this scenario, at the receiving end. They are waking up every day, and doing their best and helping people. They are now at the receiving end of vitriol which is usually a mutated, inaccurate, subjective summary of who they are. This other now has to continue moving forwards, as if nothing happened. Continue putting themselves out there to help.
I have a very simple relationship to anger: it takes a lot to make me angry. I am not quick to anger. My anger is usually de-centred off myself, and centred around the protection of those I care about.
Having said all this, I know colleagues whom have closed businesses, stopped working publicly, moved cities, states and countries, and had nervous breakdowns due to what I write above.
Because some grown ass adults behave like absolute children, with zero anger impulse control and zero decorum.
It is enough.
After receiving death threats last year due to opinions I hold and my manner of expressing them, I now have to take identity information for every single person attending a clinic, particularly in countries where fi****ms are prevalent. It is scary. It is expensive. It is annoying to administrate.
After comments from people who cannot control their anger, I have had to shut down comments, for everyone.
Nobody deserves to be at the receiving end of anger over their opinions.
Stop it. Just fu***ng stop it. It helps nobody. Least of all the horses. Get in control of yourself. You're an adult. Mind your own business. Leave people alone. See or read something that confuses, irritates, or is jarring to you? You actually have a choice. Know the difference between right and wrong, and do right. For goodness sake. The most boring thing one can be in this world is a troll, an angry horse person. Another angry horse person. Go get therapy and log-off. Or write your own angry content on your own page for your own angry community. Leave others in peace, especially if you disagree with them.
Is it time that we all grew up a bit? Refocused? Refined what this is all here to do for us?
The whole world is now in the same room at the same time and we are proving ourselves ill-equipped for it.
So, just letting you know, I will go to the mat for my horses, my team, my clients and my community. This small platform I have built is a safe place because I have made it an UNSAFE place for a brute, a biggot or a batterer to be. On that point I am very clear.
