Vida J Phoenix MA LPC

Vida J Phoenix MA LPC Master’s level Licensed Professional Counselor LPC

01/08/2024
So true!
09/24/2022

So true!

“The shadow is something very evasive. I don’t know mine. I study it by the reaction of those around me. We depend on the reflection of the mirror of our entourage and then apply analysis.”

― Carl Jung

[ Art • “The Light Maiden” by Leilani Bustamante ]

09/13/2022

“Everything you perceive is being filtered through your entire belief system. And the result of interpreting everything you perceive by using everything you believe is your personal dream, an entire virtual reality in your mind. Perhaps you can see how easy it is for humans to distort what we perceive. Light reproduces a perfect image of what is real, but we distort the image by creating a story with all those opinions and beliefs that we learned. We dream about it with our imagination, and by agreement we think that our dream is the absolute truth when the real truth is that our dream is a relative truth, a reflection of the truth that is always going to be distorted by all the knowledge we have stored in our memory."

― Don Jose Ruiz

[ Art • “Drown My Pain” by André Dorais ]

08/30/2022

Listening to some songs can cause a powerful physiological response known as "frisson." What is it, and why does it happen?

06/12/2022

"When you recognize that there is a voice in your head that pretends to be you and never stops speaking, you are awakening out of your unconscious identification with the stream of thinking. When you notice that voice, you realize that who you are is not the voice - the thinker - but the one who is aware of it."

"What a liberation to realize that the “voice in my head” is not who I am. Who am I then? The one who sees that."

"The voice in the head has a life of its own. Most people are at the mercy of that voice; they are possessed by thought, by the mind. And since the mind is conditioned by the past, you are then forced to reenact the past again and again."

"When someone goes to the doctor and says, “I hear a voice in my head,” he or she will most likely be sent to a psychiatrist. The fact is that, in a very similar way, virtually everyone hears a voice, or several voices, in their head all the time: the involuntary thought processes that you don’t realize you have the power to stop. Continuous monologues or dialogues.

You have probably come across “mad” people in the street incessantly talking or muttering to themselves. Well, that’s not much different from what you and all other “normal” people do, except that you don’t do it out loud. The voice comments, speculates, judges, compares, complains, likes, dislikes, and so on. The voice isn’t necessarily relevant to the situation you find yourself in at the time; it may be reviving the recent or distant past or rehearsing or imagining possible future situations. Here it often imagines things going wrong and negative outcomes; this is called worry. Sometimes this soundtrack is accompanied by visual images or “mental movies.” Even if the voice is relevant to the situation at hand, it will interpret it in terms of the past. This is because the voice belongs to your conditioned mind, which is the result of all your past history as well as of the collective cultural mind-set you inherited. So you see and judge the present through the eyes of the past and get a totally distorted view of it. It is not uncommon for the voice to be a person’s own worst enemy. Many people live with a tormentor in their head that continuously attacks and punishes them and drains them of vital energy. It is the cause of untold misery and unhappiness, as well as of disease.

The good news is that you can free yourself from your mind. This is the only true liberation. You can take the first step right now. Start listening to the voice in your head as often as you can. Pay particular attention to any repetitive thought patterns, those old gramophone records that have been playing in your head perhaps for many years. This is what I mean by “watching the thinker,” which is another way of saying: listen to the voice in your head, be there as the witnessing presence.

When you listen to that voice, listen to it impartially. That is to say, do not judge. Do not judge or condemn what you hear, for doing so would mean that the same voice has come in again through the back door. You’ll soon realize: there is the voice, and here I am listening to it, watching it. This I am realization, this sense of your own presence, is not a thought. It arises from beyond the mind.

So when you listen to a thought, you are aware not only of the thought but also of yourself as the witness of the thought. A new dimension of consciousness has come in. As you listen to the thought, you feel a conscious presence — your deeper self — behind or underneath the thought, as it were. The thought then loses its power over you and quickly subsides, because you are no longer energizing the mind through identification with it. This is the beginning of the end of involuntary and compulsive thinking.

When a thought subsides, you experience a discontinuity in the mental stream — a gap of “no-mind.” At first, the gaps will be short, a few seconds perhaps, but gradually they will become longer. When these gaps occur, you feel a certain stillness and peace inside you. This is the beginning of your natural state of felt oneness with Being, which is usually obscured by the mind. With practice, the sense of stillness and peace will deepen. In fact, there is no end to its depth. You will also feel a subtle emanation of joy arising from deep within: the joy of Being.

It is not a trancelike state. Not at all. There is no loss of consciousness here. The opposite is the case. If the price of peace were a lowering of your consciousness, and the price of stillness a lack of vitality and alertness, then they would not be worth having. In this state of inner connectedness, you are much more alert, more awake than in the mind-identified state. You are fully present. It also raises the vibrational frequency of the energy field that gives life to the physical body.

As you go more deeply into this realm of no-mind, as it is sometimes called in the East, you realize the state of pure consciousness. In that state, you feel your own presence with such intensity and such joy that all thinking, all emotions, your physical body, as well as the whole external world become relatively insignificant in comparison to it. And yet this is not a selfish but a selfless state. It takes you beyond what you previously thought of as “your self.” That presence is essentially you and at the same time inconceivably greater than you."

"The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly - you usually don’t use it at all. It uses you. This is the disease. You believe that you are your mind. This is the delusion. The instrument has taken you over.”

"The beginning of freedom is the realization that you are not the possessing entity - the thinker. Knowing this enables you to observe the entity. The moment you start watching the thinker, a higher level of consciousness becomes activated. You then begin to realize that there is a vast realm of intelligence beyond thought, that thought is only a tiny aspect of that intelligence. You also realize all the things that truly matter - beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace - arise from beyond the mind. You begin to awaken.”

"Be present as the watcher of your mind — of your thoughts and emotions as well as your reactions in various situations. Be at least as interested in your reactions as in the situation or person that causes you to react. Notice also how often your attention is in the past or future. Don’t judge or analyze what you observe. Watch the thought, feel the emotion, observe the reaction. Don’t make a personal problem out of them. You will then feel something more powerful than any of those things that you observe: the still, observing presence itself behind the content of your mind, the silent watcher."

~a collection of quotes from Eckhart Tolle

(Art by 'philipp.igumnov')

09/25/2021

It is better to get into a positive feeling state, versus thinking positive.

Feeling is being and experiencing, versus thinking/mind activity.

It’s okay to think positive to begin, but be sure to really feel the elevated positive emotions. The mind is a great tool, just don’t stop, or get stuck, there.

Vida Phoenix

09/22/2021

There are no new stressful thoughts.
What have you been recycling?
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07/05/2021

A child takes on anything that is wrong in the environment, blames self, and that is the origin of the faulty personality construct. This is a survival strategy to preserve attachment. Luckily, we are more than our personality overlay, based on the concrete observations of a child. None of what happened in the past is important enough to hold onto, and reenact, if it no longer serves you.

Vida Phoenix

06/15/2021

Being Alive and Aware

That you are alive is extraordinary. Feel grateful for that one thing. Having experiences in life, as an alive and conscious being, is like icing on the cake. There is awareness, and there is everything that takes place - experiences, from awareness. However, we continuously miss the vital dimension of awareness because we are stuck in the past – in past thoughts, or in trying to run to a mentally created future. We are constantly in our thoughts. We are not paying attention to awareness and the knowingness of it. The spaces/gaps between thoughts are a doorway to the field of awareness, out of which thought comes, and into which thought returns. Be aware and be aware that you are aware. It is a matter of getting out of thoughts, out of mental constructs, out of an if/then mentality, and out of expectations; versus, present focused here and now reality. It is coming back to your basic senses. Who you really are is that awareness prior to, and in between, thought, so easily missed and forgotten in incessant mind activity. You still exist when you are not obsessively thinking. It is a coming home to beingness, versus unchecked thinkingness. You have always been aware, that part of you is the witness to experience. Awareness is a constant, unchanged by everything that has come and gone.

Being aware, and not in ruminative and repetitive thinking is not spacing-out or going numb. With awareness, you are checking in to your surroundings; without it, you are checking out. In the closed space of your thinking mind, you are separated, and alone. Awareness is the place where we can truly connect to each other, as awareness is shared. It is also the place where we can appreciate objective experience for experience sake, by being the witness to it – through awareness, versus being lost in the evaluation and deciphering of it. Thinking is a necessary tool, just don't let it take over, all the time.

The experience of life is challenging, it is supposed to be, how else can we return to the larger perspective of our true being. Every disappointment reinforces the deeper understanding that this life we live, as this personality - with the limits of a self-focused thinking mind, is insignificant to a larger truth about ourselves. Together we are the consciousness in which all our stories play out. The key word is play, and we should not take ourselves, and our painful stories, too seriously. Trauma does need to be unwound at times, lest it further splits off the self-focused identity from its source.

Though, each thinking-personality mind is capable of harm to another thinking-personality mind, mind alone is not the whole story. There are those who would maim and even kill our bodies, they are still lost in their individual mind. We would protect against them and the dangerous world they perpetuate. We would still fight for order, fairness, and social justice. We can only step away from them, without judgement, protect and defend ourselves when necessary, and take a wait and see attitude. They need more pain to break the unconscious spell they are under. They can be aware and conscious beings, but that part has been overlooked, even dismissed. Only pain is powerful enough to remind them that consciousness is before all else that transpires. Pain hardens; or, softens and finally gets a person to a teachable place.

Aliveness, animating force, consciousness, awareness, knowingness are concepts that attempt to describe something slightly beyond our human understanding. However, it is nevertheless integral to our existence. It’s where we are the same. It’s what unifies us, beyond nationality, culture, color, creed, or any form of superior personal identity the thinking mind can conjure up.

There is room for the thinking mind in consciousness, just don’t let it take over. In its ignorance it will push away the truth, and in its superiority, it will destroy itself. We still have to live the complexity of human life. However, it is possible to find a working balance between thinking/doing and your consciously aware beingness when necessary.

Vida Phoenix

05/21/2021

Over-thinking as a Faulty Adaptation

Thoughts take place, including the intrusive scary ones, but you are not entirely your thoughts. You have them, they don’t have you. You can be the witness to your thoughts from the perspective of your awareness of them. You have power over your thoughts, they don’t have power over you unless you allow them to run wild by believing them, then obsessing about them to the point you trigger fight/flight adrenaline surges and panic.

Over-thinking is a faulty adaptation, it’s what you do in an attempt to feel safe, by trying to figure it all out and control your environment. Our brains were originally wired for connection, in the face of trauma, our brains unfortunately get rewired for protection.

Vida Phoenix

04/22/2021

Elevating Emotions

Negative thoughts make you sick, because negative thoughts release certain familiar survival hormones like adrenaline and cortisol, which can further reinforce old emotional patterns of lack, need, victimhood, guilt, etc. You stay trapped in those old neural networks, thought patterns, or programs. You stay trapped in the predictable past. It is dense energy stored in the body; it feels heavy. If in constant survival mode - run, fight, hide - and the associated chemicals, you continually feel negative, you can’t help but draw more to you of the same. We look for love, or that perfect circumstance, outside of us, to fill us, but that is backwards. Take the energy away from those old repetitive habits of mind. Free up that energy, practice feeling elevated emotions instead, go into the unknown, versus the familiar past, by staying in the present. You will naturally magnetize, or draw, that elevated energy to you from others, and from life.

Refuse to react in the same old way. Transmute that dense energy - an altered state, back to its natural free state and higher frequency. Love is your natural state, it is just covered over by fear and permutations of fear. Fear separates you from love. You don’t have to force yourself to love you, or feel love, it is a natural occurrence. Practice feeling good, this will move you in the direction of zest for life, and total self-acceptance. Your body naturally heals in this state too because you are not bombarded by stress chemicals or survival hormones. Walk through the fire of negative emotions when they arise, burn through them by meeting them with higher emotional feeling states. Overcome the negative emotion, overcome the old perception of self. It’s okay to have a reaction to something unpleasant for a moment, but when old programs intrude, be conscious of what is happening, and self-regulate.

Practice generating elevated emotional states. It may feel awkward at first. A meditation might go like this: close your eyes and block out the environment, get in the present moment state of empty space, focus on that unknown space - not on old thoughts, suppress the analytical mind, rest there, relax deeper, then begin to imagine how you would prefer to feel, get into that feeling, and expand it. Practice this such that when you go about your day, and you face an old stuck emotion, you can remember those good feelings from your practice meditation and insert that energy instead.

You will have initial reactions to unpleasant occurrences in life, beyond a few minutes of that, the old program wants to kick in. Do battle with that program, not whatever the circumstance is. Get sucked into the same old neural networks, drain your energy, and disempower yourself, or raise your energy and make new synaptic connections. It is a choice you can make.

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