VibeWell + VibeLove

VibeWell + VibeLove Virtual sessions only. Gottman + trauma-informed.

Hi, my name is Michelle Chaffardet Licensed therapist (FL, NJ, DE & TX) + relationship coach helping couples and individuals reconnect, communicate better, and heal from past wounds.

The holidays don’t magically erase old dynamics — they amplify them.Family expectations, cultural pressure, and unspoken...
12/26/2025

The holidays don’t magically erase old dynamics — they amplify them.

Family expectations, cultural pressure, and unspoken rules all collide at once. And if you learned early on that keeping others comfortable mattered more than your needs, boundaries can feel terrifying.

💡 Here’s the truth:
Boundaries aren’t about pushing people away.
They’re about staying emotionally regulated and present.

This season, notice where your body tightens — it’s often pointing to a boundary that needs support.

👉 Save this post and choose one boundary you’ll practice protecting this holiday.





The holidays don’t create relationship problems — they apply pressure.And pressure reveals how couples communicate, divi...
12/26/2025

The holidays don’t create relationship problems — they apply pressure.

And pressure reveals how couples communicate, divide responsibilities, and repair after conflict. That’s why arguments feel bigger this time of year.

💡 Research shows it’s not stress that predicts relationship breakdown — it’s how couples respond to stress together.

This season, focus less on avoiding conflict and more on repairing quickly and staying emotionally connected.

👉 Save this post and talk with your partner about one way you can handle stress as a team.





Holiday arguments are rarely about the tree, the travel plans, or who’s cooking.They’re about deeper patterns—stress jus...
12/11/2025

Holiday arguments are rarely about the tree, the travel plans, or who’s cooking.
They’re about deeper patterns—stress just makes them louder.

Your nervous system is already juggling finances, family expectations, and pressure to “make it perfect.” So the patterns you usually ignore? They show up fast.

👉 Pursue/withdraw cycles
👉 Unresolved resentments
👉 Emotional overload
👉 Feeling unappreciated

The holidays don’t create relationship problems—they reveal the ones that need attention.

💡 The real work isn’t avoiding conflict.
It’s learning to repair, regulate, and stay emotionally connected under pressure.

Holiday loneliness hits differently—and it’s not because you’re “too sensitive” or “not trying hard enough.”Your nervous...
12/10/2025

Holiday loneliness hits differently—and it’s not because you’re “too sensitive” or “not trying hard enough.”

Your nervous system is wired for connection.
When everyone else seems embraced, partnered, celebrated, or supported, your body remembers every moment you weren’t.

Loneliness isn’t a failure.
It’s information.
A signal.
A need.

💡 This time of year can be healing or triggering—sometimes both.
What matters is how gently you respond to your own emotional needs.

Your attachment style isn’t a flaw—it’s a map your nervous system created to survive love that didn’t always feel safe.💡...
11/18/2025

Your attachment style isn’t a flaw—it’s a map your nervous system created to survive love that didn’t always feel safe.

💡 “Avoidant.” “Anxious.” “Disorganized.” These aren’t identities—they’re adaptations.
They helped you stay connected, even when connection felt confusing.

Healing means teaching your body that love can feel calm, consistent, and safe.
It’s not about becoming someone new—it’s about remembering that safety doesn’t have to come with fear.

📌 Save this post if you’re learning to love without survival mode.

Healing doesn’t mean becoming flawless—it means becoming conscious of what you choose.Too often, people delay love becau...
11/18/2025

Healing doesn’t mean becoming flawless—it means becoming conscious of what you choose.

Too often, people delay love because they think they need to be “fully healed.” But the truth is, the right relationship can actually support your healing, not sabotage it.

When someone constantly makes you feel like you’re “too much” or “not enough,” it’s not a sign you have more work to do—it’s a sign your nervous system is tired of confusing pain with connection.

💡 Real love doesn’t demand perfection. It meets you where you are, and helps you grow from there.

📌 Save this post if you’re learning to stop choosing pain disguised as passion.

Perfectionism isn’t about high standards—it’s about fear.The fear of being rejected, criticized, or “too much.”In relati...
11/04/2025

Perfectionism isn’t about high standards—it’s about fear.
The fear of being rejected, criticized, or “too much.”

In relationships, that fear makes you over-function, overthink, and over-give… until love feels like a job instead of a connection.

💡 The antidote? Self-compassion and repair, not performance.
Because love grows where authenticity lives.

When you fall for someone’s “potential,” you end up carrying the weight of their growth.And while empathy is beautiful, ...
11/03/2025

When you fall for someone’s “potential,” you end up carrying the weight of their growth.
And while empathy is beautiful, over-functioning is exhausting.

💡 Real love supports growth—it doesn’t manage it.
You can’t save someone and love them freely at the same time.

📌 Save this if you’re learning to love from acceptance, not responsibility.

Your nervous system can’t heal in relationships that keep it on alert.When love feels like survival—full of highs, lows,...
10/18/2025

Your nervous system can’t heal in relationships that keep it on alert.

When love feels like survival—full of highs, lows, and uncertainty—your body never gets the message that it’s safe. That’s why you can’t “self-regulate” while living in chaos.

Healing starts when your body experiences consistency.
When you no longer have to guess if you’ll be met with kindness or criticism.
When calm stops feeling “boring” and starts feeling like peace.

💡 Remember: regulation isn’t a solo practice—it’s also about who you let close enough to influence your nervous system.

Coping mechanisms are brilliant—until they’re not.They were built to protect you when life didn’t feel safe. But what he...
10/17/2025

Coping mechanisms are brilliant—until they’re not.

They were built to protect you when life didn’t feel safe. But what helped you survive may now be the very thing holding you back.

Overthinking, people-pleasing, control, emotional numbness… these aren’t flaws. They’re survival responses your nervous system learned to keep you safe.

💡 Healing isn’t about getting rid of them—it’s about retraining your brain and body to recognize that you don’t need those same defenses anymore.

📌 Save this post if you’re learning to outgrow your coping mechanisms with compassion, not shame.

10/14/2025

🌿 The Relationship Reset starts next Monday!

This 5-week virtual coaching group is for women who are ready to heal after a breakup or painful relationship — to rebuild confidence, set boundaries, and create space for healthy love. 💞

Each week we’ll dive into a new theme — letting go, emotional regulation, self-worth, trust, and moving forward — with guided journaling and connection in a safe, supportive space.

🕓 Mondays at 11 AM or 7 PM EST (choose your time)
💻 Virtual via Google Meet
💲 $249 full program or 2 payments of $135
🌸 Limited spots available

If this speaks to you, I’d love to have you join us.
💬 Tap the link in my bio to register!

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