Chhahari Counseling, PLLC

09/27/2021

03/11/2021

Head on over to The Therapist Group’s blog I helped write to learn about the impact of IPV on children, and a few ideas on how to support kiddos witnessing and/or directly experiencing abuse.

How do we navigate different beliefs, values and opinions with compassion and respect for our significant others, parents, siblings or close friends?

02/15/2021

As this Valentine’s Day comes to a close, here’s a little something on a few ways to boost your happiness chemicals. Go love on yourself; you deserve to! ❤️❤️

01/30/2021

Do y'all still remember my post from October 2020 about being a busy-bee🐝? I finally present to you the second part in the series!
May be I will get to the next part a little sooner 😅. Here's to 🤞🏽🤞🏽hoping!

PC: Robert Collins If you are a busy bee, where does this come from? Perfectionism – What are the fears and painful past experiences that drive you toward perfectionism? While wanting to crea…

01/23/2021

This whole post is amazing! Please read.

One way I know that I have made progress in my healing is that I have given my children permission to advocate for themselves when they are on the receiving end of my wound reactions. ⁣⁣
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Last night, my daughter (almost 8), had some very big & instantaneous feelings when I asked her to turn off the TV and do her nightly 20 min of reading. I was so thrown off by her reaction to what I considered a gentle reasonable request that I went into defense/offense mode (I was tired/ hungry/ low brain prone) and ended up calling her DRAMATIC and threatening her with telling her teacher. What??? Yes, I threatened to tattle. 🙈 The helplessness and confusion I was experiencing was palpable. Not my best moment. ⁣⁣
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“Mom! You’re being violent with your words! You’re not being a safe space for my feelings!” ⁣⁣
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She was right. I WAS being violent with my words. I was NOT being a safe space. Though it’s not her responsibility to create the conditions for my self-reflection, this helped me to snap out of the spiral I was going down.⁣⁣
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I cannot imagine what would’ve happened to me (yes I can but don’t want to) if I had said those things to my mom as a child. I was fearful. ⁣⁣
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But this child— she is fearless. And isn’t that the child I set out to raise? A child who is unafraid to self-advocate, knows her worth, and can create boundaries QUICK when something doesn’t feel good in her body about the way she’s being treated.⁣⁣
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Let me be clear. This was not “talking back”, this was not “giving me attitude”. This was a POSITIVE. I didn’t realize that right away. I had to consciously grow that little light of truth that cracked open in me when she said that. ⁣⁣
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I told her she was right but that I needed space. I told her I was in my low brain and needed to come back up before we could continue. I drank water. I sat on the floor. I paid attention to my breath & to my other two kids.⁣⁣
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I was able to ground. Twenty minutes later, we were able to repair. I apologized for my part. She, on her own accord, apologized too for “freaking out”. I thanked her for standing up for herself. We worked on solutions for next time. This is the work. Our work. 🌻

01/18/2021

Things I'm thinking about on MLK Jr. Day...

Here we are again! It’s Martin Luther King Jr. Day, and the eve of inauguration day in the U.S. I don’t want to exploit the importance of MLK Jr., his words, and his work, but I sure am…

01/14/2021

We talk a lot about our relational love, but how do you express love to yourself ?🥰 And how often?

01/13/2021

What have you observed about the connection between intimate partner violence and patriarchy? Add your examples below.

01/11/2021

Some Monday morning humor from 😄
We definitely need a part 2!

01/06/2021

What parts of you and your life from
2020 do you want to bring with you this year? In what ways will they serve you?

Media Text: Social justice; Befriending my inner-self; Creativity; Hope; Less shopping, more resting; Community mindedness

01/01/2021

Could your new year be about looking inward as much as it is about looking outward?
Could your new year be about manageable steps rather than high jumps that leave you breathless and depleted?
Could your new year be about the feelings, themes, and sensations you want rather than just actions or resolutions?

Media Text: May the new year find you reaching high, turning inward, rooting down, and extending outward. May your growth be in all directions.

12/21/2020

Head on over to The Therapist Group to read a blog I helped write about Intimate Partner Violence! Here I cover what IPV is, how to recognize it, some safety planning, and resources in our community for further support.

We offer marriage counseling, family therapy, addiction counseling, grief counseling, and stress management in the Denver area.

11/16/2020

A very happy Tihar (Deepawali) to all those who celebrate this beautiful festival of light!
May your year be filled with light, heart-felt connections despite the distance, and joy.
If you are celebrating this festival alone, I hope you are creating rituals that bring you warmth and comfort.

11/06/2020

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They say time heals all wounds. I’m not sure I agree.

11/03/2020

Election Day Self-Care

10/25/2020

A Very Happy Dashain to all those who celebrate this joyous festival!
It's a tough year for this celebration - fewer hands to bless us, fewer games and dances, even fewer resources for many than usual, and perhaps an increased sense of isolation in addition to the usual sense of separation if you are a part of the Nepali or Bhutani diaspora. If you are in a region affected by climate change like us here in Colorado or by an oppressive government like in the US at this time, this festival may be especially painful right now.
Sending you all a lot of love and warmth this season. I hope that even if the incredible social aspect of this festival is absent right now, a sense of love and belonging, of playfulness, and of fighting for the good of our communities are present and palpable.

10/20/2020

PC: Ante Hamersmit If you describe yourself as a busy bee or a workaholic, if you work long hours or everyday of the week, is it because of your financial circumstance and responsibilities? Is it b…

10/12/2020

PC: Markus Spiske If you are worried about all the talking and listening you will have to do in therapy, here’s a good news for you – that is not the primary focus in all therapeutic mo…