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12/10/2025

You’re not in this alone! Colorado women, please join our Circle!

02/21/2023

Littleton, Colorado--Grief Counseling Group run by yours truly. Consider reaching out yourself or sharing this with a friend!

09/03/2022

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We honor God, our Creator, by appropriately taking care of each part of ourselves, which includes our mental health. Whether or not you struggle with your mental health you will benefit from this course.

08/17/2022

I recently had the privilege to be interviewed for Eileen Tully's podcast on grief and trauma. Eileen is the founder and operator of Present in the Pain, an apostolate ministry for grieving mothers. The whole interview was on this topic of grief vs. trauma, so for lots more information be sure to check it out!

https://presentinthepainpodcast.buzzsprout.com/

08/16/2022

Secondary losses are what cause the grief process to last for so long, because it complicates the ability to just "move on". They cause distress and discomfort and disrupt what we know or feel to be true. These are just a handful of secondary losses, but you can probably name a handful more from your experience. Which do you relate to, or what new one are you willing to share?

08/15/2022

Loneliness can be debilitating when grieving. We experience loneliness mentally and physically. We feel alone in our thoughts (no one gets it; no one can understand how I feel; I have no one) and in our space (I'm alone in this house, my family is far away, my friends don't call). Loneliness can easily slip into isolation which makes the grieving process that much more difficult.

For those experiencing loneliness, two suggestions: 1. Know that spiritually-speaking, you are never alone. Find comfort and companionship in Christ, the saints and angels. 2. Be cautious not to assume those around you can read your mind. If you feel lonely, you need to tell someone. Call a friend or family member and make plans. I know it is daunting and likely exhausting, but it will help.

For those knowing someone grieving: 1. Don't assume they want to be left alone. 2. Invite them again, and again, and again-even if declined. Eventually they will take you up on your invitation.

08/14/2022

Every person I have worked with regarding grief has felt guilty. Every. Single. One. Why is this? In my opinion, it's our human brain's trying to make sense out of the loss or death. As humans we like to have control--death throws us off kilter because we have no control over it. So to try to return to homeostasis, our brains look for the things that we SHOULD have done, or COULD have done differently, to make a different end result. In grief language, this is called "Bargaining".

"If I took her to the doctor sooner, she would still be alive." "I shouldn't have gotten angry with him before he got in his car, because then he wouldn't have had the accident." "It's my fault, because I wasn't a good daughter."

These statements are creating guilt, when nothing wrong was done. And nothing could have changed the outcome...time doesn't work that way.

So when we feel guilty after a loss, it's important to acknowledge it. Remember how common it is to fall into that thought. But also, to call it out as most likely untrue.

08/13/2022

Can you relate to these symptoms? These are all natural, just like grief is. Of course we hope and pray that the intensity and duration of these symptoms dissipate with time, but their presence in the moment can be accepted as a normal reaction to loss.

Know someone going through grief? This is a small window into their likely experience. Try and support this person while they journey through these symptoms.

08/12/2022

There are a lot of things in the world right now that are divisive. Issues become divisive usually because we feel misunderstood or unacknowledged. Grief, however, is universal. We all have lost loved ones, friends, relationships, jobs, or experiences throughout our lives. Our grief journeys may look different person to person, but the realities remain the same.

I'll be exploring grief in the next handful of posts. Comment below with what you would like to learn about grief and healing.

08/02/2022

How often do you answer “Who are you?” with “Well, I’m a child of God, of course!!!!”? I’m going to go out on a limb and say not very often ;) But it’s true, right? Do you believe you are a child of God? A beloved son or daughter? Chosen and given life by God?

Does this impact how you see yourself and form your identity? My experience in working with clients is that we understand this concept on an intellectual level, but perhaps not on a felt-sense level. The classic head vs. heart dilemma. I think this is true, but do I identify with this truth?

If we allow ourselves to identify with this notion I think it helps integrate the other parts of identity that we have already spoken about (vocation, job, family of origin, attachment, production, thoughts, symptoms, etc.).

What do you think? Do you have a way to practically apply this truth to your identity?

07/30/2022

As we learned in the attachment post, our identity is formed from day one. As we grow up, mature, and explore our identity, our family system remains a powerful influence. We identify roles within our system: mother, daughter, sister, auntie, etc. We identify with our function within our system: the strong one, the quiet one, the problem child, the outcast. We identify with our purpose: maintain the peace, lead others, challenge members, heal one another.

Family systems progress, form, and change on their own. We grow up thinking our family system is just like everyone else’s. Until around middle school or beyond when we realize that friend’s of ours, and their families, do things differently than us. Then we begin to reflect on our family life asking “is this normal?”

So now that you are an adult, what do you think of your identity in relation to your family system? What is your role, function, and purpose within your family?