Anna Buchanan Counseling PLLC -Individual and Couples Therapy

11/02/2025

We don’t have to fix it. We just have to be there.

10/15/2025

Real growth doesn’t happen overnight. It happens in small, consistent moments of care....when you pause before reacting, choose to listen instead of defend, or reach for your partner even after disconnection.

These are the seeds that build trust, safety, and secure love. You don’t have to get it right every time. What matters is showing up with intention, again and again.

The good news? You can start anew the very next time you interact with your partner.

10/06/2025

10/05/2025

Though our paths are many and our stories our own, the deep longing to be seen, to be loved, and to belong is the thread that weaves us together.

10/05/2025

Though our paths are many and our stories our own, the deep longing to be seen, to be loved, and to belong is the thread that weaves us together. ❤️

09/07/2025

Healing takes time — and sometimes, it takes change too.

Healing starts from the inside, but it often shows up in the small choices we make every day. You might want to take better care of yourself, set boundaries, or try new habits — but actually making those changes can feel uncomfortable or even scary.

That’s because after hard or traumatic experiences, your nervous system is wired to prioritize safety. Feeling stuck or afraid of change is completely normal.

The key is to start small. Tiny shifts add up. One small change, one supportive habit, one new way of caring for yourself — when you're ready.
If you're feeling anxious, depleted, or on edge, know that your body is responding to chronic stress. Even if you’re doing the basics (sleep, food, movement), it might help to try body-based practices that support your nervous system.

Things like humming, cold water on your face, gentle movement, shaking out tension, or breathing slowly with your hand on your chest can send your body a message that it’s safe. These small actions can make a big difference.

This isn’t a season for pushing — it’s a season for nervous system repair. Lower the bar. Rest more. Ask for help. Be kind to yourself.

The nervous system doesn’t heal through force; it heals through consistent messages of safety, gentleness, and slowness.

If talk therapy or trauma-informed support feels right for you, I offer complimentary consultations here:

https://anna-buchanan.clientsecure.me

09/05/2025

Ever feel like you and your partner are having the same argument on repeat?

Different topic, same fight... and somehow, it always ends with one of you feeling hurt, distant, or totally misunderstood?

That’s what we call a negative cycle, and it shows up in so many relationships, from new couples to those who’ve been together for years.

It’s not about who’s right or wrong, it’s about how you’re both trying (and struggling) to connect.

As a couples therapist certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I help partners notice these patterns and get underneath them — where the real emotions and needs live.

Here are a few ways to spot your cycle:

You try to talk about something important, and it turns into a fight or shut-down.

One of you tends to get louder or more emotional; the other gets quiet or pulls away.
You both walk away feeling like the other person just doesn’t get it.

Even when you love each other, you end up feeling alone in the relationship.

Here’s a quick tip:

Next time things get tense, ask yourself:
What am I really feeling right now (under the frustration or anger)?

What do I need from my partner that I might be scared to ask for?

Are we fighting each other — or just caught in a pattern we both hate?

When you can recognize the cycle as the problem and not each other — that’s when things start to shift.

You’re not broken. Your relationship isn’t doomed. You’re just stuck in a pattern you can learn to change…together.

Curious about how EFT works or want to chat more about your relationship? Send me a message — I’d love to connect.

Couples, individual and family therapy offering Telehealth appointments. Paperwork can be filled out online. Online payments are accepted. Schedule an appointment today. Contact me at (720) 526-0664.

07/16/2025

Come see me at my new office. Accepting new clients for telehealth or in person visits.

https://anna-buchanan.clientsecure.me/

07/11/2025

Good evening. I wanted to share that I am now offering in person sessions in Monument, CO as well as telehealth. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) certified in EFT for couples. I also work with individuals with developmental trauma, anxiety and depression.

I provide professional consulting to therapists working with couples.

Reach out for a complimentary consultation to chat about whether therapy with me is the right fit for you.

https://anna-buchanan.clientsecure.me/