Lola & Me Therapy LLC.

05/20/2026

Healing from trauma bonding is possible, and Tori shares where that journey begins.

It starts with self-compassion. With recognizing that you are worthy of peace, safety, and a life that doesn't feel like survival. Recovery isn't out of reach, but it does require the right support and a real commitment to the process.

If you're ready to take that first step, we're here. Book a free consultation on our website: lolaandmetherapyllc.com/book-with-us

05/19/2026

Two more patterns worth knowing — because once you can name them, they lose some of their power.

The silent treatment isn't just someone needing space. When used as punishment, it trains you to comply in order to earn back warmth and connection — linking affection to control. Triangulation brings others into the dynamic to create jealousy and insecurity, leaving you feeling like you have to compete for love you should never have had to earn.
Both are calculated. Neither is your fault.

If this is resonating, we'd love to support you. Book a free consultation on our website: lolaandmetherapyllc.com/book-with-us

05/15/2026

Five truths about trauma bonds Tori wants you to know:

A trauma bond is not love.

The cycle of abuse is predictable and calculated.

Leaving is complex, and that complexity deserves to be honored.

Healing requires intentional work to repair your nervous system.

And you deserve a life that feels safe and stable.

If any of these are landing for you today, you don't have to navigate it alone. Book a free consultation on our website: lolaandmetherapyllc.com/book-with-us

05/14/2026

Tori breaks down something that can be genuinely life-changing to understand - abuse isn't random. It follows a predictable, calculated cycle, and that cycle is designed to create control and dependency.

Recognizing the pattern is one of the most powerful first steps toward breaking free from a trauma bond.

If this is bringing something into focus for you, we'd love to support you on the next step. Book a free consultation on our website: lolaandmetherapyllc.com/book-with-us

05/14/2026

Narcissism is widely misunderstood, and we want to clear something up.

Clinically, narcissism exists on a spectrum. The more important question isn't "are they a narcissist?," it's "is there a pattern of manipulation, control, and emotional harm?"

Gaslighting. Projection. Blame shifting. Silent treatment. Triangulation. Intermittent affection. These behaviors aren't random. Understanding them shifts the question from "what's wrong with me?" to "what was happening to me?"

If that question is starting to land differently, we're here. Book a free consultation on our website: lolaandmetherapyllc.com/book-with-us

05/13/2026

Two of the most disorienting patterns in narcissistic abuse are gaslighting and projection. Follow along to learn what they actually look like.

Gaslighting makes you question your own reality. "That never happened." "You're too sensitive." Over time, you become dependent on the abuser to tell you what's real. Projection takes it further - suddenly you're the jealous one, the liar, the controlling one, even when none of it is true.

Both patterns quietly erode self-trust and deepen the bond. Naming them is part of breaking free.

If you're starting to recognize these patterns, you don't have to navigate it alone. Book a free consultation on our website: lolaandmetherapyllc.com/book-with-us

05/12/2026

One of the most misunderstood aspects of abusive relationships is why survivors stay.

Tori teaches us it's not weakness, it's hope. Hope that the person they fell in love with will come back. And that hope is constantly reinforced by apologies, promises, and moments of kindness that feel like proof things could change.

And then there's the reality that leaving is often the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship - a fact that deserves far more acknowledgment than it gets.

If this resonates with something you're living or have lived through, we're here when you're ready. Book a free consultation on our website: lolaandmetherapyllc.com/book-with-us

05/04/2026

05/02/2026

Understanding the cycle of abuse can be genuinely life-changing.

Tension builds. An incident occurs. Reconciliation follows (apologies, affection, promises.) Then calm returns, and hope renews. But the cycle restarts. This pattern isn't random. It's designed to maintain control and keep you attached.

Recognizing it is the beginning of reclaiming your reality. Book a free consultation on our website: lolaandmetherapyllc.com/book-with-us