Elliott Counseling Services

11/06/2024

There is a lot of power in focusing on small ways to take care of yourself. Take the moment and build your power.

11/05/2024

Election week can be challenging for many. Don't forget to check in with yourself and those you love.

09/25/2024

07/10/2024

Spiritual intimacy is much more than religious beliefs, though that can be included here. This type of intimacy has to do with sharing the same values and core beliefs. Does your moral compass point in the same direction as your partner's and can you discuss your values and beliefs with your partner in a way that feels vulnerable and safe? If so, then you likely share spiritual intimacy.

07/01/2024

Let's talk about Mental Intimacy. This type of intimacy is characterized by feeling mentally stimulated by your partner. You're able to discuss a wide variety of topics, including some more challenging areas of conversation. You can handle feelings that arise from being challenged by your partner because of the safety that is created and held in true intimacy.
Mental intimacy is important in your relationships because we need to be able to communicate about all sorts of things when we're in a relationship with another person. If we can't feel safe doing this, or we're not feeling particularly mentally stimulated when communicating with our partner, it may be a sign that we need to work on this area.

06/25/2024

This week I wanted to start a series about Intimacy, as this is something I work on with relationships all the time. Often when we think intimacy our head goes straight to physical intimacy, but that's actually only one area of intimacy. Over the next four weeks, I'll be highlighting four types of intimacy and this week we're starting with...Emotional Intimacy.
Emotional Intimacy is about feeling connected to another person. We feel well-respected by them, and as though we're safe and can be ourselves with them. We can bring them our emotions and be held in a way that feels good. We can be emotionally vulnerable with that person.
This type of intimacy is so important for relationships, as it sets us up to want to be intimate with our partners in other ways. If we feel emotionally connected to someone, we want to be connected in other ways, too.

06/21/2024

Happy Summer!!
To me, summer is a time for connecting with family and friends and having adventures. I especially love setting aside time to connect with my partner during this season.
How do you ensure you set aside time and space to connect with your loved ones this season?

06/19/2024

Lately I've felt a little overwhelmed and a little discouraged and I've noticed that when I feel these things, I act like an ostrich...and just bury my head in the sand! It got me thinking about what helps me pull my head out and face the feelings I'm feeling.
What makes you bury your head in the sand?
What helps you pull it out?

06/13/2024

Oh, I love conflict!! Sure it can be uncomfortable, but the deep connections that can grow from it are beautiful ❤️❤️

05/24/2024

However you choose to play this Memorial Day weekend, take a moment to pause and honor those that have given their lives to our country. Keeping a sense of play and challenging ourselves to learn and grow and serve our fellow humans are ways we can commit to honoring their memory.

05/22/2024

Becca says it best 🥰

when you’ve always had to be aware of others feelings in order to feel safe and loved, it’s hard to imagine that it’s not your job to manage others moods and feelings.

it’s not.

someone can be mad, frustrated, upset, disappointed etc. and it doesn’t mean you did something wrong or that you need to fix it.

I promise this doesn’t mean you will become inconsiderate or uncaring. It just means it is your job to tolerate the discomfort in YOU when someone else is having unpleasant feelings.

Do you take too much responsibility for others feelings/moods?

05/22/2024

I've noticed as I've gotten older that it can be hard for many of us to make friends as adults. I think this is for many reasons- proximity to others with a shared experience, other priorities such as family and work, anxiety or shyness- yet I also recognize the importance of friends and community in our lives. How do you make and/or maintain your friendships?