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01/09/2026

The grief is real: you thought they’d be in your life long-term, and the relationship turned out to be either toxic or misaligned to the extent where it could not continue.

❤️‍🩹Maybe you’re estranged
❤️‍🩹Maybe you’re navigating low or no contact
❤️‍🩹Maybe you’re setting new stronger boundaries
❤️‍🩹Maybe you’re just coming to the realization that the relationship is unhealthy and needs to change.

It’s important to remember that just because it doesn’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t valuable at some point. It doesn’t mean the love or connection wasn’t real. It simply means you are moving away from something outdated, mismatched, or harmful for you.

Honor the grief.
Be present with the grief.
And let it remind you that you are letting go of misalignment and opening yourself up for relationships that nurture, support, and love you in healthier ways.

⭐️📖 My new book is on this exact topic. Find “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO and everywhere books are sold.

01/08/2026

Over apologizers… how often were you apologized to? Likely not as often, or as genuinely, as you really needed.

Am I right?

So apologizing yourself to an extreme extent may have developed in you as a compensatory response to not getting this need for repair and healing you really needed, possibly for your entire life.

If this is you, drop ME in the comments.

⭐️📖 Here to support you with your most challenging relationships with my new book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO and everywhere books are sold.

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01/07/2026

In a toxic family, the healthiest person causes the most conflict because they call out the patterns and issues the rest of the system would rather shove under the rug.

The friction they cause is ultimately resistance to unhealthy dynamics, but on the surface it looks like drama. That’s how scapegoats are made.

If you’re a changemaker, if you’re saying no to unhealthy & toxic dynamics, it might seem on the surface that you’re the problem… but actually you’re likely the healthiest in the entire system.

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📖 For help navigating toxic family and challenging relationships, check out my new book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO and wherever books are sold.

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01/06/2026

Kind of funny—not funny—how toxic people are more committed to their unhealthy narrative than having openness for real healing and repair… even within families.

Why?
✔️Because they would rather label you the villain than look at themselves.
✔️Because in their mind, being “right” is more important than maintaining a relationship with you.
✔️Because their refusal to heal their own wounds and traumas are blinding them to the possibility for repair with you.
✔️Because they would rather be alone in the world than take accountability for the harm they caused.

I am a product of estranged family dynamics, and a therapist of nearly 20 years who works with estranged families.

If you’re like me, maybe you tried everything for years or decades… talking, explaining, tolerating, suffering… and you finally realized they’re never going to change, so the healthiest choice is to cut ties.

It’s not the easiest path, but sometimes it’s the safest and most free and healthy.

❤️If this is you, you’re not alone.

Drop a ❤️ if this connects for you.

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📖 For help navigating your most challenging relationships & family members, check out my new book “Mend or Move On” at my link.

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Even if they're family. Even if they're your spouse, longtime friend, or business partner... it is never ok for anyone t...
01/05/2026

Even if they're family. Even if they're your spouse, longtime friend, or business partner... it is never ok for anyone to treat you with harm or cruelty. Period.

You deserve for every relationship in your life feel safe--emotionally, psychologically, physically, spiritually. Safety is essential for trust, health, and growth on all levels. Without it, we spiral into internal chaos, disorder, and disease over time.

Let this quote from my new book "Mend or Move On" remind you that you don't have to endure relationships that harm you and take a toll on your mental and physical health. You get to design your life, and that includes your relationships. No matter who a person is and how close they are to you, if they harm you, it's always a relationship worth looking at.

If you find yourself at the Mend or Move On choice point with any relationship in your life, let my new book support you: https://theradiantlifeproject.com/mend-or-move-on-book

Thank you to my publisher, Johns Hopkins University Press

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01/05/2026

Maybe freedom is closer than you think… maybe only ONE decision away…

✨The decision to have the hard conversation
✨The decision to change the pattern and do something differently
✨The decision to say “Stop. No more of this. I’m done.”
✨The decision to walk away
✨The decision to end something and start anew.

❤️Tell me in the comments…. What’s the decision you’ve been trying not to make?

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📖NEW BOOK to help you navigate your most challenging relationships… “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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01/04/2026

But what if it burns a bridge? Maybe that’s part of the dysfunction…

One reason many people stay in unhealthy relationships is because they’re afraid to burn a bridge, damage their reputation, cause chaos or drama in their family, or incite some other negative consequence to walking away from the connection.
Have you considered that maybe the potential for burning the bridge is part of the problem? Healthy relationships that become misaligned don’t usually dissolve with burned bridges: they have the emotional maturity and goodwill to say goodbye and honor the transition with peace and well wishes.

Not all relationship endings have to result in burned bridges. If they do, it probably tracks with the unhealthy or toxic dynamics inherent in the relationship like codependency, manipulation, trauma bonding, or other unhealthy patterns.

Healthy dynamics can express gratitude for lessons learned and experiences had while wishing each other the best and saying goodbye. But that takes a level of maturity, accountability, and peacefulness that many dysfunctional and toxic relationships lack.

Some bridges cannot help but burn, despite your best efforts to avoid the drama. And if that’s what it takes to get free, light the match.

📚PS: I have a NEW BOOK all about how to navigate unhealthy relationships called “Mend or Move On.” Check it out at my LINK in BIO.

I’m so eager to hear what you’re calling in for yourself. For me, this year’s word is twofold: ✨ TAILWIND and ENOUGH…. ✨...
01/03/2026

I’m so eager to hear what you’re calling in for yourself.

For me, this year’s word is twofold:
✨ TAILWIND and ENOUGH…. ✨

I’m calling in a boost that carries me without needing so much effort and striving from me. And whatever it carries me… I’m going to let it be enough.

How about you? Drop your word(s) in the comments ⬇️

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📖 if you want healthier relationships in 2026, check out my new book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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01/03/2026

Trying harder is not the same as repairing harm.
Effort sounds like promises, apologies, and conversations.

Repair looks like consistent change over time.

If you are the only one adjusting, explaining, or waiting — that’s not growth. That’s tolerance.

Getting more comfortable with this distinction will help you stop looping and start choosing yourself.

📖 This topic is explored deeply in “Mend or Move On,” my new book. Find it at my LINK in BIO.

⭐️Comment “REPAIR” if this landed.

01/02/2026

Feeling used in a relationship means something is off - the value you are placing on the connection is different than the value your counterpart is placing. Here’s what I mean:

⭐️⭐️There are 3 primary types of relationships:

RELATIONSHIPS OF UTILITY are those that are transactional and lack much depth and intimacy. They are about fulfilling some type of need or function for each other.

RELATIONSHIPS OF PLEASURE are connections based on having fun and getting a positive boost from each other. They are not as deep and meaningful, but they bring good times.

RELATIONSHIPS OF APPRECIATION are your deepest, most meaningful relationships based on mutual trust, reciprocity, and emotional safety.

When you feel used, it means that someone else has seen the relationship as one of UTILITY, while you were hoping for something deeper - PLEASURE or APPRECIATION. It is an indication that there is mis-alignment in the fundamental understanding of the dynamic.

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⭐️📖 For help with your most challenging relationships, check out my new book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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Every new year I choose a word to set the intention I wish to hold for the months ahead. Last year my word was “Maybe”, ...
01/01/2026

Every new year I choose a word to set the intention I wish to hold for the months ahead. Last year my word was “Maybe”, and it really served me by helping me hold curiosity, openness, and possibility in the forefront.

For 2026, I feel a different type of intention brewing, and it’s going to take two words to capture it… The words I have chosen for the coming months are “Tailwind” and “Enough.” Though seemingly paradoxical at first, I now feel how these two words will work together for me in 2026:

✨TAILWIND✨
I feel the momentum picking up, the alignment and congruity – and it doesn’t come from grasping, chasing, efforting, and forcing. It’s an outside force that’s boosting my process and guiding me forward. 2026 will be about letting myself be carried and brought into flow. I welcome a tailwind to carry me forward in a positive direction I may not fully be able to see or understand yet. I welcome the current that allows me to surrender control and hang on for the wild, unpredictable, exciting ride towards highest alignment.

✨ENOUGH✨
It’s the sense of “it’s enough. You’ve done enough. You are enough. There is enough.” As so many of us experience, I can sometimes get caught on the hedonic treadmill of constant striving towards a vanishing horizon line that leaves me burned out, exhausted, and still somehow unfulfilled. This year I’m not feeling the striving anymore. I just don’t want to do it. I want to feel enoughness for what I’ve done, who I am, how things shake out. I want it all to just be enough, and I have a sense that it might actually feel that way in 2026.

I’m combining “tailwind” and “enough” for the new year to distill down to this singular intention:
✨✨May I allow a powerful, positive tailwind to boost and carry me towards my highest experiences, and may it all feel enough.✨✨

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What’s your word for 2026?
Drop it in the comments.

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📖✨ OH – grab my new book to help you navigate your most challenging relationships.
“Mend or Move On” right here:
https://theradiantlifeproject.com/mend-or-move-on-book

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01/01/2026

Sometimes relationships are healthier if the end. Not every connection is salvageable or worth saving.

Some relationships teach you how to close the door with peace rather than keep it open in suffering.
⭐️No hatred is necessary.
⭐️You can say no and still feel peaceful.
⭐️You can choose an ending with dignity and respect.

Not all relationships are meant to stay.
Not everyone deserves your heart.

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⭐️📖 For help navigating your most challenging relationships - and relationship endings - check out my new book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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