
05/12/2025
What makes us lonely?
Feeling connected is not just about having people in our lives, it is about the quality of our connections. It is about being truly seen. Belonging.
Being surrounded by others, even loved ones sometimes cannot combat feelings of loneliness. We may be linked to tons of people on social media, but as Esther Perel shares, that doesn't necessarily lead to strong connections and we can feel like “I have a thousand friends online but no one to feed my cat.”
According to Brene Brown, when we are spending time engaged in one sided or superficial online relationships we are missing out on time and energy that we could be investing in creating or maintaining quality, reciprocal and fulfilling relationships with people IRL.
Building and engaging in healthy relationships can be very challenging. If we have experienced bullying, exclusion, attachment trauma, betrayal or abuse, it can be even more difficult. It is a journey to learn the best ways that we can increase our authentic connection with ourselves, with others and with meaningful activities. https://ruthweinberg.com/