04/07/2026
Creating DeathWives with Lauren changed my whole life.
For a girl born wondering where we come from and where we go when we die, who experienced grief young, it was my wildest dream to build the very thing I needed:
A community of others who could see and feel beyond the ordinary.
And then Deathwives came together, like it was always meant to be. And like something always meant to be, it grew strong.
What began as community workshops became comprehensive curriculums. We wrote a whole body of knowledge. We took our passion on the road - from the mountains of Colorado to the skyline of New York City. From living rooms to classrooms to stages to screens. Thousands of you came to us to talk about death and dying.
You told us about your loved ones who died.
You showed us the scars on your hearts,
your resilience, your tenderness, and your talent.
You became friends and doulas.
Mary Oliver said that we must be able
to do three things:
to love what is mortal;
to hold it
against our bones knowing
our own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go.
The time has come for me to let Deathwives go.
I have been grieving this for over a year now.
I am so proud of Deathwives. We set out to change the narrative around death and dying, and we have. We don’t have to question the cosmos and grieve all alone anymore. There is a whole movement now.
And after decay comes renewal. Any death worker will tell you. So I will keep unfolding into new seasons and expressions of this work. You can find me here at Death Ed, where I will continue teaching grief and praise for as long as the Earth wants me.