Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Marriage counselor, psychologist and coach dedicated to your love, happiness and success. Access advice, articles and podcasts at www.GrowingSelf.com.
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"Like" to keep updates in your newsfeed! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, based in Denver, Colorado. She's the author of "Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love," and the host of The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Learn more about Dr. Bobby and her practice at www.growingself.com.

If you’re going from work straight into dinner/kids/partner/life and you feel snappy, numb, or overstimulated… listen: y...
03/31/2026

If you’re going from work straight into dinner/kids/partner/life and you feel snappy, numb, or overstimulated… listen: you don’t need to “try harder.” You need a transition.

Your brain doesn’t magically switch from battle mode to love mode just because you walked into your house. That’s why you’re home but not really present. And then you feel guilty. And it becomes a loop.

So here’s your assignment: take 10 minutes. Close a door. Change the sensory channel. Use the same cues every day so your nervous system learns, “𝗪𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝗶𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗲.”

👇 𝗤𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂: What 3 cues are you going to use for your 10-minute reset?
𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻: MUSIC + CLOTHES + (SHOWER/WALK)

🎧 Want the full strategy (plus how to stop rumination and reclaim your bandwidth)?
Listen to the full episode — 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀.

03/30/2026

You know what’s heartbreaking? Most couples don’t “fall out of love.”
They fall out of 𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱𝘄𝗶𝗱𝘁𝗵.

Because when work feels like a threat — deadlines, pressure, politics, money — it takes over your brain. And then you come home still in the 𝗳𝗼𝗴 𝗼𝗳 𝘄𝗮𝗿. So when your partner reaches for a hug or starts telling you about their day… it doesn’t feel sweet. It feels like an intrusion. Not because you don’t care. Because your nervous system hasn’t shifted gears yet.

And here’s the part that hits: even if you don’t say a word… you stiffen. You withdraw. They feel it. And that tiny moment repeats… until “life together” turns into logistics. Milk. Kids. Bills. No connection.

👇 𝗤𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻: When you get home, what do you need MOST before you can reconnect—quiet, alone time, movement, a shower, a snack, 10 minutes with no talking? Comment it.

🎧 Full episode is packed with practical tools to reset after work and protect your relationship—listen at the 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀.

“You have to love yourself first.”If you’ve ever heard that and thought…“𝗢𝗸𝗮𝘆. 𝗖𝗼𝗼𝗹. 𝗛𝗢𝗪?” 😵‍💫you’re not alone.Because h...
03/28/2026

“You have to love yourself first.”

If you’ve ever heard that and thought…
“𝗢𝗸𝗮𝘆. 𝗖𝗼𝗼𝗹. 𝗛𝗢𝗪?” 😵‍💫
you’re not alone.

Because here’s the missing piece: 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗮 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗴𝗲𝘁.
It’s a way of treating yourself.
A choice. An action. A relationship you build from the inside out.

Not narcissism.
Not “I deserve this” as an excuse to blow up your life.
More like becoming the steady, kind, wise voice in your own corner—especially on the days you’re struggling.

🎧 I’m breaking down what “love yourself first” actually means… and how to practice it in real life.

👉 𝗚𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗻𝗼𝘄 (link in the comments / wherever you get your podcasts).
💬 And 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗼𝘄: When you hear “love yourself first,” what’s the hardest part for you—believing you deserve it, or knowing what to do next?

“Self-love” gets misunderstood all the time.I’ve heard it used to justify things that actually hurt people… and hurt you...
03/27/2026

“Self-love” gets misunderstood all the time.

I’ve heard it used to justify things that actually hurt people… and hurt you.
Self-indulgence. Avoidance. Blame-shifting. Even betrayal.
All wearing the costume of “I’m just loving myself.”

But in this episode, I’m offering a different definition:
Self-love is the choice to support your genuine wellbeing.
Not the quick fix. Not the impulse.
The steady, grounded decision your future self can stand on.

🎧 Listen to the LHS Classic: How to Love Yourself at the link in the comments
💬 Now you: What’s one thing you sometimes confuse for “self-love”… that’s really just coping? (No judgment. Just awareness.)

Rule of thumb: 𝗱𝗼𝗻’t 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗿-𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿-𝗼𝗹𝗱. 🧃🍎Not because you “should” be perfect…...
03/26/2026

Rule of thumb: 𝗱𝗼𝗻’t 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗮 𝗳𝗼𝘂𝗿-𝘆𝗲𝗮𝗿-𝗼𝗹𝗱. 🧃🍎

Not because you “should” be perfect…
But because 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-l𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗮 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗴. 𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗮 𝗽𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲. It’s the small, everyday choices that say: “I’m worth taking care of.”

And here’s the real twist: this isn’t about deprivation.
It’s about becoming the kind, steady, emotionally safe “inner grown-up” who looks out for you—
the same way you would for someone you adore.

🎧 In this LHS Classic, I’m talking about 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳-𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 (not narcissism, not self-indulgence, and definitely not another reason to beat yourself up).

👉 Go listen now (link in the comments / wherever you get podcasts).
💬 And tell me in the comments: 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗵𝗼𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 “𝗶𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗿 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁” 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸?

Not your advice.Not your solutions.Not your perfectly-worded text.Your presence.Because when someone is hurting, what th...
03/25/2026

Not your advice.
Not your solutions.
Not your perfectly-worded text.

Your presence.

Because when someone is hurting, what they’re really asking is: “Will you stay with me?”
And in a world where everyone’s half-listening and half-scrolling… being fully there is rare. And it’s powerful.

Try this today:
📵 Put your phone face down.
👀 Look them in the eyes.
🫶 Say: “I’m here. Tell me.”

That’s how you build the kind of friendship that actually holds you.

👇 Question: What helps you feel most cared for — someone listening or someone helping you fix it?
Tell me in the comments.

And if you want more on building real connection, listen to the full episode — link in the comments.

Let me tell you something that might hit you right in the chest:You can have tons of contacts… and still feel lonely.Bec...
03/24/2026

Let me tell you something that might hit you right in the chest:

You can have tons of contacts… and still feel lonely.

Because loneliness isn’t about not having people.
It’s about not feeling 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄𝗻.

In this week’s episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m talking with Barnet Bain about why adult friendships fade… and how to build the kind that actually holds you.

Here’s what I want you to do after reading this:

Pick ONE person you miss.

Send the “no pressure” text from Slide 3.

And practice the magic phrase from Slide 4:
“𝗗𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗼𝗿 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻?”

That’s how you start changing your life. Not someday. Today.

👇 QUESTION FOR YOU:
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗳𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄?
A) Making new friends
B) Keeping friendships alive
C) Feeling like you’re always the one reaching out
D) Going deeper (real closeness)

Drop A/B/C/D in the comments (or tell me your real answer).
And listen to the full episode at the link in the comments.

03/23/2026

Let’s talk about what a real friend does.

A real friend doesn’t just “hang out.” They call you upward. They make it easier to be brave. Kinder. More generous. And listen — in a cynical world where sarcasm is basically a personality trait and tearing people down gets laughs, that kind of friendship doesn’t happen by accident. It’s a skill. And it takes intention.

But here’s the part most people miss: safety is the price of admission. If someone doesn’t feel emotionally safe with you, the friendship will never get deep. And “safe” doesn’t mean you wrap them in bubble wrap. It means one simple rule: you never weaponize their vulnerability. Not later in an argument. Not as a joke. Not with a third person. Ever.

Try this today:
When a friend shares something tender, say:
“Thank you for trusting me. I’m here.”
Then shut up and listen.

👇 Question for you: What makes you feel most safe with someone — their loyalty or their non-judgment?

Drop your answer in the comments.

And if you want the full conversation on building friendships that actually hold you, listen to the episode here: https://vist.ly/4vvhb

That line is a 𝗴𝘂𝘁-𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗰𝗸. Because if you’re honest, most of us were taught how to plan a wedding… not how to handle mone...
03/21/2026

That line is a 𝗴𝘂𝘁-𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗰𝗸. Because if you’re honest, most of us were taught how to plan a wedding… not how to handle money fights, emotional shutdowns, stress, intimacy changes, or the little daily stuff that quietly turns into resentment. Love is real. Love matters. But love isn’t a strategy. 𝗦𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲.

So I want to know — and I want you to say it in the comments: 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 “𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗹𝗹” 𝗱𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗱 𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗿?
Communication? Fighting fair? Repairing after conflict? Setting boundaries with family? Talking about money? 👇

🎧 If you want the roadmap for building those skills before things get hard, listen to the full episode — link in the comments.

Premarital counseling isn’t a red flag.It’s a 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝘃𝗲.Because here’s the trap so many couples fall into: you’re happy...
03/20/2026

Premarital counseling isn’t a red flag.
It’s a 𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗺𝗼𝘃𝗲.

Because here’s the trap so many couples fall into: you’re happy, you’re in love, everything feels easy… and you assume that means you’re “set.” But love doesn’t magically teach you how to handle 𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘆, 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗹𝗶𝗰𝘁, 𝘀𝗲𝘅, 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀, and the daily stuff that can quietly turn into resentment. The BEST time to build the skills is when you
still like each other. When you’re still on the same team.

So I want to ask you something — and I want you to answer it honestly in the comments:
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗢𝗡𝗘 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗮𝘃𝗼𝗶𝗱𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗻𝗲𝗿?
Money? Kids? S*x? In-laws? Division of labor? How you fight?
Drop it below. No judgment. Just truth. 👇

🎧 And if you want the roadmap for how to have those conversations without blowing things up, listen to the full episode — link in the comments.

03/19/2026

Relationships are like cars — and I need you to hear this: 𝗶𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗰𝗸 𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗼𝗻, 𝗽𝘂𝘁𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗮𝗽𝗲 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗶𝘁 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗶𝘁 𝗴𝗼 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝘆. 😅

Most couples don’t break because they don’t love each other. They break because they wait years to talk about the thing that’s been bothering them… until it’s not a quick fix anymore. And then one person is ready to repair it… and the other person is already shopping for a whole new relationship.

So here’s your question (answer in the comments 👇):
𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 “𝗰𝗵𝗲𝗰𝗸 𝗲𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁” 𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗻𝗼𝘄?
Money? Intimacy? Communication? Division of labor? Family boundaries? The way you fight—or don’t?

🎧 Want the tools to handle it before it turns into a whole new engine? Listen to the full episode — link in the comments.

True love involves loving and respecting both yourself and your partner—setting healthy boundaries, appreciating strengt...
03/18/2026

True love involves loving and respecting both yourself and your partner—setting healthy boundaries, appreciating strengths, and navigating flaws with compassion. There is an important balance between acceptance and self-care: enduring hardship is not the price of unconditional love.

Reflect on your relationship—are you honoring both your needs and your partner’s? If you’re facing challenges, remember: focusing on what’s good while respectfully addressing what’s hard can lead to greater fulfillment.

How do you practice loving yourself and your partner, even through imperfections? Share your wisdom below or tag a friend who needs this reminder!

Head to the link in the comments to listen to the full episode.

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