Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

05/30/2026

Read that again:

“Missing someone is not proof you belong together.”

Because this is where so many people get trapped after a breakup.

You miss them.
You crave contact.
You replay the memories.
You think about texting them 47 times a day.

And your brain immediately turns that into:
“Maybe we’re supposed to be together.”

No.

That feeling is attachment.

Your nervous system got bonded to this person emotionally, psychologically, even chemically. Of course it hurts when that connection is broken. Of course your brain wants relief.

But missing someone is not the same thing as being safe with them.
It’s not the same thing as compatibility.
And it’s definitely not proof that the relationship was healthy.

I need you to stop treating longing like destiny.

Sometimes healing starts when you finally accept that your feelings are real… but they are not instructions.

𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗛𝗕𝗥 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹 𝗲𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 ❤️

05/29/2026

One of the hardest parts of heartbreak is that nobody teaches you what actually helps.

People say:
“Just move on.”
“Get over it.”
“Stop thinking about them.”

That’s not how attachment works.

In this episode, Jesse Stanley and I break down the REAL reasons people stay stuck for months—or years—after a breakup, and the specific actions that actually help you heal.
Including:
✔️ why closure is overrated
✔️ why your brain keeps craving contact
✔️ how social media keeps people emotionally trapped
✔️ the fastest way to reclaim your identity after heartbreak

And honestly? This conversation is hopeful.

Because healing is not about becoming someone else. It’s about coming back to yourself.

𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗛𝗕𝗥 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹 𝗲𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸.

05/29/2026

One of the reasons people stay stuck after heartbreak is because they think:

“If the relationship ended badly… was any of it even real?”

I want you to hear this clearly:
A painful ending does not erase the good parts of the relationship.

And the good parts do not mean you should still be together.

That’s the trap.

In this conversation, Jesse Stanley shares one of my favorite analogies ever: relationships are like airplanes.

Not every plane is your final destination.

Some relationships teach you something.
Some help you grow.
Some bring beautiful moments into your life.
And some end with turbulence, heartbreak, or a really rough landing.

But that doesn’t mean the entire flight was meaningless.

You are allowed to say:
“That relationship mattered to me.”
AND:
“That relationship is no longer right for me.”

Both things can be true at the same time.

That’s what real closure looks like.

Not waiting for your ex to finally explain themselves.
Not getting one more conversation.
Not getting the perfect apology.

Closure is when YOU decide to stop emotionally outsourcing your peace.

Full episode link in the comments ❤️

05/27/2026

05/26/2026

The older I get, the more I realize this:

A huge percentage of our problems come from reacting too fast.

Fast texts.
Fast assumptions.
Fast defensiveness.
Fast anger.
Fast posting.
Fast words we wish we could take back.

And in this conversation with former Buddhist monk Sam Yo, he shared one of the simplest emotional regulation tools I’ve ever heard:

Before you react, ask yourself:

Is it true?
Is it necessary?
Is it kind?

That pause right there?
That’s emotional intelligence.
That’s nervous system regulation.
That’s self-respect.

Because when someone hurts you, triggers you, disappoints you, or catches you off guard, you always have two choices:

React automatically…
Or respond intentionally.

One creates more chaos.
The other creates peace.

And honestly? Most of us were never taught there was a difference.

𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗦𝗧𝗢𝗣 𝗢𝗩𝗘𝗥𝗧𝗛𝗜𝗡𝗞𝗜𝗡𝗚 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹 𝗲𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲.

05/23/2026

Read this again:

“Your brain is very good at getting you deep into your stories. It’s terrible at getting you out.”

That is why overthinking feels so convincing.

Your brain keeps telling you:
“Keep going. Keep analyzing. Keep replaying it. You’re almost there.”

Meanwhile… you’re losing sleep, losing perspective, and losing trust in yourself.

In this episode, we talk about why rumination happens, why it’s becoming more common, and the practical tools you can use to interrupt the spiral before it hijacks your entire nervous system.

Because you do not need to believe every thought your fear creates.

And honestly? That realization can change your life.

If you want tools to stop overthinking in real time, 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗥𝗨𝗠𝗜𝗡𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝘂𝗹𝗹 𝗲𝗽𝗶𝘀𝗼𝗱𝗲.

05/22/2026

I think a lot of people secretly believe that if they just think hard enough, analyze enough, or replay the situation enough… they’ll finally feel in control.

But that’s not clarity.
That’s rumination.

In this week’s episode, Donna Jackson Nakazawa and I talked about how overthinking is often an old survival response dressed up as “problem solving.”

And honestly? Once you see it, you can’t unsee it.

One of the most powerful things you can do is stop arguing with the spiral and start observing it instead.

That’s where change begins.

So tell me in the comments:
𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀 𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘂𝗽 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁?

And if you haven’t listened to this episode yet, you need to. It’s one of the most practical conversations we’ve had in a long time. 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗥𝗨𝗠𝗜𝗡𝗔𝗧𝗜𝗢𝗡 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝘀𝗲𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸!

05/21/2026

Most people don’t realize they’re not just overthinking a situation…

They’re replaying an old story.

The brain creates these “movie montages” — mental reels that load automatically when something feels emotionally threatening.

Maybe the story is:
“I’m not enough.”
“I always get dismissed.”
“I have to work harder to matter.”
“There’s never enough.”

And the wild part?

Your brain will keep replaying that same emotional film until you stop long enough to notice the story underneath it.

That’s why awareness is so powerful.

Noticing the pattern doesn’t make you weak. It makes you conscious.

And one of the most important things Donna Jackson Nakazawa shared in this conversation is this:
Your brain responds most strongly to your own words.

So instead of spiraling, try naming the story directly:
“Here’s my old story…”

Because once you can name the pattern, you can begin separating yourself from it.

Check the link to the full episode in the comments.

05/19/2026

I don’t think parents need more shame around screen time.
I think we need better information.

In this week’s podcast episode, I sat down with tech founder Rob LoCascio — someone who helped build parts of the digital world we’re all now trying to manage as parents.

And honestly? One thing he said stopped me cold:

“The people building these systems often don’t let their own kids use them freely.”

That tells us something.

This episode is not anti-technology. It’s about becoming more intentional before the algorithm starts shaping our children’s brains, emotions, attention spans, and identities for us.

So let me ask you:
👉 What screen time boundary has helped MOST in your family?

Drop it in the comments — your idea could help another parent today.

And be sure to listen to the full episode. Link in the comments.