01/13/2026
A Grief I Can’t Ignore
I’ve been sitting with a deep sadness the past few days. Not just about what’s happening in our state, or even in our own town but about the way people are speaking about it. About the ease with which human lives are reduced to talking points. About how quickly compassion disappears when fear, politics, or ideology take the wheel.
Reading the comments from people in our own communities has been heartbreaking.
Celebrating death.
Mocking grief.
Justifying dehumanization.
Shrugging at children being traumatized.
And what unsettles me most is how often it’s wrapped in the language of righteousness even Christianity. I grew up Christian. I know the teachings many claim to stand on: love your neighbor, care for the vulnerable, welcome the stranger, protect children, act with humility. So when I see people who identify as “Christian” openly mocking suffering, dismissing fear, or reducing entire groups of people to “deserving” or “undeserving,” something inside me breaks a little.
This isn’t about politics.
This isn’t about left vs. right.
This is about humanity.
It’s about the dangerous normalization of cruelty. It’s about how easy it has become to speak about real people mothers, children, elders, Native communities, immigrants, citizens as if they are abstractions instead of lives. And I think we need to be honest about something uncomfortable: When we say things like “If they did nothing wrong, they have nothing to fear,” or “Just let them do their jobs,” we ignore the countless documented stories of people who did nothing wrong and were still harmed, detained, separated, or traumatized. We ignore how power operates. We ignore history. We ignore lived experience.
Awareness matters.
Nuance matters.
Listening matters.
We are living in a time where fear is being fed, and fear makes people forget their values. It makes people choose obedience over empathy, certainty over curiosity, punishment over care. But we are not powerless. We can choose to pause before commenting. We can choose to ask harder questions. We can choose to see the humanity in people we don’t understand. We can choose to remember that laws and systems are not sacred, human life is.
If your faith teaches love, let it show up in how you speak. If your values include dignity, let them apply to everyone. If you believe in justice, let it be rooted in compassion, not cruelty.
This post isn’t meant to shame. It’s an invitation to wake up. To look beyond slogans. To look beyond comment sections. To look at what’s really happening and how we are becoming in response. Because the loss of empathy doesn’t happen all at once. It happens comment by comment. Laugh by laugh. Justification by justification.
And that’s something we should all be deeply concerned about.