11/10/2024
There’s a couple sitting across from me in my office. They’ve been together for a few years, but lately, something feels off. He says, “I just want her to understand me.” She responds, “I just want to feel like I matter.”
I often wish I could record and share sessions so that you could benefit from the profound work of couples therapy. Since I cannot do that, I have created a series of relationship posts - maybe 20-ish. Here are a few things I think you should know...
First, consideration—showing you care about the small things—is one of the highest forms of love.
Next, empathy: being fully present and saying, “I’m here, you’re not alone.”
And then, validation. Letting your partner know, “Your feelings are real, and they matter to me.” These are the moments that rebuild trust.
Lastly, (for today) allow your partner to be their authentic, autonomous self. It's ok for their individuality to shine. Their light doesn't dim yours.