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04/29/2026

Motivation is fueled by a release of dopamine in the brain. Our motivation can fade because we’ve gotten into a pattern of needing a big dopamine spike to feel motivated. How we correct that is by setting small goals and appreciating them when we complete them.
The biblical equivalent of this is, “seek and ye shall find.” The problem is we are sometimes seeking big things, when we could be seeking small things, and finding. In the culmination of seeking, and finding smaller things we eventually seek, and find bigger things.

Take David for example, he didn’t achieve the goal of killing Goliath on day one, but over many years of preparation. First, he had to learn how to watch over sheep. Then to learn how to throw a rock in a sling. He then had to learn how to become accurate with the sling. He also had to learn how to protect sheep from predators, and so on. He probably wasn’t even anticipating to kill a giant one day, but his continually seeking, and finding created a discipline in him that would eventually motivate him to face a giant.

04/14/2026

90-95 percent of our behavior is subconscious patterns that we have habitually developed. This is controlled by what we believe about ourselves and the world. This is why Jesus continually told people according to your faith be it unto you. Your world will form itself around what you believe.

04/08/2026

This is a good reason to see a counselor.

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03/16/2026

This is a video you may find helpful if you struggle with anxiety.

In this powerful and hope-filled episode of Focus on the Family, Dr. Gregory Jantz joins Jim Daly to explore how anxiety—now the most common mental health di...

03/02/2026

Psalm 101 is a reminder of the statement: show me your friends and I’ll show you your future. Our friends not only include people we interact with but also with people we watch on social media or read behind in books.

02/19/2026

If you are courageous in light of your vulnerability,and truthful, then you will bring forth goodness out of potential.

02/14/2026

If you are uncertain about where you are going, and why that can make you chronically stressed.
The solution to this is to figure out what you want to do.

02/09/2026

An individual convinced against their will is of the same opinion still.

…”The servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men…”
2Timothy 2:24

02/05/2026

The Be-Do-Have Principle,
often associated with personal development and success, argues that one should first "Be" (embody a state of mind/character), then "Do" (take actions consistent with that state), in order to "Have" (achieve desired results). This reverse order, compared to the conventional "have-do-be" mindset, emphasizes creating success from within.
Be (Mindset/Character): Focus on the person you need to be to achieve your goals (e.g., confident,, disciplined, loving).
Do (Action): Perform actions aligned with that mindset.
Have (Results): The outcomes that follow naturally from being and doing.
Key Principles of "Be-Do-Have":
It's a "Be-Do-Have" model, not a "Have-Do-Be" model: The traditional, often ineffective, approach is to wait for "having" something (e.g., money) before "being" who you want to be.
Living "As If": You act, feel, and think as if you have already achieved your desired goal.
Consistency: Your actions ("do") must be consistent with your inner state ("be").
Examples:
Success: Instead of "I'll be happy when I have success," you "be" successful (confident/proactive) in your mindset, "do" the work, and then "have" the success.
Parenting: Instead of "If I had more time, I'd be a better parent," you "be" a present parent now, which dictates doing actions like reducing hours.
Leadership: A leader must be responsible and confident to do the work needed to have a successful team.

01/21/2026

The Bible teaches us to honor those who are above us. Why is that? Well, for one thing it’s because we are going to become that person to some extent and so honoring them is honoring our future self.

01/20/2026

Good stuff.