Couple Forward

Couple Forward The Map is Not the Territory. We live in a relational world, and often our largest challenges center around our relationships.

I write about & help people navigate what it costs when we forget that — and what becomes possible when we remember, starting in their most intimate relationships. All of us have a global belief system in relation to our self and others. These core beliefs fuel our goals and shape the meanings we make about our lives. When faced with situations that fail to make sense to those internal stories, ou

r relationships feel out of control, vulnerable, and stressed. Each one of us is on a journey, and sometimes the best choice is to consult a guide who can help us reach our destination. If you desire a vibrant relationship, I can help. I understand the art and science of love and can help yours move forward. I've been married for 22 years and have spent all of my adult life helping others achieve their relationship goals. I've been specifically trained and licensed as a marriage and family therapist, and I would be honored to help you too

05/05/2026
I have figured out that being man has four legs, like a good stool, the four Ps.Protection: emotionally, physically, spi...
05/05/2026

I have figured out that being man has four legs, like a good stool, the four Ps.

Protection: emotionally, physically, spiritually
Provision: food, shelter, resource, teaching, wisdom
Presence: listening actively, undistracted, leaning in & forward
Partnership: noting is too small, everything is my job

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In 1847, women were dying in a Vienna maternity ward at five times the rate of the ward next door.Same hospital. Same ci...
05/03/2026

In 1847, women were dying in a Vienna maternity ward at five times the rate of the ward next door.

Same hospital. Same city. Same year.

A Hungarian physician named Ignaz Semmelweis traced it to the medical students coming straight from autopsies without washing their hands. The solution was simple. His colleagues refused.

Not because the evidence was weak. Because accepting it meant they had been the cause all along.

The most dangerous thing you can say to someone you love is "I know you."

In 1847, women were dying in a Vienna maternity ward at five times the rate of the ward next door. Same hospital. Same city. Same year. A Hungarian physician named Ignaz Semmelweis traced it to the medical students coming straight from autopsies without washing their hands. The solution was simple.....

Kepler had his own inherited assumption. He believed the planets moved in perfect circles. The circles were Plato’s. The...
05/02/2026

Kepler had his own inherited assumption. He believed the planets moved in perfect circles. The circles were Plato’s. The circles were Copernicus’s. The circles were everyone’s. They had been the orthodoxy for almost two thousand years.

On the Inherited.

Certainty is not a sign that you are right.It is a sign that you are invested.The nervous system defends a threatened ma...
05/02/2026

Certainty is not a sign that you are right.

It is a sign that you are invested.

The nervous system defends a threatened map the way it defends a threatened life. Because at some level, they are the same thing. Your model of reality is what you navigate by. Challenge the model and the body responds as if survival is at stake.

This is why you can be completely wrong about someone and feel completely certain at the same time.

Certainty is not evidence. It is attachment to the rendering.

The map is not the territory. I write about what it costs when we forget that — and what becomes possible when we remember. Click to read The Map Is Not the Territory, by Christian J Charette, LMFT, a Substack publication. Launched 3 months ago.

To love someone well is to love them with the same generosity and charity that we love children. With children we always...
04/18/2026

To love someone well is to love them with the same generosity and charity that we love children. With children we always think in 3D. We are instinctively aware that their grumpy tantrum represents something missing, a nap, some food, attention. We often forget this truth when it comes to our partner, who is always seeking their most unmet need in development and life with us.

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A year in the making! The Inner Compass Assessment for Relationships is here! Amber and I sat at Starbucks a year ago an...
04/13/2026

A year in the making! The Inner Compass Assessment for Relationships is here!

Amber and I sat at Starbucks a year ago and had a brainstorm of building a better assessment. Not just an assessment that labeled the problems, but an assessment that offered people matched solutions-so they didn’t have to waste their time. Psychology is long on problems and short on solutions.

This assessment takes 20 years of experience and helps identify the code running a nervous system underneath the relationship patterns and offers solutions you can start today!

Your nervous system has a plan for every situation. You've never seen it. Map your operating system for $79.

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