Restoring Wellness

09/25/2025

Motherhood was never meant to be measured against perfection. Read that again.

The comparison is putting so much added weight on you. Wondering if you're doing enough, if you're falling behind, if you're somehow failing.

Motherhood is hard because the load is heavy, not because you're inadequate.

There's no handbook or guide. And the fact that you're wondering if you're doing it right means you are.

Trust your gut and love your kids. That's all they need from you.

09/23/2025

Postpartum moms are exhausted, overwhelmed, and usually unsure what would help most.

Stop making empty offers. Instead, be specific and tell her what support you can and will offer.

Instead of "let me know what you need!" try "I'll drop by around 3:00 to take your older kiddo to the park for a bit so you can get a nap in."

Specific offers take the pressure off her to decide what would be most helpful and the stress/fear of asking for that help.

09/22/2025

It's time to audit your energy 🔋

If you do more things that raise your energy, you can do more in general. Time isn't the thing you're running out of (though it may feel that way). It's your energy.

Do a quick audit of where your energy is being spent and remove the things that drain you.

How?

📆 Look at your calendar and/or jot down what you did in the past week. Be as specific as possible.
🪫 Label each activity GREEN (gave energy) or RED (drained energy).
🔁 Look for patterns. What shows up as red? Reschedule, delegate or eliminate those tasks.

For each red item, ask yourself:
- Does this need to happen?
- If yes, does it have to be done by me?
- If yes, how can I make it more enjoyable?

You won't be able to eliminate every red task and that's okay! But cutting out even a couple can make a big difference.

Give this a try and let us know if it helped you protect your energy.

09/17/2025

If you're reading this and thinking "I've said or thought that before" on more than one attachment style, we have a little PSA for you...

Attachment isn't a one-size-fits-all. It's living, relational patterns, shaped by who you are and what you've experienced.

You can carry patterns from multiple attachment styles. Different relationships can bring out different feelings too. You might feel more secure in one but anxious in another.

Understanding your attachment patterns is a great first step towards healing and forming healthy relationships.

09/17/2025

What makes being a therapist worth it? You 🫶🏼

All of our amazing clients. Seeing you heal and grow and do hard things. We appreciate your trust in us. We're so glad you choose us to be a safe space for you. You make our job rewarding as heck!

09/12/2025

Shouting a big HAPPY BIRTHDAY to our girl, Sophie! 🎂 We couldn't do what we do without you.

Join us in wishing Sophie the happiest of birthdays!

09/11/2025

Open letters to those who have recently been affected by tragedy. Words are hardly enough, but we hope ours offer even the smallest bit of comfort.

If you are grieving these tragedies, we see you and we're here for you. Your feelings are valid. You're allowed to feel them.

09/10/2025

Can you spot the lie? 🤥

Trauma takes over your entire body and nervous system. Talk therapy is a great tool but we need more than that to heal from trauma.

Therapy focuses on understanding, but that's only one piece of the puzzle. Neuroscience shows that trauma recovery also requires releasing tension in your body and activating your nervous system.

Healing tools beyond therapy:
- Breathwork: Relieves trauma stored in your nervous system.
- ART: Reprocesses those memories that are stuck in your head.
- Brainspotting: Uses the brain + body to release trapped emotions.

09/09/2025

Your nervous system listens to the way you breathe, the pace you move. It knows when you're getting burnt out, depleted, anxious, or overwhelmed.

Gentle reminders to let your body know you are safe here can help you regulate your nervous system.

09/07/2025

We got to participate in another Telegraph Herald interview, this one written by Grace Burwell.

This time, the conversation was less about us and more about the support, or lack thereof, in our community when it comes to parenting. The article dives into technology and the role it plays in raising kids. While we all think about this, we didn’t expect it to become the main theme that came out of Grace’s parent and community member interviews.

So now we’re curious: is this as big of a theme in your home as it is in this article? If so, how can we, at Restoring Wellness, help support and offset the challenges you face in parenting when it comes to technology? Let us know in the comments, or send us a DM.

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One morning in August, four local moms looped through the Dubuque Arboretum and Botanical Gardens with strollers in hand. They discussed their worries, including where to send their kids to

09/05/2025

You don't always have to know exactly what you need. But these questions can help you reconnect to yourself when you're overwhelmed to help you figure out where to start.