Dr. Sophia

Original Grief© Therapist • Speaker • Author • Podcast Host Grief Therapist • Speaker • Author • Podcast Host

09/27/2025

There are many ways we can withhold love in relationships, and often we do not even realize we are doing it. Withholding can look like avoidance, when one person simply shuts down and refuses to engage. It can look like silence, when we hold back what needs to be said. It can appear as anger, when instead of expressing vulnerability, we lash out. It can even show up in humor, when we make jokes rather than deal with painful or uncomfortable feelings.

Sometimes withholding happens when we pretend everything is fine and refuse to talk about tough topics. It can also appear as a lack of affection or a general detachment from the relationship.

These patterns may not seem harmful in the moment, but over time they drain a relationship of safety and connection. Withholding love is a “love killer.” Real intimacy requires honesty, presence, and care. When we choose withholding instead, we starve the very bond that keeps us close.

09/26/2025

Maddie and Dr. Sophia are thrilled to announce a brand-new couples intensive designed for those ready to courageously step into deeper connection and intimacy.

This unique intensive will guide couples through:
✨ Advanced intimacy skills
✨ Experiential healing of Ambiguous Grief—the grief of losing the former relationship due to s*x addiction and betrayal trauma
✨ Transformation into a new trust and a chosen relationship built on focused intimacy

In this safe, small-group setting, couples will not only process grief but also learn about the 12 Types of Intimacy© and practice the skills necessary to thrive together in authentic, lasting connection.

📩 For more information or to register, please contact Dr. Sophia at sophia@queencityhealthys*x.com

Step bravely into healing. Step bravely into intimacy. 💜

09/26/2025

Trauma has a way of showing up even after we’ve worked so hard to heal. 💔
It can bubble up unexpectedly, re-surfacing in ways that remind us just how deep the wounds go. This is especially true when we face ambiguous grief—the kind of grief that comes without closure, without clear answers, and often without others fully understanding it.

If this is where you find yourself, please know: you are not “going backwards.” You are human. Healing is not a straight line, and even when triggers return, it doesn’t erase the progress you’ve made.

✨ God is near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). He sees every tear, every trigger, and every step you take toward wholeness.

Keep leaning into Him, keep practicing self-care, and remember—you are not alone on this journey.

09/15/2025

It may not feel like it now, but your grief carries within it the seeds of transformation. 🌱

When honored and supported, grief doesn’t just hurt — it heals, reshapes, and empowers. That’s the super-healing power of grief Dr. Sophia will guide you into in this intimate workshop.

If betrayal has left you lost in pain, this workshop offers a way forward.

📅 Sept 17 | Noon–5pm EST | Zoom
✨ Register → https://be8c-sophia.systeme.io/8b58ff92

09/11/2025

Just one more day to register for this amazing workshop!

Are you a Partner who has experienced s*xual betrayal trauma? Have you been cheated on and lied to? Has your husband/partner been living a double life?
Whether you are choosing to remain in the relationship and trying to work things out, or you are choosing to leave the relationship, there is deep grief that must be processed through, so YOU CAN FULLY HEAL! Grief is the Super Power of Healing Work, and this Partners Grief Workshop can teach you how to feel better.

Link to purchase workshop:
https://be8c-sophia.systeme.io/8b58ff92

09/10/2025

Hi, I’m Dr. Sophia, psychotherapist and host of the Queen City Healthy S*x Podcast—now part of the Queen City Podcast Network! 🌟

In this episode, I introduce myself and share what I do in my practice:

S*x therapy & s*x addiction

Love addiction & codependency

Intimacy, connection & relationships

Grief, trauma & deep root cause work

I’m excited to expand my practice to Charlotte and focus on couples therapy and building meaningful connections. We’ll explore how our early experiences shape our adult relationships and how therapy can help us cultivate quality intimacy and connection in all areas of life.

I also touch on the importance of connection in times of crisis—like the recent impacts of Hurricane Helene in North Carolina—and how our brains are hardwired for closeness and support. 🤝💛

📧 Got topics you want me to cover? Reach out at mailto:sophia@queencityhealthys*x.com

Listen now: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1T7VcX1I6VoZYlpZkEIENF?si=-uuVdh57TiuQTX1usXDNrw

Let’s connect, learn, and grow together!

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09/10/2025

Are you a Partner who has experienced s*xual betrayal trauma? Have you been cheated on and lied to? Has your husband/partner been living a double life?
Whether you are choosing to remain in the relationship and trying to work things out, or you are choosing to leave the relationship, there is deep grief that must be processed through, so YOU CAN FULLY HEAL! Grief is the Super Power of Healing Work, and this Partners Grief Workshop can teach you how to feel better. Last Day to register is September 12th!

Link to purchase workshop:
https://be8c-sophia.systeme.io/8b58ff92

09/09/2025

Are you a Partner who has experienced s*xual betrayal trauma? Have you been cheated on and lied to? Has your husband/partner been living a double life?
Whether you are choosing to remain in the relationship and trying to work things out, or you are choosing to leave the relationship, there is deep grief that must be processed through, so YOU CAN FULLY HEAL! Grief is the Super Power of Healing Work, and this Partners Grief Workshop can teach you how to feel better.
Link to purchase workshop:
https://be8c-sophia.systeme.io/8b58ff92

09/08/2025

After betrayal, many partners feel shame for grieving. “Why am I so broken? Why can’t I move on?”

But grief is not a flaw. It’s your heart recognizing the magnitude of what was lost — the dreams, the trust, the love you gave. 💔

This grief deserves space, compassion, and guidance. That’s why we created the Partner Grief Workshop — a safe, supportive group experience where you can begin to heal.

📅 Sept 17 | 12–5pm EST | Zoom
✨ Sign up → https://be8c-sophia.systeme.io/8b58ff92

09/05/2025

Are you a Partner who has experienced s*xual betrayal trauma? Have you been cheated on and lied to? Has your husband/partner been living a double life?

Whether you are choosing to remain in the relationship and trying to work things out, or you are choosing to leave the relationship, there is deep grief that must be processed through, so YOU CAN FULLY HEAL! Grief is the Super Power of Healing Work, and this Partners Grief Workshop can teach you how to feel better.

Link to purchase workshop:
https://be8c-sophia.systeme.io/8b58ff92

09/03/2025

Ambiguous Grief is a layer below trauma in our feelings. Grief continues to trigger trauma, even after trauma work has been done.

It is critical to understand how to identify and process our ambiguous grief, so our trauma work can be deeply effective.

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