Dr. Jeff Waitkus

Dr. Jeff Waitkus Life doesn’t get better by chance. It gets better through intentional change. Change is inevitable.

Learn to work with it, because life doesn’t get better by chance. I am a clinical psychologist in private practice, providing behavioral health services to individuals, families, and groups in the Greater Boston area.

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01/06/2026

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On February 13, 1972, a thirty-three-year-old French geologist named Michel Siffre descended more than four hundred feet into Midnight Cave in Texas and deliberately cut himself off from the surface world. He carried no watch, no calendar, and no way to track day or night. Once he entered the cave, natural light disappeared entirely. He would not see the sun again for six months.

This was not an act of recklessness. It was a controlled scientific experiment designed to answer a question that had never been tested directly: what happens to the human mind when every external signal of time is removed. No sunrise or sunset, no clocks, no routine shaped by the world above. Only darkness, isolation, and the brain left to regulate itself.

At first, Siffre attempted to impose structure. He slept when he felt tired, ate when he felt hungry, and contacted his research team by telephone whenever he woke or went to sleep. The team recorded his behavior but gave him no information in return. He was never told the date, the hour, or how much time had passed.
Gradually, his internal rhythm began to drift. What felt like a normal day to him expanded into a cycle lasting nearly forty-eight hours. He stayed awake for long stretches, slept deeply, and lost all alignment with the twenty-four-hour day. His biological clock continued to function, but without external cues, it no longer matched the world outside.

His perception of time deteriorated. Minutes stretched into what felt like hours, while hours vanished without notice. Attempts to count short intervals failed completely. Siffre realized that time was not something the mind accurately detects, but something it actively constructs.

As isolation deepened, the psychological toll intensified. He became depressed and emotionally fragile. He formed an attachment to a mouse living in the cave, speaking to it as a source of companionship. When the mouse died accidentally, the loss devastated him. Moisture destroyed his reading material, equipment failures increased, and his thoughts turned inward and dark.

In his journal, he questioned the value of the experiment and his own judgment. Yet he did not abandon the study. He remained underground until his team finally informed him that the experiment had ended.
When Siffre emerged, he believed only a few months had passed. In reality, he had lost nearly thirty days. His mind had erased an entire month of lived experience.

Physically weakened and emotionally exhausted, he surfaced with data that transformed science. His work demonstrated that humans possess an internal biological clock capable of operating without sunlight, but prone to drifting without external synchronization. These findings laid the foundation for chronobiology and influenced research on sleep disorders, shift work, jet lag, space travel, and the psychological effects of extreme isolation.

Michel Siffre entered the cave to study time. What he ultimately revealed was something more unsettling: when stripped of external structure, the human mind reshapes reality itself. Time becomes unstable, elastic, and deeply personal.

Some discoveries can only be made in silence and darkness, where the mind is left alone with itself.

12/25/2025
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11/14/2025

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A man once explained her own book to her—and she gave the world a word for what millions had been silencing.
Picture this: You're at a party. A man enthusiastically tells you about a groundbreaking book you absolutely must read. You try to interject. He keeps talking. Your friend finally says, "That's her book. She wrote it." He barely pauses before continuing his explanation.
This happened to Rebecca Solnit in 2008. But instead of just rolling her eyes and moving on, she wrote an essay that would change conversations forever.
The Essay That Named the Invisible
"Men Explain Things to Me" wasn't about one pompous man at one party. It was about a pattern women had experienced their entire lives but didn't have language to describe—the assumption that male authority comes with a default expertise, even when demonstrably wrong.
Solnit wrote: "Men explain things to me, still. And no man has ever apologized for explaining, wrongly, things that I know and they don't."
The essay went viral instantly. Women everywhere felt seen. Within years, "mansplaining" entered the dictionary—though Solnit herself never coined that exact word. She simply named a reality, and the world recognized it immediately.
The Deeper Truth
But Solnit's insight went further than social awkwardness. She revealed something profound: "Men invented standards they could meet and called them universal."
Think about it. History was written by men, so male experiences became "history" while women's experiences became "women's history"—a subcategory. Literature was defined by male authors, so male perspectives became "literature" while women's writing became "women's literature."
The "universal human experience" was actually just the male experience, rebranded as neutral.
What happens when we stop accepting male experience as the default? Everything we thought was objective suddenly reveals its bias. Every "universal" rule shows its specific origins.
Silence Isn't Peace
Another revelation in Solnit's work: silence doesn't mean happiness. It often means someone's voice has been successfully suppressed.
In her collection The Mother of All Questions, she examines the questions women face constantly: Why don't you have children? Why don't you smile more? Why are you so angry?
These aren't innocent curiosities. They're enforcement mechanisms—ways of policing women's choices, emotions, and existence.
Solnit writes: "The question isn't why are women angry, it's why aren't we angrier?"
What looks like social peace is often just successful silencing. Breaking that silence isn't creating conflict—it's revealing conflict that was always there.
From Personal to Political
Solnit's genius lies in connecting the smallest interactions to the largest structures of power. Being interrupted in a meeting isn't separate from violence against women—they're part of the same system that treats women's voices, bodies, and autonomy as less important than men's comfort.
In her memoir Recollections of My Nonexistence, she describes walking through San Francisco as a young woman, constantly aware of male violence—catcalls, threats, the feeling of being hunted. Being silenced in intellectual spaces. Dismissed by colleagues.
These weren't just personal experiences. They were evidence that women navigate the world fundamentally differently than men do.
Hope as Resistance
Despite documenting inequality, Solnit isn't nihilistic. She's a chronicler of defiant hope.
In Hope in the Dark, she writes: "Hope is not a lottery ticket you can sit on the sofa and clutch, feeling lucky. It is an axe you break down doors with in an emergency."
She documents feminist victories—laws changed, attitudes shifted, voices amplified—to prove that resistance works. That naming injustice leads to dismantling it.
Her message: The system isn't natural. It was built. And what was built can be rebuilt differently.
Why This Matters
Rebecca Solnit gave us language for experiences we couldn't articulate. Every time someone says "actually, that's mansplaining," they're using tools she helped create. Every time someone questions whether a "universal" standard is really universal, they're applying her framework.
Her work proves that feminism doesn't require rage to be effective. Sometimes the most powerful critique is delivered calmly, with precision, making injustice so obvious it can't be denied.
And she reminds us that words are where change begins.
She points at the invisible—the assumptions we accept, the silences we mistake for peace, the "universal" rules that only apply to some people—and makes us look.
Once you see it, you can't unsee it.
And once you can't unsee it, you can start to change it.
Her gift is language. Her mission is liberation.

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10/30/2025

Remember that there are a lot of neurodivergent older adolescents who love Halloween. Please be kind, gentle, and generous 🎃👻❤️

10/08/2025

Interesting...​ "As former U.S. surgeons general appointed by every Republican and Democratic president since George H.W. Bush, we have collectively spent decades in service as the Nation’s Doctor. We took two sacred oaths in our lifetimes: first, as physicians who swore to care for our patients and, second, as public servants who committed to protecting the health of all Americans. Today, in keeping with those oaths, we are compelled to speak with one voice to say that the actions of Health and Human Services Secretary Robert F. Kennedy Jr. are endangering the health of the nation..."

(Washington Post Opinion Piece out today)

09/23/2025

We all want the straight line. Set the goal, achieve the goal. B

ut life doesn’t work like that.

The path is messy, full of doubts, setbacks and failures.

And that’s exactly where the growth is.

The detours are not distractions, they’re the process.

Keep moving.

09/23/2025

Some individuals wrongly assert there is a link between vaccines and autism. Before the claim was discredited, researchers took it seriously, investigated it thoroughly, and found no link. This research, in many countries, involving thousands of individuals, has spanned multiple decades. Any effort to misrepresent sound, strong science poses a threat to the health of children and does a disservice to the autistic community.

Immunizations are important to help children stay healthy, so they can learn, grow and thrive. If parents have questions about vaccines or autism, we encourage them to talk to their child’s pediatrician. Learn more: https://bit.ly/4nI0Rnb

09/23/2025

Today’s White House event on autism was filled with dangerous claims and misleading information that sends a confusing message to parents and expecting parents and does a disservice to autistic individuals.

We know autism is complex, highly variable and increasingly linked to genetics. Individualized plans, often involving a combination of developmental, behavioral, educational and social-relational strategies, can help improve outcomes that are meaningful to individuals and families. We also need and welcome additional investments in federally funded research to better support families of autistic children.

Families who have questions about their child’s medications, autism care plans or other health care should consult with their pediatrician or health care provider.
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