04/30/2026
Thank you for all the well wishes for my surgery this week. Also, thank you for the continued financial support each of you provides through regular massages and tips. Everything went great with my surgery on Wednesday. In case you missed a previous newsletter, my breast implants from my cancer surgeries in 2024 were a little off and needed to be redone. No big deal.
I will be open for regular appointments on May 18th
In other news, the Boron supplement I suggested and started a few weeks ago has been amazing. I have been doing a lot of chair massage, which requires me to stand all day. When I do this, my knees ache at night when I lie down. I had 18 hours of chair massage and 15 hours of regular massage last week. It was a record week. I had no pain. My knees and feet didn't hurt. My muscles were a little sore, but overall I felt great! The only thing I can say that was different was the Boron. I will put a link to the article here in case you missed. Check this stuff out. It was not expensive, and I have really been seeing results.
Article on the Benefits of Boron
Why Stretching Doesn’t Always Fix Tight Muscles
Because sometimes your tight muscle is not the culprit. It is the witness.
Have you ever stretched the same tight muscle over and over again, only to have it tighten right back up like it has a terrible memory?
You stretch your hamstrings. They feel better for seven glorious minutes. Then you stand up, walk across the room, and they say, “We’re back.”
You roll your neck around. You stretch your shoulders. Do the little doorway chest stretch you saw online. You feel like a wellness champion for about five minutes.
Then your shoulders crawl right back up toward your ears like they pay rent there.
At some point, you start wondering, “Am I stretching wrong? Do I need to stretch more? Do I need a new body?”
Maybe not.
Stretching Is Helpful, But It Is Not Always the Answer
Here is the thing: stretching is a tool, not the whole toolbox.
A muscle can feel tight for many reasons. Sometimes it is actually shortened. Sometimes it is overworked. Sometimes it is irritated. Sometimes it is protecting an injury. Sometimes it is compensating for something that is not moving well.
And sometimes, the tight muscle is not the problem at all.
It is the body’s emergency brake.
Your hamstring might feel tight because your pelvis is tilted or your lower back is irritated. Your neck might feel tight because your shoulders are rounded forward all day. Your calves might feel tight because your feet, ankles, or hips are not moving well.
Stretching the muscle may provide temporary relief, but it does not always address the underlying cause of the muscle tightening in the first place.
That is why I love finding the source of the tightness.
Because your tight muscle may not be the culprit.
It may be the witness.
The Back Pain That Started in a Big Toe
One of my dear older customers had back pain that would not go away, no matter what he did. He went to the doctor. He had a CT scan. Even after all of that, they still could not find a way to help him.
Then he came to me.
Almost immediately, I knew the problem was coming from his foot. More specifically, his big toe.
Yes. His big toe.
The tiny little toe most people ignore unless they stub it on furniture and suddenly start speaking in tongues.
Come to find out, he had minor big toe surgery two weeks before the back pain started. Because his toe hurt, he started walking differently to protect it.
That changed the way his foot moved. Then his leg had to compensate. Then his hip had to adjust. Then his spine started twisting.
And then his back started screaming.
I massaged his toe, and the back pain left. It never came back.
Why?
Because his back was not the true source of the problem. His back was where the chain reaction finally showed up, demanding attention.
When one thing in your body changes, it can create a chain of events. A sore toe can turn into back pain. A stiff ankle can turn into hip pain. A tight chest can turn into neck pain. A cranky shoulder can come from something happening in your hand, wrist, or forearm.
The body is not a collection of separate parts. It is one connected system. When one area changes, another area may have to pick up the slack, and sometimes that area is not happy about its new job.
The Wallet That Caused Neck Pain
Another customer once came in with new shoulder and neck pain. You might think the problem was his neck. Or his shoulder. Or maybe his pillow.
Because pillows get blamed for a lot of crimes they did not commit.
But the real villain was his wallet.
He had bought a new wallet and started keeping it in his back pocket. Every time he sat down, he was sitting unevenly. His pelvis shifted. His spine adjusted. His body compensated.
You would think his lower back would have complained first, but no. His body skipped the polite warning stage and sent the problem straight to his neck and shoulder.
Once he realized what was happening, he started taking his wallet out every time he sat down. Eventually, he bought a smaller front-pocket wallet.
Problem solved.
This Is Why I Don’t Just Chase the Tight Spot
This is why, when someone tells me, “My neck is tight,” I do not only think about the neck.
Yes, we need to look at the neck. But we may also need to look at the shoulders, chest, jaw, arms, posture, work setup, and daily habits.
If your back hurts, yes, we need to look at your back. But we may also need to look at your feet, hips, pelvis, gait, shoes, wallet, car seat, desk chair, and how you move throughout your day.
If your hamstring keeps tightening back up, it is not being dramatic. It may be doing unpaid labor for your pelvis.
Stretching a protective muscle harder is like arguing with a smoke alarm while the kitchen is still on fire.
The smoke alarm is not the problem. It is trying to tell you something.
Your body does the same thing.
Tightness is often your body saying, “Something is not moving right. Something is working too hard. Something is protecting you. Something needs attention.”
That does not mean stretching is bad. Stretching can be wonderful. It can help improve movement, reduce stiffness, and give your body a little more breathing room.
But if the same tight spot keeps coming back again and again, it may be time to stop asking, “How do I stretch this harder?”
And start asking, “Why is this muscle tight in the first place?”
That is where the magic happens.
That is where we stop blaming the poor hamstring, neck, calf, or low back and start looking for the real source.
Your Body Leaves Clues
The next time your body is yelling at you, do not assume the loudest area is the guilty one.
Pain can be sneaky.
It can start in your big toe and show up in your back. It can start with a wallet and show up in your neck. It can start with how you sit, how you walk, how you sleep, how you work, or how your body has learned to protect itself.
Your tight muscle may not be the problem. It may be the clue.
And I love clues.
If you have a tight muscle that keeps coming back no matter how much you stretch it, feel free to reply to this message. I would be glad to answer any questions I can for free.
You are also welcome to download my app for free, where you can find simple solutions to help you start working on the source of the problem instead of just chasing the tight spot.