05/25/2022
This post is for all of my newly pregnant moms or postpartum moms who need some guidance on how to navigate visitors!
Having prior conversations with friends and family around expectations for visits in the early postpartum period can be hard, and let’s face it it may be a little awkward. Whether you share your boundaries on social media, in a group chat or in person - gently letting everyone know what your specific boundaries are and how they can show up as a positive, supportive presence during a sometimes challenging, vulnerable time is important.
Everyone’s boundaries look different but it is always okay to voice your needs, especially when you have recently given birth and welcome to new baby into the family. you are allowed to say “today might not be a great day for a visit“ without offering a reason why. The reason is because you are getting to know your baby. The reason is because you are trying to establish your milk supply and figure out this whole feeding schedule. The reason is because your baby needs you overnight so you need to be well rested.
The initial conversation might be a little sticky… Some may receive a while and others may give you pushback but long-term, gentle boundaries serve everyone. as always, I am sending lots of love to any pregnant moms or newly postpartum moms who are prepping their home and hearts for their newest little member of the family! 😊
Examples:
-always ask before coming, don’t just show up
-if you are sick, please don’t visit
-wash your hands upon arrival
-never post photos without permission
-no unsolicited advice. Love and support only
-plan to keep your visits to around 30 to 60 minutes because everyone is tired
-please make sure not to kiss the baby
-if the baby is crying please give it back to the parents
Again, everyone has different boundaries but setting them in place before baby is born will create a safe space for you when you’re having visitors ❤️
