09/25/2025
Being on a journey of healing from Narcisstic Abuse ourselves and, serving a community also navigating similiar experiences we are sharing both our story and, some of our most helpful resources below. Remember, bell hooks said no one heals in isolation, healing is an act of communion. Here is to healing together, comunity.❤️
I have been really courageous in sharing my very public experience with Narcisstic Abuse, Stalking and having systems and my practice, business and reputation targeted over the past several years by someone I loved and trusted.
Not only has this experience of betrayal, loss, and grief been traumatic and life altering. I also have had the very unfortunate but common experience of survivors of actually experiencing institutional betrayal not being believed by systems and have had the same experience within the community including amongst friends and family.
While abusers get supply and enjoy causing harm and chaos in others lives ( which is a tell by who is exhausted and who is emboldened) it has exhausted me. Particularly being neurodivergent and autistic burn out can take years to recover from and, I'm taking a well deserved break from social media to prioritize care of myself.
Continue to nice to survivors. Support them publicly and privately. Believe and support survivors when they say they are being harmed. Be Well Community and Thank you for your love and support, gratitude always. Shalonda Edwards MSW, LICSW
CEO at Restorative Health and Wellness www.healingwithrhw.com
For educational purposes if you are looking to learn more about Narcissism or Stalking we have found following resources useful:
SPARC - stalking awareness resources and support https://www.stalkingawareness.org/
https://www.instagram.com/followuslegally?igsh=MXZiY3RpMG43em1qNA==
https://linktr.ee/stalkingawareness?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=9d7efe3f-c499-46c5-bf7f-e8171eac70c9
Survivors that talk about their experiences:
Synthia Smith
https://www.instagram.com/_synful_?igsh=MXAwN2l2c3QzdXY4OQ==
When love is a lie
https://www.instagram.com/whenloveisalie?igsh=eDZyYjZtanV5bDN2
Clare Auden
https://www.instagram.com/claire_auden_?igsh=MTAwNWl2Mnl3a3d6bw==
We have learned a lot from a self identified Narcissist accessing psychotherapy. He is on most platforms. He has a podcast called The Narcissist Code. His name is Lee Hammock and he also has a youtube series
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLhrGyHjJt5bTybCXCKfnS7cmXaw_b5ei1&si=B6k2AvzTRuXj0gNP
Shade Arabi on most platforms
https://www.instagram.com/selfcarewarrior?igsh=c215Z3RyY2c3Y3Zj
Dr. Peter Salerno ( several great books and podcasts and interviews)
https://www.instagram.com/drpetersalerno?igsh=YXQ3cXFydXptdTc2
Dr. Ramani ( books, you tube, social media) Navigating Narcissm Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/navigating-narcissism-with-dr-ramani/id1629909313
Dr. Cochiola and her work around Coercive
Control, She also has the Perfect Prey podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/perfect-prey-a-coercive-control-podcast/id1704962170
Dr. Natalie on you tube and she also has the Date with Darkness Podcast including the episode where she discusses "Narcissistic Homoerotica”
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/a-date-with-darkness-podcast/id1271234927?i=1000660927982
https://youtube.com/?si=rointupMpM954iwa
Other resources we have found useful in our healing journey:
EMDR therapy ( we used Shaquan Reed, of Shaquan Reed Counseling and Consulting), you can find EMDR trained therapists here: https://www.emdria.org/find-an-emdr-therapist/
If looking for a therapist/ provider to engage in therapy with while healing from Narcissistic abuse feel free to ask providers in consultation what they know about Narcissism, If they have ever treated survivors of Narcissism, What experience or expertise they have in treating survivors of Narcissism, minimally to ensure they understand and that this treatment is within their scope of practice.
Additional resources we enjoyed on our healing journey:
The Homecoming Podcast by Dr.Thema Bryant
Mindful with Minna Podcast
The Covert Narcissism Podcast
The Black Girls Heal Podcast
Deeply Well Podcast with Devi Brown
Therapy for Black Girls Podcast
The Happiness Podcast with Dr. Robert Puff
Books:
Bell hooks All about Love
Pema Chodron When things Fall Apart
Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents
If Only Id known by Chelsey Brooke Cole
Mother Hunger Kelly McDaniel
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