Recoveries Anonymous

07/29/2025

Your Facebook posts matter! Read this from one R.A. member:

I want to say how helpful and loving the FB posts are to my recovery and to thank you all for posting on WhatsApp when they are posted on FB. It helps direct my attention away from the problem and straight into the Solution. When my brain and heart need snippets and real time experience and trust, it is right here on my phone. I can walk with it, sit with it and keep repeating it until my fear and agitation are made still and I turn to the Solution, ask for God’s will to be done, ask that He remove my fear and direct my thoughts and … HE DOES.

Thank God and thank you 🙏

07/27/2025

Here is the link to the July Newsletter: https://ymlp.com/zhWlQL

The subject is: 🔶The Slow Unlearner — An R.A. Recovery

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07/24/2025

One R.A. member shares:
"But my friend sat before me, and he made the point-blank declaration that God had done for him what he could not do for himself. His human will had failed. Doctors had pronounced him incurable. Society was about to lock him up. Like myself, he had admitted complete defeat. Then he had, in effect, been raised from the dead, suddenly taken from the scrap heap to a level of life better than the best he had ever known!"
(Multilith p5)

In the last two lines on the same page this phenomenon is called "miracles".
I am so grateful for the miracles I've experienced since recovering in R.A. Here are just a few:
- My bus coming at the moment the other one pulls away without me
- ⁠God opening my eyes to the insight that others' homes are wonderful for them yet would not make me happy.
-⁠ Getting a medicine I'd run out of delivered the same day.

God is in all things, great and small. This reminds me to be grateful for small acts of goodness and kindness.

07/22/2025

Another R.A. member shares:
"Quite as important was the discovery that spiritual principles would solve all my problems."
(R.A.'s Multilith p19)

Recently I was grappling with an uncomfortable issue with one of my adult children with whom I have had some tensions over the years.

I tried on a couple of occasions to speak honestly about the issue, but I felt the communication was not quite resolved and I still felt that I needed to clarify some things.

I prayed about it during my quiet time, and sought the opinion of one or two people who I thought might have some objective insight. Then God inspired me to write to my daughter. I was clear, and yet compassionate and loving. I expressed honestly what I wanted her to know. Once I pressed the send button on WhatsApp, I waited impatiently to see the two blue check marks to let me know the message had been received.
Then I waited for a response. Hours passed and I was getting impatient, fearful and anxious that I'd made a mess of things. I worried I'd made her angry … my thoughts were flying into cyberspace at the speed of light.
I prayed that God remove my anxiety and give me patience to wait. After about four hours, a response came back and I felt so grateful; grateful that I waited and didn't nudge for a response, grateful that I didn't grovel or people please to appease the other person and avoid conflict.
And I am so grateful for the tools and the R.A. program for giving me a design for living which works in all situations!

07/20/2025

An R.A. member shares:

"Your husband knows he owes you more than sobriety. He wants to make good. Yet, you must not expect too much. His ways of thinking and doing are the habit of years. Patience, tolerance, understanding and love are your watchwords. Show him these things in yourself and they will be reflected back to you from him. Live and let live is the rule. If you show a willingness to remedy your own defects, there will be little need to criticize each other."
We women carry with us a picture of the ideal man, the sort of chap we would like our husbands to be. It is the most natural thing in the world, once his liquor problem is solved, to feel that he will now measure up to that cherished vision. The chance are he will not for, like yourself, he is just beginning his development. Be patient."
(R.A.'s Annotated Multilith p 54)

Patience is the theme in these two paragraphs that spoke to me today. Patience in my own development, slowing down and noticing 'progress not perfection'. As my Higher Power has made me slow down through health, age and other factors, He has been guiding me to more patient with myself. Once I can manage that, I can become more patient and forgiving with others also.

As it is written in the Multilith on page, 75 "You are saying to yourself: 'I'm jittery and alone. I couldn't do that'. But you can. You forget that you have just tapped a source of power so much greater than yourself. To duplicate, with such backing, what we have accomplished is only a matter of willingness, patience, and labor."

Patience is the theme in these two paragraphs that spoke to me today. Patience in my own development, sowing down and noticing 'progress not perfection'. As my Higher Power has made me slow down through health, age and other factors, He has been guiding me to more patience with myself. Once I can manage that, I can become more patient and forgiving with others also.
I would like to close with a cross reference from the Meetings Guide p 14 last para:
You are saying to yourself: 'I'm jittery and alone. I couldn't do that'. But you can. You forget that you have just tapped a source of power so much greater than yourself. To duplicate, with such backing, what we have accomplished is only a matter of willingness, patience, and labor."

07/16/2025

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07/13/2025

" Among ourselves, R.A. members do not need to be anonymous; therefore we demonstrate our faith in God, and our commitment to each other, by using our full names with R.A. and at R.A. meetings."
R.A.'s 11th Ideal.

Attached is a screenshot of the program celebrating A.A.'s Tenth Anniversary in 1945. The full names of program co-founders, Bill Wilson and Bob Smith, are used, demonstrating that within the fellowship, members used their full names.

07/10/2025

An R.A. member shares:
"So we think cheerfulness and laughter make for usefulness. Outsiders are sometimes shocked when we burst into merriment over a seemingly tragic experience out of the past. But why shouldn't we laugh? We are the victors and have been given the power to help others.
Everybody knows that those in bad health, and those who seldom play, do not laugh much. So let each family play together or separately, as much as their circumstances warrant. We are sure God wants us to be happy, joyous and released. We cannot subscribe to the belief that this life is a vale of tears, though it once was just that for many of us. But it is clear that we made our own misery. God didn't do it. Avoid then, the deliberate manufacture of misery, and when trouble comes, cheerfully capitalize it as an opportunity to demonstrate His omnipotence."
(R.A.'s Mulitilith p60)

Powerful words. They remind me that everything that happens is under God's plan. Even tricky situations in my life are from God. And, surprise surprise! They are for my benefit. They give me an opportunity to demonstrate God's power, God's love and God's way of life. I need to thank my God for everything: Everything. And that unlocks its blessing.
Saying "I forgive everyone for everything" in my Daily Quiet Time (DQT), helps me accept what is- as what is supposed to be; to let go and let God.

07/05/2025

An R.A. member shares:
"There is a solution! When, therefore, we were approached by those in whom the problem had been solved, there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spiritual tools laid at our feet." (R.A.'s Annotated Multilith , p11)

An experience with my 3 year old daughter helped me understand the meaning of the word "solution". We were blowing bubbles and my daughter decided to shake the liquid in the bubble bottle to create foam. After shaking the bottle ,she opened it and scooped some of the foam onto the bubble ring and blew through it. To her disappointment, no bubbles formed. I said to her that if she wants bubbles she needs to dip the ring deeper so she reaches the solution. That's when I realized the meaning of the word "solution" being a blend of things. Time after time, we read in R.A. that the Twelve Steps are like a recipe. That we need to work all 12 Steps to produce the desired results to be restored to sanity. When I feel my fears and resentments cropping up, I realize my spiritual condition is too much on the surface and that I need to dive deeper into Step work, the "simple kit of spiritual tools" that R.A. outlines very clearly.

07/03/2025

An R.A. member shares:
"When, therefore, we were approached by those in whom the problem had been solved, there was nothing left for us but to pick up the simple kit of spirituals laid at our feet."
(R.A.'s Multilith , p11)

There is an R.A. newcomer R.A. who has been with us for a while on our WhatsApp groups , and she has attended several of our Zoom meetings. Recently she has also been at the RA phone meetings. The other day, she unmuted and shared about her hope and excitement about having found R.A. and the solution. It was such a wonderful experience to hear in their words and voice how much conviction they had now and for their future to be recovered and living in the solution by God's grace. It really left a mark on me how truly beautiful a thing it is, the sharing of the R.A. message to others.

07/01/2025

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The Subject is: 🔶I Am Very Grateful to God — An R.A. Recovery

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