08/03/2025
Blended families aren’t easy, but they’re so worth it ❤️
8 years ago, I entered a relationship that came with two kids and a complicated ex-wife situation. Between my partner and me, we have 5 children total. I’m not gonna lie - it was HARD. There were moments I questioned everything.
But I made a choice early on: be patient, be mature, be present. I never tried to replace their mom. I just showed up - politely, consistently, with as much love and attention as I could give when they were with us. And here’s the thing - I treat ALL the children the same way. No favorites, no “yours vs mine” - they’re all ours.
Some days were messy. Some days were beautiful. Most days were somewhere in between.
Today? These kids are my heart. We share holidays, vacations, inside jokes, and genuine love. My stepchildren get the same love, the same rules, the same opportunities as my own. All 5 of them are treated equally.
To anyone struggling with blended family life right now: it gets better. Give it time. Give it patience. Give it your whole heart, but respect the boundaries. Kids need to feel safe to love everyone in their world - and they need to know they’re all treated equally.
As a mindset coach and hypnotherapist, I see so many people carrying trauma from these situations. You don’t have to do it alone. Sometimes we need help processing the emotions, the triggers, the fears that come with loving a house full of kids as your own.
Your blended family can become your greatest blessing. I’m living proof. 💕
