09/29/2024
Can’t sleep it’s 1:30am, it’s been a very long week. I’ve been working for a client for 6 years. With no immediate family or children it’s just been us two. We’ve been lunch buddies all those years, but in May he a was a diagnosed with bladder cancer at the age of 90. He decided to have treatment for a month but barely tolerated the effects. It’s been a difficult 4 months, and as of Tuesday we decided to stay at home and have no more treatments. This quickly changed to hospice care instead of palliative care in a matter of 1 day. 1 day turned into a 22 hour shift, preparing his house for a live in and creating a sanctuary in his living room for him to rest.
Yesterday I was trying to have a day off and spend time with Michael, he’s been so supportive of me especially this week. We had planned a little Oktoberfest fun at Bakes brewery in Springlake, but plans were meant to be broken I guess, I was called to the house instead. Just like that in a matter of 7 hours we began transitioning, friends were called, last rights were administered and here I am, wide awake hoping to see him in the morning and him to see me. We’ve had a lot of time together over these 6 years. He turned 91 on the 1st of September, and I have put birthday letters on his lawn in the past (just on 5 year markers like 85 & 90) this year I called him and sang. We’ve grown tomato plants from seeds together, he helped me with a little meditation stand I was building, he was so interested in my camper when I got it I had to drive it over for him to see. He’s loved my dogs visiting him, my postcards from vacation and even a call from Scotland when I could. In February of 2021 he let me interview him for my “end of life doula” course for what we call legacy work. Have a listen here https://creativecareteam.com/end-of-life-doula/ if you want it’s 1 min 26 seconds. I can’t help but think about how fitting it is to have me by his side as he leaves his body to be with his beloved wife Evelyn. It is an honor when you are allowed to witness the end. At this point…. Yes I do love him and he is not alone.
In am trained by the University of Vermont and certified as an End of Life Doula. As an End of Life Doula I uphold the same values as Hospice in fact we walk the same path, however as a doula I am educated in serving one more layer of care for the family. What that