New View Recovery

03/06/2025

02/27/2025

Infidelity: misconduct or serious threat to marriage?
Are there really 7 steps to heal after broken trust?
Why does the therapist have us speak to each other and not them?

Some article reflections/points I liked: forgiveness is not necessarily the last step in healing; retaining softness towards one's partner can help protect as well as be regained during repair; forgiveness is a two-person process- not a one-time choice or blank slate.

https://www.fifes2.faculty.unlv.edu/pdf/Bird,%20Butler,%20&%20Fife,%202007,%20The%20Process%20of%20Couple%20Healing%20Following%20Infidelity,%20A%20Qualitative%20Study.pdf

02/20/2025

OP ED: Research has shown that individuals with solid support systems and healthy relationships experience lower rates of anxiety and depression.

Discover how love can be a catalyst for personal growth and unlock the power within you. Explore the transformative effects of love and…

02/13/2025

Over the romantic depiction of love? See if this perspective on love as service in non-transactional relationships via "little vittles" might be more your style.
..Love motivated by a selfless interest for others and demonstrated through service for the simple sake of blessing their lives can instill the most profound sense of value within our own lives. This is the love that heals. This is the kind of love so desperately needed in shoring up the dignity and respect for all, while encouraging diversity and inclusion.

https://www.wpafb.af.mil/News/Article-Display/Article/3299756/love-the-catalyst-for-healing/ #:~:text=In%20summary%2C%20love%20motivated%20by,while%20encouraging%20diversity%20and%20inclusion.

02/06/2025

Want a stronger, more restorative relationship?

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/10_pillars_of_a_strong_relationship

01/30/2025

Does the relationship with your Doctor matter? With health plans renewing and changing, illness prompting visits to providers, consider the qualities of care that would help you turn toward rather than avoid your providers.

Relationship-centered care includes "humanistic qualities of compassion, respect, and integrity. It is based on freedom of speech, openness, respect for individual persons, reflective self-awareness, and welcoming diversity and disruption."

Counter to common assumptions of medical encounters (interactions are intentional, linear, informative, non-dynamic), actual interpersonal exchanges vary widely. Research of medical care generally checks that a task was completed (quantity), and often misses small exchanges that largely affect quality of care.

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01/30/2025

A personal take from a complex trauma survivor: relationship can help bring awareness, balance, opportunity to address what patterns remain.

Relationships after trauma can feel like a mine field. There is no telling where the next explosion will come from. And our emotional responses to relationship patterns can be so intense, it feels impossible to unravel. But we keep going back to relationships. That makes sense. We are social beings....

01/30/2025

'Tis the season! Happiness increased by being mindful, present, connected, in relationships with self and others.

A new book summarizes the findings from a famous happiness study that began in the 1930s—and explains how you can be happier.

11/27/2024

Chronic pain linked to early trauma.
Being gentle with yourself has medical support. (link below)

Consider soothing your body through stretching, breathing, relaxing your jaw/tongue, noticing something lovely. Small efforts add up.

10/18/2024

Ever wonder what happens in the body during Fight/Flight/Freeze/Fawn/Comply??
Research shines light on a hormone secreted from within our bones that helps mobilize us when in danger.

Osteocalcin, not adrenaline, may be key to the body’s “fight or flight” response

10/16/2024

Mindfulness training can help with OCD and emotions that feel overwhelming or controlling, helping overall quality of life.

https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/change_your_mind_and_your_brain_will_follow

Interested in practical examples of when mindfulness might be used to tolerate anxiety? Check out this blog post!
https://newviewrecovery.org/blog-articles/f/anxiety-behaviors

The Dalai Lama at MIT Edited by Anne Harrington and Arthur Zajonc Harvard University Press, 2006, 304 pages Train Your Mind, Change Your Brain: How a New Science Reveals Our Extraordinary Potential to Transform Ourselves By Sharon Begley Ballantine Books, 2007, 304 pages

10/09/2024

Who is trying to learn something new?!
Mathematics, technical jargon, new work process?
I once took a class in a subject I was familiar with but the intensity of the exams meant I quickly changed my study habits to make 6-7 meaningful, goal-oriented passes through the material before exam day. I did very well, but I HAD to adapt to the demands and change my process. One of my all-time favorite classes. So proud!!

https://www.cuesta.edu/student/resources/ssc/study_guides/mathematics/211_math_steps.html