Gift of Grit Counseling, LLC

03/18/2026

Therapy can feel like losing yourself before you find out who you truly are. In my latest post, I explore why healing from trauma often brings up the question: “Who am I without my trauma?” and how that impasse is actually a crucial part of growth.

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If therapists were being honest with you, there is typically a moment in therapy where we reach an impasse. Almost everyone does.The blocking belief usually sounds like this question:“Who am I if I am not ________?” (anxious, suicidal, a people-pleaser, a rageaholic, careless, traumatized, a vic...

03/17/2026

“Who taught you that?” Is the number one question I ask clients. It opens up the early childhood relational trauma most of us have tucked away in our ‘automatic’ responses in our present life.

03/16/2026

Nobody told me therapy would eventually make me grieve myself. 😅

Healing is wild because at some point it stops being about fixing what's broken — and starts being about asking: who am I without this?

Your anxiety, your people-pleasing, your "I'm fine" face… they all had a job. And letting them go? That's its own kind of loss.

Swipe through, then drop this in the comments: what identity are you ready to release?

03/14/2026

I’m actually a bundle of nerves wrapped up in a therapist’s body. Held together by shipwreck facts.

03/12/2026

"You can't always get what you want, but you get what you need." Or something in that song by The Rolling Stones. Grief is present in all long term relationships. What are you grieving in your own partnership?

Check out my newest blog post and let me know your thoughts: https://www.giftofgritcounseling.com/post/relational-reckoning-grieving-the-relationship-you-thought-you-d-have

How many of us have the partnership or marriage we imagined when we daydreamed about our adult life as teenagers or as young adults? ... Hmmm... none of us, yup, right. (And if you said, "Yes, this is the marriage/relationship I always dreamed I would have," good for you! Your experience is not the....

03/04/2026

If you've ever felt worried that you might forget important details about your child (or any loved one that has died) who has died, this blog post is for you.

The fear of forgetting after child loss is one of the quietest and most painful parts of grief. Many parents carry a persistent worry that, as time passes, memories will fade. You may wonder what will happen to the sound of your child’s voice, the way they laughed, or the small details only you re...

03/02/2026

You can hold space for your grief, your love and your connection, while building a life around loss. Our upcoming Birth Trauma Virtual Retreat on April 18th is one space that might allow this process to start unfolding for you. Link in Bio.

02/25/2026

If you’ve ever wondered about how to have a bangin’ bedroom (or kitchen or living room or wherever you please) and how love, s*x and power are intertwined, take a moment to read my latest blog post and share with a friend:

02/21/2026

Sometimes healing feels like it takes forever… and guess what? It does! Here’s the bad news: you will never stop having to regulate and reparent your inner child parts. That process is forever. Like until you die (said in a Southern accent for effect). Here’s the good news: you get to a place eventually where this process becomes natural and easier to achieve, over time, with lots and lots of practice. Dan Siegel estimated it can take up to 2-5 years for a skill to be integrated into a true personality trait. You can do this.