Gift of Grit Counseling, LLC

10/27/2025

When your partner is in a state of disrepair, that’s not your moment to defend your position or decisions. That’s your chance to repair by putting on your customer service associate hat. Let’s think about this for a second, if you called the customer service line because your toaster wasn’t toasting your morning slice of bread, you’d never expect them to say to you, “Yeah well, maybe it’s not toasting but let’s take the perspective of the toaster for a moment. Maybe it’s tired. Maybe it feels like you don’t press its buttons the way it used to.” … See how silly and invalidating that sounds? Try it this week. Wear your best customer service hat when your partner expresses their frustration and just see what happens.

10/23/2025

My co-therapists are lazy, y’all! If you need a therapist with black cat energy, I’m your gal.

10/22/2025

When your inner sass slips out mid-session 👀✌️ Therapist brain: empathy first. Mouth: ‘Have you considered a TV in the bedroom?’ Reminder: all situations are hypothetical. I would never actually share a client’s real information or story. This is not a substitute for therapy. 🫣🪑➡️

10/20/2025

Why am I showing you a grainy concert video of Stevie Nicks singing ‘Landslide?’ Because I’m a millennial and I want to. And also, because it relates to the idea of life and love and things changing rapidly in our world. You can handle the seasons of your life. I know you can. I believe in you. Check out my very vulnerable blog post at the link in my bio to see what Stevie Nicks song ‘Landslide’ taught me about love.

10/20/2025

When the ground shifts beneath us, what does true love look like?

“Landslide moments” in relationships can feel like everything is crumbling, and they can also be the very moments that transform us most deeply.

Read the full post here 👉 https://www.giftofgritcounseling.com/post/landslide-moments-in-love

long-term relationships are both mirror and teacher. They offer us the chance to grow, to grieve what we will never get from our parents in childhood, and to be tenderly seen and truly known by one person better than anyone else. Relationships are not one big decision (despite what they made it soun...

10/17/2025

Requests (“Hey honey, can you please pick up dinner on the way home for me? It would help me so much!”) are vulnerable, present-based and action-oriented. Complaints (“You are such an inconsiderate jerk. I wish you would just pick up more around here.”) are often past-oriented, not specific, and they require no tenderness from you. Leading with request is a risk to your heart, AND I know you, wise adult that you are, can tolerate that level of vulnerability and risk.

10/14/2025

Often, the rules we learned about relationships aren’t conducive to long term success. The culture at large isn’t well equipped to helping us having real, intimate, fun and enjoyable partnerships. Let me know your thoughts in the comments about which common relationship rules you break and how it’s helped you and your person have a better life together.

10/13/2025

Here's my latest, sassy, no nonsense open letter to the partner who is being 'dragged' into couples therapy. There's some tips in there on how to make couples work work for you, even if you're coming in kicking and screaming.

Dragged into couples therapy? A no-nonsense therapist unpacks shame, defensiveness, and the cycle you’re in—so you can show up, break patterns, reconnect.

10/10/2025

Sometimes you need a couples therapist who will dare to disrupt the harmful patterns taking place. Most of the time, I do it more skillfully than this, I promise!

10/10/2025

Why couples therapy, and why now? 💭 I used to think couples work wasn’t for me—until I discovered Relational Life Therapy (RLT). It’s bold, practical, and it changes everything. Read how this approach can transform your relationship.

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Hi friends and colleagues,Fall is here: beautiful, busy, and maybe a little overwhelming. Since I announced I’m now opening a couple of spots for couples therapy, I’ve been getting one question over and over:“Why couples therapy? Why now?”And honestly? My answer is pretty simple: “Why not ...

10/09/2025

Because I believe in the power of love, and I believe people can find peace and power in their relationships.

10/08/2025

I think I summed it up in my reel pretty well. Let me know your thoughts. Do you often find yourself pining for sameness in your relationships?