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Alicia Drew- Rebalance and Reconnect in Your Marriage

Helping high achievers have the relationship of their dreams w/o sacrificing self or their career.

I help successful women navigate their path to fulfilling relationships. I have been with my husband for 32 years, married 27 of those years. I will help you learn what your love languages are, attachment style, examine values, goals & determine what kind of partner is best suited to you & the life you want to have. All of this is yours for the having, but you most people don't know the things to be looking at & questions to ask themselves to develop the relationship of their dreams. DM me for more information, I look forward to helping you break free from all the things that haven't worked & learn what will work.

10/11/2024

Discover how to feel connected to your partner again.

You’re handling everything, aren’t you? You’re overworking, over-delivering, and over-functioning in every area of your life, including your marriage.

And the truth is, you’re exhausted.

I see you, and I know you’re ready for a change.

That’s why I created the 3-Day “Reset & Reconnect: Break Free From Overfunctioning” Workshop—to help high-achieving women like you reclaim your time, energy, and emotional well-being.

Over 3 days, you’ll learn how to:

💓Set clear, healthy boundaries.

🥰Open up emotionally without feeling vulnerable.

🧘Stop over-functioning and start letting others step up.

You don’t have to keep carrying it all alone. Let’s break free from this cycle, together. Click the link in the comments ⤵️to sign up!

10/10/2024

Tired of feeling out of balance in your relationship with your partner?

You’ve got it all together on the outside, but inside, you’re exhausted. You’re constantly over-functioning—doing more than your share at work, at home, in your relationship—and still feeling like it’s never enough.

It’s time for a reset!🧘

Join me in my 3-Day “Reset & Reconnect: Break Free From Over-functioning In Your Marriage” Workshop, where I’ll help you:

🥰 Set boundaries without guilt.

☺️Embrace vulnerability and allow yourself to receive.

💏 Reimagine your role in your relationship, so you can stop doing it all and start being truly connected.

It’s time to create balance, let go of the need to over-function, and reconnect with yourself and your partner.

Click the link in comments to sign up! 👇

10/07/2024

Unlock Deeper Fulfillment in Your Life and Your Marriage

You’re crushing it in your career. On the outside, it looks like you’ve got it all—the success, the ambition, the drive.

But on the inside, something feels off. There’s this lingering emptiness, a sense of disconnection in your marriage that you just can’t shake.

Does this sound like you?

Over-functioning: Always stepping up, doing more than is necessary.

Over-delivering: Pouring everything you have into every task, every project, every relationship.

Over-thinking: Constantly analyzing every situation, every interaction, every decision.

Never asking for help: Feeling like it’s all on you, that no one will follow through if you don’t handle it yourself.

Over the next few days, during my 3 day “Reset & Reconnect: Break Free From Overfunctioning” Workshop, we’re going to be diving into how you can stop over doing everything and
reconnect with your partner.

If you’re ready to stop feeling empty and start building deeper emotional connections, let’s do this together.

Link to sign up in comments below.⬇️

10/02/2024

Men and Women Are Wired Differently... So Why Are You Still Surprised When They Act Differently?

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, "Why doesn’t he just do it the way I would?" or "Why can’t he think like I do?"

You’re not alone!!!

Most of us already know that men and women are wired differently—we’ve heard it, we get it... but when it comes to our relationships, we forget this simple truth.

So why are you consistently surprised when he doesn’t approach things the same way you do?

Why are you expecting him to react, think, or even feel exactly like you?

Doesn’t it make sense that his brain, his perspective, and his approach to life are different?

Here’s the thing—those differences don’t have to create frustration. In fact, once you understand how he’s wired and stop expecting him to act like you, that’s when real connection can happen.

And it can be like a superpower, between the two of you, you can understand and conquer SO much more!

Instead of trying to change him, what if you embraced those differences?

What if you stopped fighting against them and started working with them?

Understanding this is the key to deeper emotional intimacy and less frustration.

It’s about learning how to communicate in ways that honor both of your natural wiring—because that’s where the real magic happens.

Are you ready to stop being surprised and start connecting?

09/30/2024

Journaling Prompt: I feel happy and secure in my marriage when I ______________________.

09/27/2024

Ready to Transform Your Marriage? It Starts with Looking at Yourself
Research by Dr. David Burns reveals something powerful: the key predictor of marital success isn’t communication styles, shared interests, or even love itself. It comes down to one mindset….
Do you blame your partner for the problems in your relationship?
🤯
Blame creates distance. It builds resentment and leaves us stuck in a cycle where nothing changes.
But here’s the good news: the prognosis for successful relationships is extremely positive for those willing to stop pointing fingers and start looking inward.
When you shift the focus from what your partner is doing wrong to how you are contributing to the dynamic…
🤩 Everything changes.
💪 You regain power.
🥰 You open the door for deeper connection, healing, and real transformation.
Are you ready to look at the role you play?
In my "Rebalance and Reconnect in Your Marriage" program, we dive deep into helping you identify patterns that aren’t serving you. It’s not about blaming yourself—it’s about empowering yourself to make changes that will lead to the emotional intimacy and support you’ve been craving.

Imagine a marriage where both partners take responsibility for their own actions and work together to create a deeper connection.
If you’re ready to stop the blame game and start building the marriage you want, DM me “Reconnect,” and let’s take the first step toward that transformation.
xoxox,
Alicia

09/24/2024

Do You Crave Emotional Intimacy In Your Marriage, but Struggle to Let Down Your Guard?
You’ve spent years building walls to protect yourself from getting hurt. It’s how you’ve survived—keeping people at a distance, guarding your heart, and maintaining control over your emotions.
But here’s the thing: those walls that once kept you safe have also left you feeling disconnected. You find yourself longing for a deeper emotional connection with your partner, where vulnerability isn’t a risk but a pathway to intimacy.
You want to feel truly close, to be emotionally seen, and to experience a deeper bond in your marriage.

You might think that opening up and being vulnerable means risking everything—like once you let down your guard, you’ll lose control, or worse, get hurt.
Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that emotional intimacy isn’t something you need, or that your partner won’t be able to meet you where you are if you let them in.
But here’s what I know to be true: real emotional connection only happens when you allow yourself to be vulnerable.
True intimacy isn’t built by being perfect or always keeping it together—it’s built through shared moments of openness, where you can be seen for who you really are. Even when it’s less than perfect and far from pretty.
Letting down your guard doesn’t make you weak; it invites deeper love and trust into your relationship. It makes you real and relatable.

The walls you’ve built aren’t the problem; they were your protection.
The issue is that they’ve now become a barrier, keeping you from experiencing the emotional fulfillment you crave.
Your partner may not even realize how much you’re holding back, and without letting them in, it’s impossible to develop the deep, meaningful connection you want.
In “Rebalance and Reconnect in Your Marriage’, I’ve worked with women who’ve spent years building emotional armor, believing it was safer to stay strong and independent. But when they started opening up, even just a little bit, the connection with their partner transformed. They felt more understood, more supported, and the emotional intimacy they longed for started to grow.
C.D. says, “Alicia helped me rewire my beliefs that I had to do it all and be it all in order for people to like me, let alone love me. This even meant my husband and child. I feel SO liberated, loved and seen by my husband, family and friends now that I’ve learned how to break down the walls that protected me in my childhood.”
M.R. says, “Alicia not only saved my marriage, she saved me from becoming seriously ill and having a nervous breakdown. Due to my childhood, which was not very nurturing, I was totally self reliant, even though I had a husband who was willing and ready to help me. I didn’t know how to let him in or let him help. My health was failing, and we were avoiding each other and constantly walking on eggshells. Alicia helped me rewrite the story in my head of how things needed to be and allow my husband to be a true partner and parent, and with the free time and energy I have due to his help, I’ve been able to improve my health issues.”
M.W. says, “I was killing it in my career, but absolutely miserable in my personal life. Even though I work in mental health, I didn’t have a good sense of balance or how to receive love, help and how to REALLY let my husband in. Alicia taught me how to love and accept myself, and what healthy boundaries are and how to put them into action in my personal and professional life. I’m a recovering people pleaser, but my life and my marriage are a lot happier after learning the principles Alicia guides her clients through.”
What would it feel like to let your partner see the real you? To start tearing down the walls, brick by brick, and build a relationship where vulnerability leads to deeper connection instead of fear? If you want to feel truly connected in your marriage, it’s time to embrace the power of being open, even when it feels hard.
What’s one thing you’ve been holding back that you’re ready to share with your partner? I’d be honored if you’d share it with me in my DM’s.

09/20/2024

Are You Tired of Feeling Like You’re the Only One Keeping Things Together?

You’ve mastered the art of handling everything—your career, your home, your relationship. You’re the one everyone turns to, the one who always has it together.
But beneath all that strength, you’re exhausted. You’re tired of being the one who’s always doing the supporting.
What you really want is to feel seen, heard, and supported by your partner.
You’re craving that deeper connection where your needs are just as important as theirs.

You’ve probably convinced yourself that being the strong one means you’re fine without help, that your partner can’t possibly support you the way you support them.
Maybe you think your needs aren’t “that important” or that asking for emotional support will make you seem weak or needy.

But here’s the truth: being seen, heard, and supported isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity.
You deserve to have your needs met in your marriage, just like everyone else. It’s not about needing less—it’s about realizing that you’re worthy of receiving more.

The problem isn’t that your partner can’t support you.
It’s that you’ve built a role around always being the one in charge.
The one who fixes everything. And as a result, you’ve unintentionally made yourself invisible.
The first step to changing this dynamic is recognizing that it’s okay to need help, and that it’s time to let your partner step up for you.

I’ve seen so many of my clients who’ve spent years over-functioning, doing all the emotional heavy-lifting in their relationships.
But when they learned how to ask for support, to actually express their needs, their marriages transformed. They finally felt heard.
The walls started coming down, and both partners began showing up more fully for each other.

So, I want to ask you—what would it feel like to be truly supported in your marriage? To feel like your needs matter just as much as your partner’s?
If you want deeper connection and emotional support, you need to let yourself be seen. It starts with shifting the dynamic and inviting your partner into that space.
What’s one thing you wish your partner could do to support you today?

09/18/2024

How my Rescue Dog, Daisy, Taught Me to Receive Unconditional Love

When we first brought our dog Daisy home, she was scared, unsure, and always on high alert. She was a stray rescue and didn’t know what it meant to trust or feel safe. She was always waiting for the next bad thing to happen, even though we were giving her nothing but love and goodness. Watching her struggle with the love we wanted to give her felt familiar.

Because, in many ways, I realized I was Daisy. 🤯

For years, I had built my own walls—keeping myself guarded, always ready to handle everything on my own. My husband, ever patient, had been offering me unconditional love, but I wasn’t fully open to receiving it. I didn’t even realize how much I was holding back. Like Daisy, I was afraid that if I let down my guard, I might get hurt.

For the longest time, I believed that letting someone love me without conditions was risky. I thought being vulnerable would make me weak, and that leaning on someone else would take away my independence. But the truth is, that mindset only led to feeling emotionally distant, and like I was never enough, even in a loving relationship.

Slowly, Daisy began to relax, to trust, to allow herself to be loved without questioning it and keeping her guard up. She taught me that receiving love doesn’t make you weak—it’s a sign of strength.
Even though she had been attacked by other dogs on more than one occasion, she would come to greet us by rolling over and bearing her tummy; a dogs most vulnerable position. I would see that questioning in her eyes as she would do it; almost as if she was asking, “You won’t hurt me will you? You’ll keep me safe while I’m in this vulnerable position and give me nothing but love and care, right?”
I suddenly had an ah-ha moment.

Just as I would never do anything to harm Daisy, I knew my husband would never do anything to harm me. And yet I had been like Daisy, cowering as if I were facing a pack of vicious dogs, instead of my husband, who loved me unconditionally.

In that moment, I realized that if Daisy could roll over and be that vulnerable, that I too, could bring down my walls. It’s about knowing you’re worthy of love simply because of who you are. Daisy didn’t have to do anything to “earn” our love, and neither did I with my husband.

I’ve worked with so many women who, like me, have been fiercely independent for so long that they don’t even realize how much love and support they’re missing out on. But the moment they start to open up, just a little, they find that receiving love doesn’t diminish them—it fills them up.

What would it look like if you let yourself receive unconditional love, just like Daisy? What if you allowed your partner to love you without questioning whether you’ve earned it and without holding back?

If you want deeper emotional connection and support in your relationship, you have to open yourself up to it. But I totally hear you, that you built your walls for survival, it’s not just a matter of going, “Oh! I guess I’ll just take down the walls.” In order to be vulnerable as someone who had a childhood where they had to have it all together to stay protected.

What you need to take down the walls is the skills to fully trust yourself and to know that you are loveable and worthy, just as you are. These skills don’t come naturally, we need to learn and rewire our brain and nervous system to receive this.

That’s why, in Rebalance and Reconnect in your Marriage we start off by learning how to trust yourself so you can take down your walls. Just a few of the things you will learn in ‘Rebalance and Reconnect in Your Marriage’ are:

🥰 Allowing yourself to be seen and heard so you can truly feel connected with your partner.
👩‍❤️‍👨 Allowing yourself to be loved unconditionally, this means sharing and showing your partner the good, bad and the ugly.
🤩 Setting healthy boundaries so that you are not over-functioning to prove your worth and burning yourself out.
🧘 Making yourself a priority, because it’s healthy for you, your children and everyone you encounter.

I still have 2 spots for September, DM me “Reconnect” if you’re ready to stop being hyper-vigilant and ready to receive the love that’s waiting for you in your relationship.

Showing you it’s safe to be vulnerable,
Alicia

09/17/2024

Are you free to be your true self?
We all want to be seen, loved and accepted for who we really are, not just the perfect mask we present to the rest of the world.
You’ve spent so long protecting yourself, building walls to keep the hurt out, that the idea of letting your guard down feels dangerous. I get it.
Vulnerability can be terrifying when you’ve always had to be strong and self-reliant because no one else was there to be the strong one for you, even in your childhood.
But here’s the truth—true connection, the kind that’s deep and fulfilling, only happens when you let someone see the REAL you.
The “I lost my mind when something didn’t go perfectly or the way you think it should” you.
The “I wrecked my new car” you. (Or in my case, ‘The I drove my new car over a newly tarred but not yet rocked road’ you).😵
The “I dropped the Thanksgiving turkey in the kitchen sink full of dishwater” you. (But you can’t let your guests know, so you wash the turkey for 20 minutes and pray it doesn’t taste like Dawn.)
When you keep those walls up, it leads to shallow connections, loneliness, and emotional distance. It’s not enough to just go through the motions; you deserve relationships where you can fully show up as yourself, where your feelings are valued, and where there’s room for you to be seen and heard. Plus, do you hear how EXHAUSTING the above is?!
If you want to have this kind of closeness in your relationship, you absolutely can have it. And let me tell you, you deserve it.
Right now, what's getting in the way of that closeness may seem like it's your spouse who isn't reaching out, but the truth, my love, is that it's these walls you've built. And I do not blame you for building them, because you came from a childhood where you had to always be on guard, and you had to always be hypervigilant.
Tell that part of you thank you, but now that's no longer your reality, and if you are willing to be supported to do the work to dismantle these walls, what's on the other side is the connection that you have been craving.
That's why I created my ‘Rebalance and Reconnect in Your Marriage’ Program, it's for women who want to have a connected and loving marriage, where there is a true partnership, so they can have the career, marriage and life of their dreams. We can’t do it alone, that’s why we have a partner, but we need to let them help.
I guide you through having those tricky conversations, allowing yourself to receive help and unconditional love, and learning to set and keep healthy boundaries so you can have a fuller and more juicy life.

J.D. says, “After my work with Alicia,I realized I can’t keep being the one to manage all the family plans—we need to share this. She taught me it’s about making space for your partner to step up and contribute so you are working together as a team.”
M.G. says, “Before Alicia’s program, I’d been silently struggling to manage everything because it haven’t felt safe or confident asking for help."
In the Rebalance and Reconnect in Your Marriage program, one of the things we work on is how to express your needs without guilt or feeling like you’re asking too much. It starts with being honest with yourself about what you need and then communicating it in a way that invites collaboration instead of resentment.
This is not about tearing down the walls in one go, and everything spilling out, instead, this is a safe way for you to start peeling back those layers and explore what vulnerability feels like in a space where you're supported and empowered.
Because you deserve relationships that are deep, connected, and full of the love you’ve been longing for. Let’s take that first step together. Reach out today and we’ll see if the ‘Rebalance and Reconnect’ program is a good fit for you.

Xoxox,
Alicia

09/13/2024

You dream of being able to start your day with a nice cup of tea and a book, relaxing and easing into your day in a calm way. Instead, your reality is packing lunches for everyone, frantically searching for jerseys needed for after school sports and driving like a bat out of hell to get the kids to school and you to work on time.

I absolutely feel you that self-sacrifice is deeply ingrained in you and it may even stem from a childhood trauma where you felt like in order to be loved, or in order to be worthy, or in order to deserve love, you had to just keep giving, giving, giving, giving, giving…..

BUT LET'S DO A REALITY CHECK

Are you in a relationship that's currently feeling fulfilling? Is this how you want to be, or are you ready to create a life that you truly love, including sitting outside and drinking tea with a good book or while petting your cat or dog in the morning?
When you’ve been hurt before, it’s easy to cling to relationship patterns that don’t serve you, thinking that if you just do enough, you can keep everything together. But deep down, you know you’re not getting what you need. You’re prioritizing their needs, their happiness, and forgetting about your own.
The truth? No amount of self-sacrifice will make someone love you the way you deserve. You can’t lose yourself in the hope that someone will stay.

I won't beat around the bush. I'll tell you very directly how to get the kind of marriage that you want.

You need to acknowledge your own needs. Yes, it's okay to want more. Yes, it's okay to take time and reflect on what you want and allow yourself to receive.

All of these things are important. And, I completely understand that it's not like you can just flip a switch, and suddenly receive love, or help, and allow yourself to be a priority, just because I’ve told you this is important.

It takes a lot of reprogramming, especially if you're coming from a childhood where this was completely ingrained. That's why I created the Rebalance and Reconnect in Your Marriage Program.

It's for women who want to rebalance and reconnect in their life and in their marriage so they can receive love, help and all the goodness they desire and deserve.

In this program here are just a few of the things I teach:

🧘 Shifting from Hyper-Independence: Learn how to let go of the need to handle everything alone, and embrace the strength in asking for and receiving help.

😍Setting Healthy Boundaries: How to stop overextending yourself and set clear boundaries that allow for mutual support and healthier emotional exchanges.

🥰Cultivating Vulnerability: The importance of vulnerability in fostering deeper connections, and how you can begin opening up SAFELY without feeling like you’re losing control.

👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨 Redefining Success in Relationships: Helping you redefine what success looks like in personal relationships, focusing on emotional fulfillment rather than simply "managing" everything and everyone.

In ‘Rebalance and Reconnect in Your Marriage’, I help high-achieving women unlock their ability to receive love and support with ease and confidence.
You deserve a relationship where your needs matter, where your voice is heard, and where you don’t have to constantly give to feel valued. Imagine a love where you’re free to express your desires and set boundaries without fear.
You deserve a love that is deep, mutual and fulfilling, you deserve to have your needs met as well
I believe in you. You are enough, just as you are. I have two spots open this month for new 1:1 clients. DM me “Reconnect” to learn more.
Xoxoxo,
Alicia

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