KJ Counseling Services

06/16/2022

Who else struggles with the “you should know better!” and “how many times have I told you…?!” battles with their kids? 🙋‍♀️🤦‍♀️

But are my expectations of my kids age appropriate? developmentally appropriate?

I’ve had to remind myself many times lately that Mother Nature really set us up good with this one: the part of the brain that is responsible for IMPULSE CONTROL (dorsolateral prefrontal cortex) is among the LAST TO FULLY DEVELOP, and that’s not until around AGE 25 or so.

10/28/2021

WORRYING will not take away tomorrows troubles but will take away todays PEACE.

All of our emotions have functions, and those functions fluctuate. They can function as our internal sirens, traffic lights, & lane lines (to name just a few).

If you are feeling overwhelmed with any emotions, work to identify the function and possible points of action. 

Ask yourself:
“What is the function these emotions are serving for me right now?”
“Is there anything I can do right now to resolve these feeling right now?”

Trying to “control” our emotions by ignoring them or stuffing them away won’t pay off long term (and maybe not even in the short term).

Everyone has a breaking point, a rim to their capacity cup. If you need to temporarily set something on the back burner to collect yourself or attend to necessary responsibilities, do so with intention and a promise to yourself that you will address the issue/emotion once you are able to do so.

10/25/2021

03/06/2021

This 👇

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2021/03/05/974069925/are-we-raising-unhelpful-bossy-kids-heres-the-fix?sc=18&f=1001&fbclid=IwAR1EXIALneEscUbTwEnRJPVIF5G3ZpKdHag54Gh6W7tCvARu2K5Lgm_VZzs

In some cultures kids roll their eyes when asked to do chores. In others, they'll pitch in without even being asked. Researchers have identified two key practices to raise helpful children.

02/26/2021

❤️👇

05/30/2020

This is a really good read. OCD has many different forms, it’s not all hand washing and light switches.

I can still recall the exact moment that my brain started lying to me.

04/09/2020

“We have to collectively recognize that parents — and any caregivers right now — have less to give at work. A lot less. The assumptions seem to be that parents have “settled into a routine” and “are doing okay now.”
To be clear, parents are not doing okay.”

Even in the most privileged households, the pandemic is exposing the farce of how society treats families

03/20/2019

This is so awesome! Hopefully this is a successful program that gets rolled out quickly, nationwide and beyond!!
“To celebrate seven years, BTWF is teaming up with the National Council for Behavioral Health to launch America’s first ever Mental Health First Aid training program. The program will be taught to high-schoolers in grades 10 through 12 and will focus on such issues as anxiety, depression, substance use, and eating disorders. A pilot program will be debuting this spring in eight schools across the country. The program will then expand come fall.”

Lady Gaga's Born This Way Foundation is setting up mental health first aid training programs in high schools across America.

10/27/2018

With U.S. women dying and being injured in childbirth, members of Congress ask hundreds of maternity hospitals to explain their safety practices.

09/27/2018

How have you been feeling since your baby was born?

09/27/2018

Bringing home a new baby may not always leave you feeling good.