06/15/2025
“If your outrage is conditional, if your compassion has a colour, if your understanding evaporates the moment you can't relate—you’re not fooling anyone,” said Bear, pausing for a breath...
“If you’re only kind to some, you’re not kind at all.”
©Tara Shannon
❤️🐇🐻❄️
This one might feel a little harsh to some. And if it does—maybe sit with that for a moment. Because that’s what Rabbit and Bear often do—they offer quiet little provocations. Not to shame or scold, but to ask us to think. To reflect. To feel.
This particular piece is about kindness. True kindness. The kind that doesn’t pick and choose who’s worthy of care based on how closely their life or story mirrors our own.
Bear says it plainly:
“If you're only kind to some, you're not kind at all.”
This wasn’t written in response to any one moment or movement, but in response to many. Over the years, I’ve watched compassion extend to some people but not others, and I’ve heard empathy evaporate when the story got uncomfortable or unfamiliar.
Kindness isn’t a light we flick on and off. It’s who we are when no one is watching. It’s how we show up when it’s hard. It’s what we do when we don’t understand—but we choose to care anyway.
Thank you for being here and for being thoughtful—even when it's not easy.
***It’s also important to remember that kindness doesn’t mean tolerating the intolerable. Intolerance and harm don’t deserve a gentle pass. Sometimes, the kindest thing we can do—for ourselves and for those being hurt—is to speak up. To name what’s happening clearly and factually. That kind of clarity is a form of kindness—especially when it protects or gives voice to others.