08/14/2025
Forest Counseling knows that tantrums can feel like an emergency and like it needs to be fixed, IMMEDIATELY! However, there are ways to keep your cool as you try to help your little one navigate these big emotions and not get pulled in.
Try to be proactive and think through what energy or words you'd like to use before the meltdown happens. Think of how you want your children to handle a conflict.
Remember that when children scream and cry, they aren't trying to be malicious; this behavior is actually a healthy way of releasing stress hormones and showing that they need something.
In the moment, do your best to not take it personally. Try to stay grounded and remind yourself that you can handle this.
When your child is screaming and crying, they are not thinking logically - so focus on using short phrases, like "Let it out" or "I'm here" or "I know it is hard. We will get through this." Keeping it simple gives your child space to express themselves.
Another important reminder, when children cry or scream, that means you are a safe person to express themselves around. Use that as a reminder to connect, even in these difficult moments and show your child that you are a safe, loving, and grounded space.
The most important reminder is that no parent will ever get it right 100% of the time. It's more important to try your best, demonstrate healthy emotional regulation when you can, and show unconditional love to your child.
For a more in-depth explanation of these examples visit: https://themompsychologist.com/2022/03/19/how-to-deal-with-your-childs-tantrums-without-losing-it-tips-for-staying-calm-during-big-feelings/
