09/12/2025
Grief doesn’t need sugarcoating. It needs truth and space.
So often we hear phrases meant to comfort, but instead they feel like erasure:
❌”It gets easier with time.”
➡️Say instead: “I know the milestones ahead will be so hard without them. I’ll be here for you.”
❌”Just focus on the good memories”
➡️Say instead: “Your love for them was so big. Of course your grief is, too. Tell me a memory that feels especially alive today.”
❌”They wouldn’t want you to be sad.”
➡️Say instead: “Your tears are love. They deserve to be grieved, and you deserve the space to feel it.”
The truth is:
🕊️ Time passing doesn’t always soften the ache - it can highlight all the places our loved one won’t be.
🕊️ Good memories don’t cancel out grief; they exist right alongside it.
🕊️ Tears are not weakness. They are love made visible.
If you’re grieving: please know your sadness belongs. You don’t need to “be better” or “move on”. Every wave of grief honors the depth of your love.
If you’re supporting someone in grief: you don’t need to fix it. (You also can’t fix it, so relax). Just acknowledge the storm. Sit in it with them. Your presence means more than polished words ever could.
If you can get them to talk, just listen, and know you’re helping.
🌈 Because love isn’t about skipping the hard parts - it’s about staying real, together.
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