Real Deal Healing

01/04/2026

Feel it. Let it go.
Holding on to emotional energy and keeping it in your body is not good for your physical health. Full moon time is a time for release. 🌟🌟🌟🦋🌈

01/04/2026

Be kinder to yourself
And I will too!
Cheers to 2026 my friends
May the healing continue! 🦋🌈

This new year isn’t asking you to be stronger, faster, or better.

It’s asking you to be kinder — especially to yourself.

Healing doesn’t mean erasing the past.
It means releasing the punishment that keeps you stuck there.

Growth can be quiet.
Progress can be gentle.

And if you need proof — this flower blooming from the ancient ruins of Pompeii is it.

You are just as strong.
Life still finds a way through what looks broken.

Where the journey matters — inside and out. ✨
Peace • Love • Wanderlust

01/01/2026

I don’t like having bad feelings about people. Not only does it disturb my peace, but it isn’t healthy for my body.

I learned some years ago to pray for the person I have these feelings about. To pray for them everything I wish for myself. To do it multiple times (don’t remember how long, maybe 21 days?)

I have found it to be effective. At this time, I do need to practice this. Some folk just keep rearing their little heads, you know? Forgive how many times? I’m not a scripture expert, so……

Gotta let it go….again and again and again.

12/29/2025

Yes. Breathe in, breathe out.
Washing the dishes, stirring the soup.
No rush. Just being here with what you are doing or not doing. ✌🏽

12/27/2025

Be careful using words like “I will always _____,” or “I will never ______.” Words can build an energetic wall that puts limits on what the Spirit can do for us. That is how our words and thoughts become our reality. Cheers friends.

12/27/2025

All things happen for me, not to me. For my growth, for my learning, for me (us) to remember who I am. I AM love. You are love.
♥️♥️♥️

The soul knows in Its wisdom that the experience you are having in This Moment is an experience sent to you by God before you had any conscious awareness of it.

Every Now Moment is a glorious gift from God. That's why it is called the present.

12/22/2025

Feelings - the way out is through! Feel em!
♥️♥️♥️

Emotions are meant to move, not be suppressed or resisted.

They carry messages, not permanent states.
When you fight a feeling, it stays trapped inside.
When you numb it, it goes quiet only to return later.
But when you allow an emotion to be fully felt,
without judgment or escape,
the body understands that it is safe to release it.
Sadness softens.
Anger loses its grip.
Fear passes through.
This is how emotions complete their natural cycle — by being felt, honored, and gently let go.🌿

12/22/2025

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed getting ready for Christmas. Pressured. Thinking certain things have to be ready for the special day, even if your plans are simple. We can remind ourselves that a lot of stress is a choice. So what if some of it happens after Christmas Day? So what if I simplify my plans? It’s ok to relax, let go, and enjoy the process. What gets done gets done. What doesn’t, doesn’t. And it’s all ok. Just let it all be ok. 🌟🌟🌟🦋🌈

12/09/2025

Some simple suggestions for dealing with overwhelm. I practice some of this and appreciate the way she describes them. I don’t have an “overwhelm buddy” though.

Do you know that I believe that overwhelm isn't a negative thing in our lives? I actually think of overwhelm as an "indicator" light - like the ones in our car that say, "check engine" or "low fuel".

Overwhelm is the indicator in our lives that something needs to change. Now, if we ignore overwhelm and exist in it - then it becomes negative. But, if we can step back and look at it as that indicator of something that needs to change, we then gain the insight to make changes.

It doesn't mean that the feeling of overwhelm vanishes. I get how hard it can be when you're overwhelmed to move out of it. But, you gain power in recognizing that it doesn't define you; it's just an emotion you are experiencing.

Here are ways I bust out of overwhelm so that I can gain a bit of peace (and then time to re-adjust my life or schedule or commitments or whatever).

✨✨1. Pause.
There is so much power in the pause. A pause is when you decide to step out of what you're doing - even if it's just a minute. A pause doesn't mean you have to solve everything or create massive change. A pause is simply a moment for you to rest, to catch your breath, to recalibrate. Sometimes a pause is a couple deep breaths, sometimes it is a walk, and sometimes it is removing yourself from the situation. Never underestimate that power of a pause.

✨✨2. Do one thing.
Most of the time when I experience overwhelm it is because too much is being asked from me in one moment. Whether it was during the toddler years of my life when I didn't feel like I could get much done or it is the teen years where I feel like their needs rival the toddler needs but with me driving here and there and finishing projects OR it is just life - I've learned that best way to calm my spirit is to choose one thing to accomplish. Just one. And then the next and then the next. It's when I try to do it all at once that the overwhelm light pops on.

✨✨3. Create a list.
This goes with do one thing, but when you create a list of what is overwhelming you you give yourself context. The list could be as simple as "the song that keeps repeating on the cartoon" and the "pile of laundry" and email and so forth. Just list it - get it out of your head and onto paper. Then you know what it is and instead of carrying it all, it's out there in the universe. There's a great deal of power in just releasing it in this way.

✨✨4. Have your "overwhelm" friend.
This is the friend where you can call or text and just get that list of overwhelm stuff out there. No solutions are needed during this time, just someone to listen. Maybe you establish a code word, but having that person to just be there is priceless. And, you, too, can be this person for someone else.

✨✨5. Give yourself grace.
You're human. Not perfect. Humans experience emotions; they get pushed to the edge. You're real. You'd probably give your best friend a whole bunch of grace if she was experiencing overwhelm - so remember to extend it to yourself. Grace to be real, grace to try, grace to take a break.

You're worth it.

Those are the four things I use to conquer that initial feeling of overwhelm. Remember, you CANNOT fix things while you're experiencing the intensity of overwhelm. You can fix things and make changes when you're out of overwhelm.

You've got this.

I believe in you.

~Rachel

12/06/2025

Self love and understanding
During anxious times and just plain old tough times

10 Truths to Cling to When You're in an Anxiety Storm:

1. This will pass. It will. It will. It will. It will not stay this dark and confusing and terrible forever, I promise. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

2. Everything is not as bad as it seems right now. You're seeing absolutely everything through an anxiety filter today. When the anxiety lifts everything will seem a whole lot better and more hopeful.

3. You're not the only one. You. Are. Not. The. Only. One. No matter what you're feeling right now (angry, sad, tense, terrified, hopeless, crazy). (Yes, all those things and more can be symptoms of anxiety). I promise you're not the only one.

4. You don't have to just "power through" and you don't need to do this on your own. Ask for help, talk to your doctor, see a counselor, call a friend.

5. There is nothing wrong with you. You're normal.

6. It's not your fault. It's not because you don't take enough herbs or don't exercise enough. It's not because you love sugar. It's not because you're not meditating enough, praying enough, or not strong enough. Sometimes anxiety just happens.

7. Kick shame to the curb. Talking about it with a trusted someone helps a lot.

8. You're not a "unique" "unfixable" case. A common lie that I've believed and most of my friends have wrestled with is we're the one person who is really messed up or unhelp-able. Not true. There is help for you.

9. Be gentle with yourself. If you're in the middle of an anxiety storm remember to rest, take baths, exercise (in ways you enjoy), eat well, censor your news intake, take some things off your plate, listen to good music, say no to things that will be stressful, watch funny tv.

10. People that don't know, don't know. There are some people who haven't actually experienced anxiety that are going to give you terrible advice. They don't know what they don't know, talk to people who know.

1. (Again, because it's important): This will pass. It will, it will, it will.
Hang in there friends, we're in this together.

Love,
Jess

12/06/2025

Notice how your body feels around certain people. That’s how you can tell when you are truly safe or not

Not Everyone Calms Your Nervous System—Some Agitate It
Without Saying a Word

You’ll know safety not by how someone speaks to you,
but by how your body settles around them.
There’s a difference between someone who sounds kind
and someone whose energy is actually safe.
You’ll feel it in the way your shoulders drop.
In how your breath deepens.
In how your guard slowly melts—not because you’re trying to impress,
but because their presence doesn’t require performance.
Safe presence isn’t loud.
It doesn’t rush.
It doesn’t ask you to shrink, fix, or entertain.
It simply holds space
in a way that lets you feel more like yourself when they’re near.
And once you’ve felt it—really felt it—
you’ll start to notice how many people you had to be smaller for.
How often your nervous system was in protection mode
just to get through the conversation.
You’ll start to realize:
It wasn’t me. It was the space I was in.
It was the energy I kept tolerating.
It was the subtle tension I kept explaining away.
Safe presence feels like exhale.
Like not needing to watch your tone, your timing, or your truth.
Like someone who doesn’t just hear your words—
they feel them.
These people exist.
And they don’t need to be fixed, fixed by, or fought for.
They arrive when you stop settling for static,
and start choosing peace.
Protect your energy.
Notice who your body softens around.
That’s the real connection.
That’s the truth beneath the words.
That’s where you begin to feel safe enough to grow.
~Coach Mantas

Image by Susan Seddon Boulet

12/05/2025

One of the parts of losing a loved one that is not often talked about is the part about healing from aspects of that relationship that were not so great, or even admitting that they existed. Even though we may have been taught somehow not to “speak ill of the dead,” it is actually important to understand, admit, and process the fact that some relationships with loved ones were difficult, hurtful and even traumatic. Those things are not gone just because the person passed away. Those things often live inside us until we acknowledge them and do what we can to heal ourselves. Maybe we are filled with guilt over our part in all of it. That, too, will interrupt our lives until we give it attention.

We can still have conversations with our loved ones. We can say we are sorry, we can tell them they hurt us, anything and all of it. If a therapist helps to release it, so be it.

It is ok to have a happy life after a loved one leaves. We all deserve that. Peace be with you my friends. 🌟🌟🌟🦋🌈