08/09/2025
because we feel it in the body, I’m sharing this here too. Bodywork isn’t just about massage… it’s about integrating all the stuff that lingers years later.
No Magic Words…Drop-offs don’t just wreck the your child…they tug at you, too. It makes sense you feel wrecked; your nervous system is wired to stay close to her (him), so walking away goes against every instinct. Here are a few ways you can take care of your own big feelings: (from personal experience)
1. Let Yourself Feel It
You don’t have to ignore your feelings. Cry in the car, talk it out with a trusted friend, write it in a journal. Your sadness means you care deeply…it’s love showing up as a DEEP ache, or your past experiences as a child.
2. Ground Your Body
Your nervous system needs signals of safety, just like hers.
• Take three long EXHALES (let your inhales be shorter) before you drive away.
• Put one hand on your heart, one on your belly, and remind yourself: “She’s safe. I will see her soon.”
• Even a few stretches or shaking out your arms or yawning can help move that anxious energy.
3. Reframe the Story
Instead of “I’m abandoning her,” remind yourself: “I’m giving her the chance to GROW and I’m giving myself a chance to breathe.” Daycare/school isn’t a break in your bond…it’s part of how she learns that the world is safe even when you’re not right there.
4. Create Your Own Ritual
Have something small you do after drop-off that comforts you…maybe a cup of coffee in peace, a favorite song in the car, or a short walk. It gives your system something predictable to land on after the goodbye.
5. Anchor to Reunion
Picture the moment you scoop her up again. Imagine her face, her hug, her little stories. Hold onto that vision…it reminds your body that this isn’t loss, it’s a cycle of growing.
6. Communicate your concerns and fears with your child’s teacher. This is so important, as they can provide you with valuable feedback. Assurance than your wee one’s nervous system has settled in and their fears have settled.
💛 You’re not wrong for feeling wrecked. You’re a person whose heart is fully invested. The fact that it hurts means you’re doing it right. sigh… especially when it’s hard.
