01/28/2023
Wanting to see pictures of your kids now! It's been a while for me.
When my kids were toddlers my husband and I took them on a 1.3 km loop in the lush forest on the Sunshine Coast, BC.
It didn't start well.
Tears, foot stomping, and not wanting to walk. They just wanted to be in our arms.
My heart sank a little. This being one of my favourite "short loops". I had wanted it to be more fun.
And then I remembered.
The kids were crying because something wasn't right.
On some level, they didn't feel safe.
Cajoling or convincing them otherwise wouldn't have served any of us in any way.
I had no idea what wasn't right, but as I stood there it was clear these little beings needed support.
So we held the kids in our arms, and kept walking another 10 meters into the lush trees.
Their crying calmed down, their smiles started.
I started pointing out the trees, and branches. I could feel Lewis' breath settle down. Sam started to sing.
Then I went a step further -
I saw a log and some moss - I said to the Lewis - "Look Lewis, look at the wood". I placed him on the trail and let him touch. His eyes lit up.
I saw a fern another 5 meters away, and pointing to it, said, "hey Sam and Lewis, look at the fern".
They toddled over to the fern.
I then pointed out some more moss another 5 meters. They ran over to the moss.
And so it went, I pointed out something a distance away, and off they went.
Soon enough, the two of them were running, walking, touching, pointing. We'd offer a hand to help them over bigger rocks and roots, and they said "no".
In the last 0.5 k, both were running fast down the final straightaway back to the car.
Yoga therapy principles that I have used since 1995 - to help people out of pain, to reduce auto-immune flares, to run faster, jump higher - have an organic basis throughout my life.
Principles like:
• DON'T FORCE. Forcing tends to create more tension, not less.
• HONOUR THE FEAR. If someone feels scared, or if something isn't right, no amount of convincing will help them. And worse, it could dilute their own inner authority to listen and act on what they need.
• EASE LEADS TO MORE EASE. If more ease is what is wanted, then move in a range that cultivates more ease.