06/02/2020
Friends, we need to talk.
Iāve been quiet for several days, lost inside the vortex of my mind and not knowing how to get back. I felt deeply compelled to speak up, but those anxious thoughts kept telling me to keep my mouth shut and stay in my lane. Iām a woman who has been deeply privileged to grow up safe, educated and with a distinct advantage from the moment I was born, purely by the color of my skin. I generally post pretty photos of muffins and avocado jokes -what can I possibly say that will matter? And isnāt it obvious to all who know and work with me, that I value ALL humans?
Iāve spent a lot of time asking myself these questions. Iāve thought about the world from my young daughterās perspective. Iāve thought about the example I wish to set and the world I hope to create for my daughter and all other children.
The truth?
Iām part of the problem.
Yes, you read that correctly.
I, a privileged white woman who counts myself as a human who accepts, loves, honors and values ALL of humankind, am part of the problem. I had to get past my shame to admit it.
Simply put - itās just not enough to be a decent human being. You have to act. You have to have the hard conversations. Actions speak louder than words, but when it comes to racial equality - words matter a whole lot, too. And I havenāt said them. Iām not being the ally that I claim to be, if Iām not actively talking about how we can confront racism in our hearts and in our homes.
For myself, and for the vast majority of the population I see in my practice, hitting the streets to peacefully protest in solidarity is just simply not available to our bodies. I have, without even realizing it, used that as an excuse not to act - and that needs to change. There are many things you can do without ever leaving your house.
*Speak up - often, loudly, without ceasing. Say the names of those who have been senselessly murdered - George Floyd, Breonna Taylor, Ahmaud Arbery and thousands more.
*Donate if youāre able - check out The Minnesota Freedom Fund, Black Visions Collective, Reclaim the Block, Campaign Zero, Unicorn Riot
*Educate yourselves and your family - itās not enough to just read books to your children, but that IS a great place to start. Read them to your children, talk about them as a family, and keep the conversation open and active.
*In the same vein, learn, unlearn, and keep learning and unlearning. I personally have learned a lot through , .cargle, , and other activists. Check out the books and resources I post in my stories throughout the next week and into the foreseeable future.
Today is Blackout Tuesday, where the intention was to mute social media and elevate BIPOC voices. I myself posted a black square earlier today in solidarity, and although I maintain that solidarity, I felt compelled to add more. As a white person, itās not enough to stand together. I can either shut my mouth entirely or open it only for the purpose of sharing resources and elevating the BIPOC community, from whom we have so. Much. To. Learn. I chose the latter.
This starts at home. Itās up to ALL of us to leave the world a better place for the next generation.