Kathleen Silvestri Therapy Beyond Measure

11/24/2023

"My philosophy is: What people say about me is none of my business.
I am who I am and do what I do.
I expect nothing and accept everything.
And that makes life easier.--
We live in a world where funerals are more important than the deceased, marriage is more important than love, looks are more important than the soul.
We live in a packaging culture that despises content."

Sir Anthony Hopkins

09/27/2023

𝟐𝟎 𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐨𝐨𝐤 -"𝐄𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐚𝐥 𝐈𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐞 "

1 Rational and Emotional.
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It is mentioned in the book that there are two different bits of intelligence. Throughout our lives, we make decisions by being influenced by these two types of intelligence. Who we are, what we do, our reactions depend entirely on it. The underlying reason for our very clever actions or our irrational but feel-good behaviors depends on these two types of intelligence.

2 / IQ Isn’t As Important As We Think
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IQ can’t get you beyond being a good employee. It makes you graduate from school, but it can’t find you a job. When you go to the job interview, your diploma cannot answer the questions during the interview. You need to have good communication with the person who will hire you. It all depends on your emotional intelligence.

3 Areas of Emotional Intelligence
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Emotional intelligence is responsible for our motivation, awareness, empathy, and relationships. They’re all interconnected, and if you’re bad at one, you’re more likely to be bad at the others.

4 The Emotional Brain Is Stronger
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The outer upper part of our brain is the part where we make rational decisions, while the lower part is the part where we make emotional decisions. No matter how rational beings we may appear, we can very easily be deceived by the emotional brain. We can find excuses to trick the rational brain into doing what the emotional brain wants.

5 Others’ Feelings
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Thanks to our empathy, we can truly understand how others are feeling. If we could not distinguish between happy or angry people, there would be incredible chaos. Beyond these two basic emotions, we must develop an ability to empathize. In the absence of empathy, our communication aspect is affected very badly.

6 Motivation
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Our motivation, which enables us to endure the problems we face for a long time, is also a product of emotional intelligence. We can convince ourselves that we can solve problems. We can remain optimistic and have hope for the future.

7 Awareness
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One of our most difficult aspects to develop is our awareness. We must practice understanding how we truly feel. We must ask ourselves questions. We must listen to ourselves.

8 Relationships
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Relationships cannot be let go. It must be managed. This requires mutual tolerance and understanding. If you know how to resolve conflicts, it turns into a happy relationship for both parties.

9 Negative and Positive Emotions
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Our emotions change every moment, but the longer negative emotions stay, the more negatively they affect our lives. It prevents us from being successful in our work and relationships. Fortunately, these feelings are not difficult to change. You can learn to turn negative emotions into positive ones.

10 Productivity
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When your emotional intelligence gets stronger, your creativity starts to increase. Regardless of your field of work, you will start to see serious differences in your productivity. It will increase your performance. Longer hours allow you to work with the same efficiency.

11 Emotional Intelligence Is The Key To Success
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Since we cannot live a life independent of our emotions, the higher our emotional intelligence, the higher our quality of life will be. We know that successful managers are experts in managing their emotional intelligence. You can also take them as an example.

12 Leadership
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A commander cannot direct an entire army by saying “we are going to war”. You can’t manage a team by just saying what to do. You need to understand your team’s current feelings and level of motivation. You should encourage them to work. You have to use your emotional intelligence for all of these.

13 Teams
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Average talent teams that get along well with each other are more productive than gifted teams that don’t get along. It doesn’t matter how well a team with low emotional intelligence is in control of the numbers. They can’t even decide what to try to do.

14 Stress
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Difficulties at work and in our relationships put us under stress. Stress makes it difficult for us to find solutions to problems. When we can’t find solutions to problems, we get more stressed. To get rid of this dead end, we need to know how to manage our stressful situations.

15 Marriage
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The secret of long and happy marriages is sincerity in your feelings. If your marriage was not built on this basis of intimacy from the very beginning, it will begin to crack over the years. Even small problems become unsolvable. You have to be emotionally open at the beginning of the road.

16 Leadership
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Leadership does not mean dominance. Leading your colleagues to a common goal and making them believe in the reality of this purpose. Successful leaders are those who can keep their team’s motivation alive for many years. You have to make them desire the work to be done.

17. Emotions Are All Normal
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Anger, hatred, love, happiness… You can understand when and under what circumstances these feelings will emerge by following yourself. You may have these feelings depending on how you interpret the events you encounter. The important thing is to be able to react independently of your feelings. You may find yourself making promises that you cannot keep because you are happy, or you may resort to violence when you are angry.

18/ Being able to Express Your Emotions
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Not everyone’s level of empathy can be very good. You may be in a difficult situation immediately. You may feel bad, but people may not understand it. In these situations, you may need to express your feelings a little more directly.

19/You Are Not Your Emotions
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Keep doing what you need to do, no matter how you feel. Success is achieved by people who cannot give up no matter what their feelings and thoughts are. Don’t let your feelings affect your actions.

20/ Timing
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As soon as you feel a different emotion, try to think before you act. Because emotional intelligence moves faster than rational intelligence, it can make you act irrationally and make you say any unnecessary words.

Thanks for reading
~ 𝗧𝗼𝗻𝗴𝘀𝗮 𝗚𝘂𝘆

Book:- https://amzn.to/3XsVTz2

06/24/2023

𝑰 𝒘𝒂𝒏𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 "𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒂𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒃𝒆𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒑𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒆𝒅." If you are around 20 years old or older, I can tell you that you were raised by 𝑩𝒆𝒉𝒂𝒗𝒊𝒐𝒖𝒓𝒊𝒔𝒕𝒔.

Behaviourists focus on behaviour as the bottom line, that means if “I don’t like the behaviour, I 𝒔𝒒𝒖𝒂𝒔𝒉 𝒊𝒕.”

“The behaviour is to loud and inconvenient.”

I will squash it.

“The behaviour makes me feel bad as your parent.”

I will squash it, without any real consideration for the emotional health and well-being of the child underneath the behaviour.

One of the Original behaviourist/psychologist at the time was John B. Watson. He was broadcasting this message to the parents:

“When you are tempted to pet your child, remember that mother love is a dangerous thing.”

“You got to keep them hungry.”

What he meant was - hungry for your love. Because if the children are hungry for your love, then they will do whatever it is you want them to do in order to feel 𝒍𝒐𝒗𝒆 and 𝒔𝒂𝒇𝒆𝒕𝒚. This is a form of 𝒎𝒂𝒏𝒊𝒑𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 and it is 𝒕𝒐𝒙𝒊𝒄.

𝕎𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕨𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕙𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕖𝕟 𝕚𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕡𝕒𝕣𝕖𝕟𝕥 𝕓𝕖𝕝𝕚𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕨𝕠𝕣𝕕𝕤 𝕠𝕗 𝕕𝕠𝕔𝕥𝕠𝕣 𝔽𝕖𝕣𝕓𝕖𝕣:

“If you respond to them every single time, you’re molly-coddling the baby.”

“If the baby won’t sleep, your job is to leave them alone to cry.”

(Allowing babies to "cry it out" is a form of need-neglect that has numerous long-term consequences. The "cry it out" strategy has the following consequences: it increases stress hormones, decreases self-regulation, and destroys trust.)

“Even if they vomit, for the crying soon will settle and they will go to sleep.”

𝑫𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒔𝒆𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒌 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒕𝒕𝒂𝒄𝒉𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 ?

𝑫𝒐 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒌 𝒊𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒃𝒐𝒏𝒅?

And if you were a highly sensitive child (empathetic), you could have experienced that as very traumatic.

“When you have good children, then you’re a good parent.”

𝑰𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒄𝒓𝒂𝒛𝒚 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒘𝒆 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒇𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒆𝒅 𝑴𝒐𝒓𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑪𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒅 𝑫𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒍𝒐𝒑𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕.

“That is crazy, children behave the way they do, due to the fact that they have still 𝒊𝒎𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒖𝒓𝒆 𝒃𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒏𝒔.

18-month-old children are meant to chew on other humans. They bite other humans! Are you raising a little psychopath? 𝑵𝑶.

When you’re four years old, you’re not supposed to share. You actually have no idea how to share. You won’t even have the neural architecture for that for another 3 or 4 years! And we get kids who are 4 in trouble for not sharing.

We then wonder why we have whole generations of adults who feel like they’re not good enough.

We’re not honoring children for who they are. We’re trying to form children into who we want them to be, and then they grow up and become adults who feel like they must perform in order to be loved. “

Well, no kidding. Where did they get that from?

You see if you didn’t have the need met early on, you will work hard as a grown up to fill the 𝒉𝒐𝒍𝒆.

You will try to get the 𝒏𝒆𝒆𝒅 met from 𝒐𝒖𝒕𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆 until you realize the only way to meet the need is from the 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒊𝒅𝒆. Through full acceptance of self.

𝑻𝒉𝒊𝒔 𝒊𝒔 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒘𝒆 𝒘𝒆𝒓𝒆 𝒓𝒂𝒊𝒔𝒆𝒅. And maybe your parents didn’t go to that extreme, where Watson coached parents that you shouldn’t hug your children in the morning, you should offer them a handshake.

And this is, by the way, not about pointing the finger at your parents, and how they 𝒇***𝒆𝒅 you up, and now you are grown-up and now get to 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒍 all their 𝒔𝒉*𝒕, right?

That’s not what it’s about.

Because our parents did the very best that they could with the knowledge that they had for the time that they were raising you in.

So, this is not an exercise of going home and blaming your parents. Please never have that conversation with them. It is not their story. It is yours. Because now it lives in you.

So, what we know from the 𝒔𝒄𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 of 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒅 𝒅𝒆𝒗𝒆𝒍𝒐𝒑𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒏𝒆𝒖𝒓𝒐𝒔𝒄𝒊𝒆𝒏𝒄𝒆 now, is that we must honor children for the very ones that they are.

We’ve got to show up and make sense of children, 𝒏𝒐𝒕 through the lens of morality but rather through the lens of development.

Children are children. 𝑻𝒉𝒆𝒚 𝒂𝒓𝒆 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒚 𝒂𝒅𝒖𝒍𝒕𝒔. You cannot, by downward extension, take the expectations that you will eventually have for children as adults and apply it to them now.

“Oh, if I’m generous with you, you’ll get the greedy gimmes and you are going to grow up to be a greedy adult.” 𝑵𝑶!

Be generous with children because it inspires them to grow up and be generous adults.

If a child is having a 𝒎𝒆𝒍𝒕𝒅𝒐𝒘𝒏, you want to know what they need most from their big people?

They need 𝒄𝒐𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 (safe attachment), 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒑𝒂𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏, 𝒆𝒎𝒑𝒂𝒕𝒉𝒚.

They need an invitation for all of that nasty stuff to come out (difficult emotions), because it is better out than in. That which stays in, festers and comes forth later in uglier ways.

You don’t want them to bottle that up inside. You want them to barf that all out and now!

So that when they become adults, they have learned how to deal with their big emotions.

They have figured out what it is to 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇-𝒓𝒆𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒆 on the inside because you actually grew for them a brain that was capable of that. And how did you grow for them a brain capable of self-regulation?

You regulated them from the outside (through 𝒄𝒐-𝒓𝒆𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏).

So, when we know better, we do better.

I think if we could show up just one generation of big people, parent and not, who would look upon children with eyes that really see them, there would be no more war, there would be no more terrorism.

𝑾𝒆 𝒘𝒐𝒖𝒍𝒅 𝒄𝒉𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 WORLD!

Connection allows for discipline without damage, and responsibility for connection is the big person's to own. To discipline without damage, big people must escape the vortex. And to escape the vortex, big people must stop using the disconnect as a disciplinary technique.

By dr. Vanessa Lapointe

Over 𝒉𝒂𝒍𝒇 of 𝒖𝒔 have 𝒄𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒊𝒄 disorder such as high 𝒃𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒅 𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒆 or 𝒂𝒖𝒕𝒐𝒊𝒎𝒎𝒖𝒏𝒆 disease. Rates of 𝒂𝒏𝒙𝒊𝒆𝒕𝒚, 𝒅𝒆𝒑𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔𝒊𝒐𝒏, 𝑷𝑻𝑺𝑫 and 𝒂𝒅𝒅𝒊𝒄𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 are 𝒔𝒌𝒚𝒓𝒐𝒄𝒌𝒆𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒈.

𝑾𝒉𝒚?

The 𝒓𝒐𝒐𝒕𝒔 of these issues and more can often be traced to 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒖𝒎𝒂, adverse childhood experiences (𝑨𝑪𝑬𝒔), chronic 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔 and ultimately, 𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒗𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒔𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒎 𝒅𝒚𝒔𝒓𝒆𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏.

Meet your 𝒂𝒖𝒕𝒐𝒎𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒄 𝒔𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒎, let’s call it “𝑨𝑵𝑺”. ANS takes 𝒄𝒂𝒓𝒆 of a lot of your automatic functions like heartbeat, digestion, and body temperature. ANS also manages your 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒗𝒊𝒗𝒂𝒍 and 𝒔𝒕𝒓𝒆𝒔𝒔 response, working to keep you alive when your 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 is in 𝒅𝒂𝒏𝒈𝒆𝒓. If someone has more than 3 ACEs that means that their autoimmune nervous system is overactive due to prolong experience of toxic stress (trauma). Chronically dysregulated nervous system leads to autoimmune diseases.

𝑨𝑪𝑬𝒔 𝒔𝒕𝒖𝒅𝒚: Sensitive youngsters may feel emotional neglect as trauma, resulting in improper brain development. The kid may have an oversensitive Autoimmune Nervous System, which may lead to health issues in childhood or even adulthood. Children who are exposed to a lot of toxic stress as children are more likely to develop autoimmune disorders and have a 20-year shorter life expectancy! Oversensitive autoimmune nervous system maintains individuals in survival mode for lengthy periods of time and is easily activated due to a poor tolerance for stress. The body becomes feeble without regenerating by returning to equilibrium. Chronic stress creates ACEs, which lead to Autoimmune illness such as:

Addison’s asthma autoimmune disease, cancer, chronic fatigue (ME/CFS), coronary heart disease, diabetes type 1 and 2, fibromyalgia (FMS), Grave’s disease (thyroid), Hashimoto’s disease (thyroid), hypertension, irritable bowl syndrome, inflammatory bowl disease (IBD), liver disease, lupus, multiple sclerosis, myasthenia gravis, obesity, psoriasis, rheumatoid arthritis Sjogren’s, , sleep disorders, stroke, thrombocytopenia purpura etc.

𝒀𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒍𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒏 𝑽𝒂𝒈𝒖𝒔 𝑵𝒆𝒓𝒗𝒆, 𝑷𝒐𝒍𝒚𝒗𝒂𝒈𝒂𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒆𝒐𝒓𝒚 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝑨𝑪𝑬𝒔 𝒇𝒓𝒐𝒎 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒑𝒐𝒔𝒕 𝒃𝒆𝒍𝒐𝒘:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1969744479873889/permalink/2408443362670663/

𝑯𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒓𝒆𝒄𝒐𝒈𝒏𝒊𝒔𝒆 𝒘𝒉𝒆𝒏 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒂𝒓𝒆𝒊𝒏 𝒔𝒖𝒓𝒗𝒊𝒗𝒂𝒍 𝒎𝒐𝒅𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒆𝒍𝒇-𝒓𝒆𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒆:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1969744479873889/permalink/2514305858751079/

𝑶𝒖𝒓 𝑵𝒆𝒓𝒗𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒔𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒎 𝒎𝒊𝒓𝒓𝒐𝒓𝒔 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒏𝒆𝒓𝒗𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒔𝒚𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒎 𝒐𝒇 𝒑𝒆𝒐𝒑𝒍𝒆 𝒘𝒆 𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒏𝒅 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒓𝒐𝒖𝒈𝒉 𝒄𝒐-𝒓𝒆𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏. 3 𝑪𝒐-𝑹𝒆𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒊𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒆𝒄𝒉𝒏𝒊𝒒𝒖𝒆𝒔 : https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=570940881565452&id=100649571927921

𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒎𝒐𝒓𝒆 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒕𝒐 𝒄𝒐-𝒓𝒆𝒈𝒖𝒍𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒖𝒑𝒑𝒐𝒓𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒐𝒘𝒏 𝒄𝒉𝒊𝒍𝒅𝒓𝒆𝒏:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=487403366585871&id=100649571927921

𝑳𝒆𝒂𝒓𝒏 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒖𝒕 𝑨𝑪𝑬𝒔 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒉𝒐𝒘 𝒊𝒕 𝒂𝒇𝒇𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒔 𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒉𝒆𝒂𝒍𝒕𝒉 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒔𝒉𝒐𝒓𝒕𝒏𝒆𝒔𝒔 𝒍𝒊𝒇𝒆 𝒆𝒙𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕𝒂𝒏𝒄𝒚:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1969744479873889/permalink/2210820335766301/

𝑫𝒊𝒔𝒄𝒊𝒑𝒍𝒊𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒔𝒚𝒏𝒐𝒏𝒚𝒎𝒐𝒖𝒔 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝑷𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒔𝒉𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕, 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒑𝒖𝒏𝒊𝒔𝒉𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕 𝒅𝒐𝒆𝒔 𝑵𝑶𝑻 𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒕𝒓𝒖𝒆 𝑹𝒆𝒔𝒑𝒆𝒄𝒕:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/1969744479873889/permalink/2511215049060160/



𝒃𝒚 𝑲𝒏𝒐𝒘𝒍𝒆𝒅𝒈𝒆 𝒊𝒔 𝑷𝒐𝒘𝒆𝒓

01/05/2023

A New Year - A New Day

Even if we do not prescribe to resolutions in the traditional sense, January 1st has all of us thinking about who we want to be in the year to come. The act has been repackaged and rebranded in many ways: intention-setting, 30-day challenges, a one-word promise to frame the whole year. But no matter how creative we get, we still struggle with getting in our own way.

Ambivalence is a very interesting piece of the human psyche. 
I want and I don't want.
I want but I don't believe I can.
I want but I would feel guilty if I did. 
We’re always playing this game with ourselves, but it intensifies around the new year. Our resolutions reflect this juxtaposition of self-criticism and self-optimization.

The simple statement that we will change makes us think that the parts of us we struggle with will disappear. We fantasize about that other person, the person we could be. Such magical thinking.

What if we tried to better understand how the parts of us which we perceive as shameful hold us back—instead of burying them under unfulfilled gym memberships and the dreaded quest to “be our most authentic selves?”

Truthfully, if we wanted to be our most authentic selves, we would binge-watch Netflix, eat cookie dough for breakfast, and never lean in to our most optimized selves—the versions of us that meditate and exercise daily, and travel the world while our well-invested money compounds in our well-managed accounts. Instead, we often reward our efforts by momentarily indulging in the very habits we’re trying to break. We rationalize that what we do in one moment doesn’t get in the way of the larger goal. 

The reality is that we live in stereo. On one side: who we are. On the other: who we’d like to be. Between them, there’s another force at play—the person we no longer want to be, holding on to commitments that no longer serve us, ready to break a promise but unsure of how. What outdated stories are masquerading as promises in your life?

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Yup yup yup!

04/08/2022

A 20 minute mindful meditation on Handling Difficult Conversations

03/20/2022

"It is necessary and even vital, to set standards for your life and the people you allow in it."
~Mandy Hale

Here is a Guided Mindful Meditation on Setting Boundaries

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Social Anxiety can be paralyzing - begin your healing process by reframing how you speak to yourself and ground yourself in the present moment with mindfulness training

02/13/2022

09/06/2020

The 5 books to transform your life - and what’s better than to get their summaries from Blinklist to capture all you need to know in 15 minutes!!!

Want to feel more satisfied with life? We picked out these 5 books that will change your outlook.

07/27/2020

Short Beginning Breath Meditation - to start in a bite sized piece getting to a place where you can slow down and begin to understand yourself and relax

This is a beginners guided meditation focused on breathing.

07/06/2020

The Compassionate Mind Foundation has a wealth of resources and information on Compassion - Here is an excellent audio on Soothing Rhythm Breathing Practices to promote Compassion

The Compassionate Mind Foundation promotes wellbeing by facilitating the scientific understanding and application of compassion. We are a charitable organisation that supports research and teaching of

07/01/2020

Wow! Pinterest delivers with some great activities for teens within family setting or group counseling

Discover shawntellyoung's collection, Group activities for teens

06/30/2020

Trait Mindfulness (Dispositional mindfulness) - that of generally being mindful in your everyday life. Take this quiz and see how well you do

06/27/2020

If we do not learn to self regulate as children, unhealthy behavior patterns may develop until we learn effective coping skills or garner support from those whom we share our vulnerabilities - most serious is post trauma involuntary regulation techniques

06/15/2020

It takes 6 seconds to manage anger. It takes 6 seconds to create compassion and it takes 6 seconds to change the world.

The neuroscience behind the name of Six Seconds - The Emotional Intelligence Network

06/15/2020

Did you know that we have 34,000 distinct emotions? Eight (8) of them are primary emotions which are the foundation for all of the others - joy, sadness, acceptance, disgust, fear, anger, surprise and anticipation. Identifying your emotions can be very useful when you are experiences intense feelings and your mind cannot remain objective.

Plutchik's wheel of emotions helps you visualize the spectrum of emotions and how they relate to each other - a great tool for enhancing emotional literacy.