Death and Love

Death and Love End-of-Life Doula: Helping to bridge communication between terminal loved ones and family. It's not about where you start. Death does not come easy to anyone.

Helping people understand elder care via my books: Watching My Parents Die: https://a.co/d/9nq2jcB It's more about where your loved one ends and the role you play in their passing. Terminal illness is even more difficult because you have to watch your loved one suffer. I am the author of "Watching My Parents Die" and public speaker that presents to families experiencing the pain of watching a terminally ill loved one go through their last stages. My goal is to help bring just a touch of peace and enhanced preparation during this challenging time.

Hello amazing supporters! Thank you to amazing technology, I will be shutting down my website. I am still actively atten...
04/22/2025

Hello amazing supporters! Thank you to amazing technology, I will be shutting down my website. I am still actively attending speaking events and guest speaker events for my topics about minimizing elder abandonment and promotion of my book, Watching My Parents Die.

Warning: Watching My Parents Die contains graphic details of an elderly person during the death process. Have you ever experienced the death of a loved one? Are you preparing to care for or support a terminally ill loved one? Are you prepared to care for your elderly parents and their passing? Ha...

10/09/2024

I've learned to value it more than I ever have.
In the blink of an eye, I had to deal with the possibility of my life being challenged. While this was happening, we put our house on the market and relocated to Washington State, within 1 month.

I have spent quite some time helping others prepare for their end but I was not prepared to look at my end in the face.

What did I learn? Practice what I preach. The most important thing EVER is to let the past go. When dealing with the impending death of a loved one or yourself, the water under the bridge changes it's current direction and it's now flowing your way. Don't let it end without letting go and forgiving. Remember, you can't take back what you wished you'd done.

In my book, Watching My Parents Die, I touched on this after my dad passed. Although I eventually forgave my mom, I still wish I would have done some things differently.

Here is a quote from my book;
" Ah, the infamous mortal sin in the Catholic world: su***de. Regardless of age, suffering, terminal status, it was seen as su***de to a Catholic and it was a mortal sin. Did I say that twice? Let’s say it again. Regardless of the reason or condition, to take one’s own life is a mortal sin and there is no heaven for sinners. My mom didn’t understand what Death with Dignity was and asked for an explanation from the nurse. It took three different explanations in three different ways before my mom understood. Neither my dad nor I had a chance to say anything before my mom became angry and told the nurse that this was not an option. Catholics don’t take their own lives, and it was a sin. He could NOT do this, because she wouldn’t see him in heaven, so this was not an option."

https://a.co/d/iywB4An

For those not regularly following IG, here is the YouTube video of my fun interview last week:
06/02/2024

For those not regularly following IG, here is the YouTube video of my fun interview last week:

About the afterlife without the woo. Grief without the platitudes.. Learn about scientific evidence if we survive death.

Here’s a controversial question: if you are not terminal but have a serious, very painful disease that will only get wor...
05/21/2024

Here’s a controversial question: if you are not terminal but have a serious, very painful disease that will only get worse, should you be allowed DwD? If so, at what point should it be considered?

What I love about being interviewed on a podcast… dress from the shoulders up.. comfortable from the armpits down
05/17/2024

What I love about being interviewed on a podcast… dress from the shoulders up.. comfortable from the armpits down

If you are a current caretaker or future caretaker of someone you love, this event will provide personal value. This is ...
05/16/2024

If you are a current caretaker or future caretaker of someone you love, this event will provide personal value. This is an up-close and personal discussion of preparing to care for your loved ones. I will be discussion conflict (with family and your dependent loved one), effective ways to communicate, conflict resolution, my story and my book about my parents, Watching My Parents Die and the things I learned. I will be openly discussing some of the experiences that I never thought I would experience and how I handled them.

For any questions, please feel free to email me at victoriabeelik@deathandlove.net
https://youtu.be/Pf4QFkKvhEg?si=B0e4ibe06KpHPwBK

You get interesting feedback when  you confront death in a book. My goal was to show the world my experience with caring...
04/06/2024

You get interesting feedback when you confront death in a book. My goal was to show the world my experience with caring for my parents and being present in their death. Out of that, I hoped people would see how important it is to value those you love and how to deal with the stress of impending loss. I had no idea how many people would come to me and tell me how I have relieved the guilt they carried on their shoulders because they felt alone with feelings they didn't think they could talk to anyone about. I'm so happy to see that my gruesome experience is helping others. My dad would be proud. https://a.co/d/bExt5Os

03/24/2024

How did I spend my day? I was with very special people, I shared memories with their loved ones that are still on earth. Farewell friends..

You can’t carry guilt forever.If you’re parents are aging to the point of dependency, you may feeling periods of anger a...
03/12/2024

You can’t carry guilt forever.If you’re parents are aging to the point of dependency, you may feeling periods of anger and becoming hopeful that they pass soon.
Mary T reached out to me after finding my email on my website. Her mom passed away last year. She said that she had been carrying guilt ever since the death. She said that she felt horrible for what she had felt during her mom’s last weeks. After reading my book, she realized that she wasn’t alone. It gave her tremendous relief.

She thanked me for being brave enough to touch on things that few people would be strong enough to discuss.

When comes to death, it’s not uncommon to have guilty driving some of the fear.

03/09/2024

How did you handle this on your own? This is a top question that I get about my book, . The answer is that I didn't and I did. Three years of being an only child, sleeping downstairs to make sure I could hear my parents if they fell out of bed or needed help going to the bathroom. One year of picking my dad up off of the floor when he fell while soothing my mom while she watched. How did I handle alone? I had part time help from an amazing nurse and an amazing hospice team when it was time.

How did I handle it alone? They took care of me since birth and I took care of them to their last breath and their hand let go.

Now I help other families prepare for their dying family member, I help the terminally ill pass with peace and love. It's a gift I was given and I feel blessed to make each families life a little less painful during the most challenging part of their life.

My story has drawn attention to many and it's helped many. As I move forward, I will be looking for someone to help me with larger scale speaking events and interviews.

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