Fiamengo & Associates

11/20/2023

No two people are the same. I’ll meet you where you’re at to find the right support that works for you. You do not have to go through life just surviving, you are meant to thrive. Whatever your struggles may be, I provide a safe and warm environment to help you tackle life’s hurdles. I specialize in depression, anxiety, PTSD and more and have more than 15 years of experience.

In Network Tri Care Provider
Accepts Aetna, Cigna, Optum
Will also accept cash and can provide a Superbill

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Our purpose is to help you reach your goals, navigate your struggles, and walk in your strengths. Let’s Talk Our Services Fiamengo & Associates provides mental health counseling and life coaching services to individuals, couples, and families. We firmly believe that people should not have to go th...

09/11/2023

Just in case, I'm Opting Out too!
So now they are doing it, just announced on Channel 4 News. Facebook is charging all users starting Monday. You can do an opt-out by doing this. Hold your finger over this message and copy it. It can’t be shared. I do not give permission for Facebook to charge $4.99 a month to my account, also; all my pictures are my property of mine and NOT Facebook's!!! Opt-out Special thanks to Larry for this legal advice… and to Tim Barker for posting this information:
Due to the fact everyone is slowly getting hi-jacked, yeah hi-jacked not hacked, they're flat out hi-jacking our accounts, even more now.
Just in case Notice: An attorney advised us to post this. The violation of privacy can be punished by law. NOTE: Facebook Meta is now a public entity. All members must post a note like this. If you do not publish a statement at least once, it will be technically understood that you are allowing the use of your photos, as well as the information contained in your profile status updates.
I HEREBY STATE THAT I DO NOT GIVE FACEBOOK META MY PERMISSION TO USE ANY OF MY PERSONAL DATA OR PHOTOS.
Copy and paste, do not share. I am getting more sales ad posts than friends' posts. Hold your finger anywhere in this post and click ′′ copy ". Go to your page where it says "What's on your mind." Tap your finger anywhere in the blank field. Click paste. This upgrades the system.

02/23/2023

Whether where you are is somewhere you feel is a good place to be, a bad place to be, or somewhere in between. God does not make mistakes, and designed you to be right where you are at this exact moment, for a reason. Not everything is immediately known or seen by us, but we must have trust and faith that God uses all things for our good. Who you are, where you are, and all that you are meant to be is exactly as He designed. Trust. Pray. He will guide you.

12/06/2022

Take a chance. You are the only one that is holding you back. You will never know if it is your path, or what you are meant to do, or what you love to do - unless you try it.

Give yourself these new opportunities and chances to follow your dreams. Don’t talk yourself out of it by giving into fears and uncertainties. All you can do is take a chance and try.

12/02/2022

You are enough. No matter what anyone says or does, and no matter how you might temporarily feel about yourself. You are always enough.

You do not need to be anyone else. You do not need to do anything different. You do not need to harshly compare your self to others. You are enough, just as you are. Be you and be true to yourself. YOU ARE ENOUGH.

11/24/2022

Happy Thanksgiving! I am thankful for YOU!

11/17/2022

As much as we want people to understand us, to understand where we are coming from, or see things from our perspective, the only thing we can control is our OWN perspective.

This means your own understandings and viewpoints of yourself are the only thing that matters. It is hard to not let other people’s thoughts or opinions effect us, but we have to remind ourselves that we cannot make everyone happy. We cannot make everyone understand.

There is an irreplaceable peace that comes in accepting this, and learning to accept other people, while also learning the only thing you can control is YOU.

11/07/2022

Do it at your own pace.

Life moves so fast, and society tends to make us feel like we must compare where we are in our life with others we see around us. Doing so can make you feel overwhelmed with the amount of things you tell yourself you need to do or change to “catch up”.

We often forget though, that what we see in parts of other people’s lives, or on social media, is not the full truth. We must remember that life is not a race, and what matters is where we are in our own life and focusing on our wants, and needs. The only comparisons we should make is not from ourselves to others, but from ourselves to our own goals.

10/31/2022

Who we ARE matters more.

This requires actively being, rather than just knowing. Calling us to show up and let ourselves be known and seen. We learn a great deal of things in life and it is not to take away the importance of knowing things, as this helps us grow and learn.

This is not the most important thing, though. It is more important to be who we are. To look into the core of ourselves and identify who we are, what we want to be, and remain true to ourselves. Let yourself be seen, heard, and accepted for who YOU ARE, for ALL YOU ARE.

Who you are MATTERS.

10/19/2022

A prayer for acceptance, change, wisdom, and self reflection. This prayer is important to those in recovery, but it is also important for everyone. It is asking for peace from God through knowing we do not control all things, but we can work on our own self. Ask God for this strength and courage to guide you.

“God grant me the Serenity
To accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And the Wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time,
Enjoying one moment at a time.
Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,
Taking, as he did, this sinful world as it is,
Not as I would like it.
Trusting that he will make all things right,
If I surrender to his will.
That I may be reasonably happy in this world
And supremely happy in the next.”

Reinhold Niebuhr, Theologian

10/13/2022

Life can be unpredictable. It can give us joy, excitement, and beautiful gifts; but it can also throw a few curveballs and bring trials and sorrow. These are not the things we can control.

The only thing we can control is ourselves. Our own thoughts. Our own actions. Our own reactions. We must learn ourselves well enough to know what we need, and how to help ourselves when sailing through these changing seasons.

We might not be able to control or help the things that happen to us or around us, but we can learn to control our mindset and our reactions while navigating through it.

10/05/2022

Patience: By allowing yourself grace and mercy, and not putting strict timelines on yourself whether that is healing, goals or anything else we face. Be patient with yourself!

Kindness: Speaking love into yourself, thinking kind thoughts about yourself, and learning to love yourself. Be kind to yourself!

Motivation: Remind yourself success can look different on different days, but the effort of just getting up, and of trying our best is all we need. You can do whatever you set your mind to! Motivate yourself!

Grace: If we can give others grace, patience, and mercy, then why can’t we give this to ourselves? Grace is free and is essential in taking care of ourselves. Give yourself grace!

Cheerleading: Life can feel difficult, and there are many seasons or trials we can go through. Remind yourself how great you are doing. It might not feel like it sometimes but you are here, and you are trying. Cheer yourself on!

Our Best: It is all we can do: try. Nobody is perfect, and we don’t have to be. All we need to do is get up, and try to give each day and moment our best efforts. Do your best!

09/28/2022

Often times, we are our own toughest critics. We harshly judge ourselves, speak negatively both to and about ourselves, and put ourselves down. This can be done even without input from other people, or without doing anything wrong. But somehow we have convinced ourselves that we deserve to be spoken to like this.

This is not true. This is not in your best interest.

If you don’t speak to YOURSELF with love, kindness, grace, and mercy, how can you remind yourself that you deserve this from OTHERS too?

The next time you feel the need to be critical of yourself, reflect and ask what you would think or feel if you heard someone else being spoken to like this? Hurt? Angry? Shocked?

Be kind and gentle to yourself. Learn to love yourself, and start this by speaking kindly to YOU.

09/26/2022

Just because you have “failed” doesn’t make you a failure. It makes you human.
Replace the word “failed” with better descriptions:
Experienced
Tried
Experimented
Walked through
Survived
Journeyed
Struggled
“Failed” sounds like a stopping point. When as humans we move through seasons of life. Some are joyful, many are hard, most are both.

09/21/2022

Waking up today is a gift. It is a blessing from God. We are given this day, and only today, as we are not promised tomorrow.

With this in mind, use your day well. It is a new day, with new chances, and new beginnings. Even if you were wrong yesterday, you can give it your best effort today.

This is a chance to fill your day with fresh energy, positivity, opportunities, and gratitude. Today is your second chance.

09/19/2022

You are never alone, Jesus is always with us and watching over us. He even prays to God on our behalf.

Hebrews 7:25 says “He is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God through him, since he always lives to make intercession for them.”

We see here in this verse that Jesus lives to intercede for us with God. He loves us so abundantly and unconditionally that He paid the ultimate price with His life to save us. We must remind ourselves how loved and precious we are, even in moments where we do not feel loved or lovable, because Jesus loves us so much He paid the ultimate price just to know you.

09/15/2022

We must be compassionate to our partners, and recognize that we are in relationships with people who have also been traumatized.

This can be very challenging if they haven’t worked on their own trauma, as they can be constantly triggered. For example, they may be afraid that you are going to act in a way that their past partners have. In turn, resulting in a cycle with their fear - about what you could do (i.e. cheat, talk to others, flirt, abandon them etc.).

As a result, this starts to impact how you feel about yourself. You can become defensive because you are always having to defend yourself, even if it is for something you never did. (It can be that your partner‘s past lovers or parents did these things to them). This cycle is emotionally exhausting.

We can always be compassionate about other peoples trauma, however, we also need to take care of ourselves in the midst of it.

09/14/2022

Be gentle with yourself.
Be kind, gentle, and loving to YOU.
Block out the negative self talk, and replace that with positive affirmations. Practice this by writing to yourself, speaking to yourself, or thinking to yourself positive and loving statements about you.

Some days, this will be easy to support yourself in this way. Other days, this may feel more challenging. On these days, it is important to remind yourself of the little things. Start by congratulating yourself on just getting up today, because some days that is a challenge of its own.

“Talk to yourself like you would someone you love.”