08/28/2025
🌱 From Habits We Didn’t Choose to Rituals That Shape Our Goals 🌱
So many of the habits and patterns we live with today aren’t things we consciously chose. Most of them come from conditioning — the words, beliefs, and examples we absorbed as children. Over time, those messages sink into the subconscious and quietly steer our choices, even when we don’t realize it.
For me, I was told from the time I was young that the only way to survive was to have two incomes, work in a factory, or get a government job with good benefits. So that’s exactly what I did. I worked for the government for over 30 years — not because I loved it, but because that belief was planted in me.
And here’s what I didn’t see at the time: because I believed I needed two incomes to survive, I unconsciously made choices that kept me stuck in that story. I overspent. I attracted relationships that mirrored back “you’re not enough.” I never felt financially secure, even when I was earning enough for two people. My conditioning was running the show, and it kept creating a reality where I was barely surviving, never thriving.
It wasn’t just money. My father called me fat and ugly, even when I was a thin teenager. At graduation I weighed 118 pounds, but I saw myself as overweight because I had absorbed his words as truth. That belief grew into habits — starving myself all day, then binging at night. Those weren’t conscious choices. They were unconscious patterns rooted in shame and fear.
The same thing happened with agoraphobia. I was told I was stupid, that I couldn’t do anything right, and that carried into adulthood. Driving, going out in public — I’d panic, I’d feel like I couldn’t breathe. Again, I wasn’t consciously choosing fear. My conditioning created an unconscious habit of anxiety in the world.
✨ That’s the thing about habits: they’re often the byproduct of conditioning. They’re automatic patterns we repeat — not because we sat down and created them, but because old beliefs planted themselves deep in the subconscious.
And most people think the way to change is through willpower. “If you just try harder, you can break the habit.” But willpower is about pushing, fighting, forcing yourself through resistance. That’s why it feels exhausting — and why it rarely lasts.
What really creates change is want power. Want power is about clarity: being crystal clear on what you desire and why you want it. When you know your why, you can chunk it down into steps and create rituals that line up with your goal.
✨ That’s where rituals become so powerful.
A ritual is something you consciously choose. At first, it feels unfamiliar. But every time you repeat it, you’re planting a new seed in your mind. With practice, that seed grows stronger, creating new neural pathways that override the old conditioning. The more you practice, the deeper the new pathway becomes — until it becomes automatic.
Think about setting a goal — say, improving your health:
• You start by asking yourself: Why do I want this? What will it feel like when I achieve it?
• You chunk it down into steps: maybe research supplements, connect with a trainer, or plan meals that truly fuel your body.
• You reframe your language: instead of “I have to exercise,” you might say, “I get to move my body today” — walking, stretching, lifting weights, or dancing.
Each of these choices is a ritual. And repeated rituals, rooted in want power, carve new grooves in the mind. They don’t just become “better habits” — they override the old patterns and align your subconscious with your goals and desires.
🌟 This is why hypnosis is such a powerful tool: it works directly with the subconscious, helping those chosen rituals take root faster and stronger. Instead of fighting yourself with willpower, you align with your want power — and your mind begins to support you in creating real, lasting change.
👉 If you’re ready to turn your goals into rituals that actually stick, I’d love to talk with you. You can book a free consult on my website: www.mystic-vibesllc.com. Together we’ll explore your goals and the rituals that can help you get there.
