Onward Counseling

11/11/2024

10/22/2024

“Victim mentality” is a response to a reality that most of us don’t like to acknowledge: we’ve been victims of betrayal, abuse, or shaming.

This can leave our body in a state of flight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Where we’re physically stuck. Barely able to get out of bed. Where our thoughts mirror our polyvagal state and we believe we’re hopeless. Where we believe this is the only way to experience life.

The truth is all of us have days where we feel sorry for ourselves. Where our thoughts consume us. Where we cry and might not even know why. Or when we wonder why we can’t cry at all.

The ‘secret’ to life is an understanding we’re not our conditioned autopilot responses. That every morning as the sun rises we’re given another set of choices. A fresh start and a new beginning. That through conscious awareness of these choices we begin to make difficult choices that align with who we want to be. And when we fall back to old patterns (which we always will) we can remember that tomorrow that chance is always there waiting for us.

Take a deep breath every day. Remember who you are. Then, begin again

10/17/2024

Full disclosure: I struggle with this.

Being vulnerable and honest is hard for me.

But I know it’s the only path forward.

It’s the only path to deep healing, true connection, and healthy, lasting relationships.

It’s a hard path that I will choose to take every single time.

And I hope you do too.

You’re worth it,
Delony

10/14/2024

We all complain sometimes, but it can do more damage than you'd think. Here's how complaining rewires your brain to be anxious and depressed.

10/10/2024

As we kick off , take a moment to self-assess and ensure you’re getting the rest you need for success. Recharging today means a fuller battery tomorrow! Explore available resources to support your well-being at nami.org/MIAW.

09/29/2024

We have a distorted picture of healing.

We think that when we’re finally intentional about healing from childhood traumas, abuse, loss, or neglect, our pain will lessen, and the waters will quickly smooth out.

This is often far from reality.

Choosing to heal often means choosing to embark on an adventure through hell, pain, and hurt... enroute to peace.

And hear me loud and clear:
The path to healing is always, always worth it.

Why? Because you’re worth it.

Delony

09/28/2024

If you know a wonderful educator, social worker, or clinician who is ready to take on a new role, this could be the perfect opportunity!

The Master of Science in Counseling with a concentration in School Counseling Application window is open.

All admits will be offered the Accelerating Counseling Education & Student Success (ACCESS) a Mental Health Access Grant which pays for all tuition, books, fees, and more…

We love our School Counselors and are grateful for the heart work they do for students and their communities— Join us! 💛💙

09/28/2024

Exciting news for ND Farmers and Ranchers! I will be facilitating 5 Couples Retreats across the state...at NO COST to you. These Retreats are funded by the ND Health and Human Services, Behavioral Health Division.
They are a great mix of FUN, socializing, and learning!

09/11/2024

Never forget.

09/10/2024

Tomorrow (9/11) is the Stand Down from 1000-1500. Please see below for parking. Drink plenty of water as it will be hot. We will have Powerade and water available with a free ballpark meal starting at 1100. Hope to see all veterans there as we help educate and support your specific situations.

09/10/2024

All are invited to gather by the campus mall flagpole at 7:40 am Wednesday, Sept. 11, 2024, for a Patriot Day and National Day of Service and Remembrance commemoration. The brief ceremony will include words of remembrance. The flag will be lowered to half-staff at 7:46 a.m. (8:46 a.m. EST), denoting when American Airlines Flight 11 crashed into the North Tower. Dr. Tom Strait will perform Taps on the trumpet during this time, followed by a moment of silence honoring the day.

09/05/2024

Check out this job posting for the Assistant Veterans Resource Outreach Director. It is a benefitted .75 position that works directly with and on behalf of military-connected students on campus.

Apply here: https://minnstate.wd1.myworkdayjobs.com/en-US/Minnesota_State_Careers/job/MSUAASF-Range-C_JR0000000492