Christina Tillia’s Enroute to Better Health LLC

07/10/2021

If you’re asking me if you should come down harder on yourself, condemn yourself, tell you to “get over it”, or just stop thinking about something... I won’t.

What I will encourage is compassion for the self. Validate what you’re feeling (scared, angry, fearful, terrified, sad, frustrated, etc.) And more compassion.

Compassion.

07/10/2021

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07/10/2021

Hello and welcome! We have new faces to our page and I want to introduce myself and my work. My name is Christina Tillia and I have a degree as a Holistic Healthcare Practitioner, I am a Nationally Certified Traditional Naturopath, Nationally and state Certified Massage Therapist, Reiki Master, and certified in Tuina orthopedic bodywork. This is my 19th year in this field of wellness. My practice focuses on the mind/body/spirit connection and health. Sessions are designed to meld years of experience and education to address your total wellness. I grew up in the southwest on farms and travel globally. We offer one-on-one treatments, weekly in person or Zoom Breathwork classes for your mental and emotional health (ages 8 and up), and seasonal classes to teach what we offer for home use. Our office posts goodies on here that we find helpful, uplifting, thought inducing, and joyous.

A full list of all of our services can be found at www.christinatillia.com

We can be contacted by text or call at 505.330.0727

Love,
Christina Tillia your Neighborhood Naturopath🌟

07/10/2021

With big feelings-

•Don’t do anything that makes “it” worse. (More alcohol, more yelling, more ignoring, more spending, more negative thinking, etc).
•Do something that makes “it” better.

07/10/2021

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Each of us has an authentic self, or our true nature.

We aren’t always in our true nature because we have different parts of ourselves.

We are children in adult bodies. Our inner child responds in ways that can be defensive, jealous, angry (or if we’ve been chronically shamed or humiliated as a child— with pure rage.)

Developmentally, we lack the coping skills + engage in protective behaviors that can hurt ourselves + people around us.

When I’m in this state, I typically begin to yelling (I was never heard as a child), stomping around, + making emphatic statements (“I am NEVER doing this again!” “I am SO sick of this things will never change.”) When I’m afraid, this is how I cope.

And I respond in these childish ways because I’m quite literally the scared little girl who has no adult to help her work through the overwhelming things in the home that no one talked about.

When we are in our authentic selves, we are grounded + compassionate. We don’t have the shields, the walls around our hearts, the coping mechanisms that leave us feeling more alone + isolated.

Our authentic self wants not only the best for ourselves, but for everyone.

Our authentic self hurts when we hurt another.

It is compassionate, open, willing to give + receive without conditions or demands.

Our authentic self sees the best in everyone.

It doesn’t assume malicious intent (another way we protect ourselves.) It gives grace + understanding. It celebrates + shares.

Go to a quiet space. Breathe deep into your belly. Feel the space around your heart. Feel how good you are. How well you’ve done. How loving you truly are. How you’ve managed to help others even though you’ve been deeply hurt by them.

This is who you actually are

07/09/2021

Y’all! I hear so often, “I just gotta get back to God.” I gotta get back to who I used to be before ‘this’ happened.” “I gotta get back to who I used to be.”

That won’t work.

It doesn’t work like that.

What we CAN do, is use this moment as a launching pad going forward. Meet yourself in this moment over and over again.

•Start where you are.
•Use what you have.
•Do what you can.

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Welcome to you now. Welcome to your connection to God now. Welcome to your connection to you, your kids, your family, your spouse now.

You’re good enough. You ARE enough.
This moment is enough.

Welcome home. Nice to see you🌟

07/09/2021

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Most of us are walking about within our life experience acting our childhood wounding.

We have adult relationships that leave us feeling abandoned, unseen, or unconsidered.

We feel the familiar feeling of childhood: misunderstood. And alone.

For many of us this feels like home.

Healing is actually becoming the wise inner parent to ourselves.

As you begin the work, you’ll see that you’ve probably internalized the voice of a parent figure.

You might tell yourself to “just get over it” or “stop being dramatic” or “you’re never going to be x” or “why can’t you be more x”

This leads to behaviors that hurt ourselves (+ sometimes those so runs us.)

The wise inner parent is within all of us. It’s the calm, centered, part of our psyche that shows kindness + grace.

The wise inner parent doesn’t shame. It sees the terrified child part of us + says “it’s ok, I understand why you’re afraid.”

It says: “You are safe. I am not here to protect you. You can trust me to make choices in our own best interest.”

Our inner child is just looking to be seen + heard without judgment.

This is self compassion.

This is healing

07/09/2021

🌟Let them have the integrity and responsibility of themselves.

07/08/2021

An old cowboy minister once told me a story about how in a short stent of a few days that his mother passed away, his truck broke down, and his daughter had a mental breakdown. While at the mechanic shop someone said, “Man, you’re havin’ a bad day!” The minister replied, “no, I’m actually having a good day. My truck and my daughter aren’t, but I am.” Not everything has to weigh us down so heavily. Stay in your lane. Help, of course! Just be sure to take you with you. We needn’t abandon ourselves to help others.

Where are you standing/sitting right now? Where are your thoughts? Who’s watching you? Who is making sure you’re ok? YOU! Have you let your subconscious drive off without you buckled in safely? No one else can do this for you. A helpful step in anger management is compassion for the self.

More to come🌟