Taylor'd Solutions, Sheila Taylor, Lcsw

08/28/2025

Truth!

❤️

04/30/2025

Saw this quote and had to share it online ():

“One thing's for certain, our children are not a distraction from what is most important in life and they ask us in so many ways to be present with them in day to day life.
Children test us when we are distracted, they want us to know when they feel disconnected from us.
They want to know that we will always make time to be present with them. Our presence means everything and it's through our presence that our children feel safe and seen.
As long as we stay aware of what actually distracts us from connection, relationship, presence then we will be modeling for our children what a life lived fully with joy and love looks like, we won't loose sight of what a distraction actually is and what is not.
Close your eyes and picture the deep connections you can have with each one of your children. The laughter, respect and love that will grow from year to year building a beautiful relationship that will last a lifetime and maybe even beyond.
Picture ways you can be present with your children in day to day life, and then model this because what you give attention to now will grow.
Our time on this earth is precious - time with our children, time with our family and friends, time to connect and form relationships with those we love, time to life fully and deeply, time to behold and be in nature's beauty, time to live joyously with laughter!”

10/14/2024

Sometimes we just have to laugh and not take things too seriously!

09/06/2023

https://www.psypost.org/2023/09/criticism-from-parents-can-have-a-bigger-impact-on-depressed-adolescents-than-praise-neuroimaging-study-finds-183606

A recent study in Psychological Medicine revealed that adolescents with depression exhibit heightened sensitivity to parental criticism and diminished responsiveness to praise compared to their non-depressed counterparts, evidenced by increased brain activity and mood self-assessments. The research....

08/24/2023

Ten things I want my kids to know:

1. Happiness is a lot of work. You can’t be lazy or entitled to achieve it.

2. You will make mistakes and they will only define you if you give it that kind of power. If the lesson is learned, the mistake is worth it. It’s your choice whether or not it wins. You are not a prisoner to your past and you are allowed to grow.

3. The world owes you nothing. It does not care who you are, where you come from or what you think you deserve. Everything you achieve will have to come from your own dedication to what you love. It will not be handed to you easily.

4. People do not get to tell you who you are. Make peace with your own soul and give no one the power to tell you that you’re something you’re not. Know who you are and be okay when others do not understand you.

5. Work hard. Never go into anything with half your heart. Respect is earned by how you did the job and not the title by your name.

6. Show up for your people. No matter what has happened, show up. That’s what people will remember about you in the end of all of this.

7. Choose grace for others and for yourself. No one gets it right. You won’t either. Bitterness is the anchor to the soul but grace sets you free.

8. Have fun. Be adventurous. None of us are getting out of this alive so make the time you have count with the people who actually matter.

9. Laugh in the good times and the bad. Your sense of humor and your ability to take a punch will set a strong foundation of stability.

10. Love God. He’s the most consistent thing you’ll ever have.

04/03/2022

Do you know....

03/07/2022

Let’s strengthen ourselves first.

https://www.instagram.com/tv/Cax_ZNasuUJ/?utm_medium=copy_link

02/01/2022

Anger, guilt, grief, disconnection, and low self-esteem.

12/02/2020

“True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t have to regularly escape from....It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life - not escape from it. “

“Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.

It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.

It is often doing the ugliest thing that you have to do, like sweat through another workout or tell a toxic friend you don’t want to see them anymore or get a second job so you can have a savings account or figure out a way to accept yourself so that you’re not constantly exhausted from trying to be everything, all the time and then needing to take deliberate, mandated breaks from living to do basic things like drop some oil into a bath and read Marie Claire and turn your phone off for the day.

A world in which self-care has to be such a trendy topic is a world that is sick. Self-care should not be something we resort to because we are so absolutely exhausted that we need some reprieve from our own relentless internal pressure.

True self-care is not salt baths and chocolate cake, it is making the choice to build a life you don’t need to regularly escape from.

And that often takes doing the thing you least want to do.

It often means looking your failures and disappointments square in the eye and re-strategizing. It is not satiating your immediate desires. It is letting go. It is choosing new. It is disappointing some people. It is making sacrifices for others. It is living a way that other people won’t, so maybe you can live in a way that other people can’t.

It is letting yourself be normal. Regular. Unexceptional. It is sometimes having a dirty kitchen and deciding your ultimate goal in life isn’t going to be having abs and keeping up with your fake friends. It is deciding how much of your anxiety comes from not actualizing your latent potential, and how much comes from the way you were being trained to think before you even knew what was happening.

If you find yourself having to regularly indulge in consumer self-care, it’s because you are disconnected from actual self-care, which has very little to do with “treating yourself” and a whole lot do with parenting yourself and making choices for your long-term wellness.

It is no longer using your hectic and unreasonable life as justification for self-sabotage in the form of liquor and procrastination. It is learning how to stop trying to “fix yourself” and start trying to take care of yourself… and maybe finding that taking care lovingly attends to a lot of the problems you were trying to fix in the first place.

It means being the hero of your life, not the victim. It means rewiring what you have until your everyday life isn’t something you need therapy to recover from. It is no longer choosing a life that looks good over a life that feels good. It is giving the hell up on some goals so you can care about others. It is being honest even if that means you aren’t universally liked. It is meeting your own needs so you aren’t anxious and dependent on other people.

It is becoming the person you know you want and are meant to be. Someone who knows that salt baths and chocolate cake are ways to enjoy life – not escape from it.”
-Brianna Wiest
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